Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below how do i get over this? i have a girlfriend that i really care about that i dont cheat on and know she wouldnt cheat on me but sometimes i got to singles websites just to flirt because sometimes it feels like i havent been with many women and i need to at least talk to others that are attracted to me. well one girl whos very attractive who i been talkin to, who is 3 states away from me who i thought ill never meet, which is why i started emalin her has bought nonrefundable plane tickets to come see me this coming weekend...shes paying for everything including hotel room. i cant leave her if shes gonna come all this way and im so attracted to her i feel like 2 nights with a stranger who ill never see again wouldnt be a big deal. my girl thinks im goin away to my college to hang out for the weekend but i cant stop feeling guilty about this? what the hell do i do to stop feelin so freaked out about whats gonna happen this weekend?
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SlutFucker
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Just fuck her you pussy.
That's messed up... is she worth it?? Does she know you're married?? It's one thing to flirt around, but don't you think your wife comes first?? If she can't trust you, who can? What would you think if you found out your wife went to meet another guy from the internet, but thinks you're too stupid and gullible to find out? Just a few things to think about before you possibly make a HUGE mistake, also, do you have kids at all?? Hope you don't bring a case of crabs home to your wife, but if you do, you probably deserve for her to find out.
lavarat
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ok man here it is
I guarantee that shit WILL come out eventually if you cheat and ur gf will have to decide to leave you or stay with you.
would you be crushed if she broke up with you?
Remember that law: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You'll prob want to cheat again once you start... maybe not right away but a year from now...
or you can just fuck her and not give a shit
GOOD LUCK!
I guarantee that shit WILL come out eventually if you cheat and ur gf will have to decide to leave you or stay with you.
would you be crushed if she broke up with you?
Remember that law: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You'll prob want to cheat again once you start... maybe not right away but a year from now...
or you can just fuck her and not give a shit
GOOD LUCK!
mobro
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lavarat said:ok man here it is
I guarantee that shit WILL come out eventually if you cheat and ur gf will have to decide to leave you or stay with you.
would you be crushed if she broke up with you?
Remember that law: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You'll prob want to cheat again once you start... maybe not right away but a year from now...
or you can just fuck her and not give a shit
GOOD LUCK!
It might not come out but he will will always know it. I am not so sure about "once a cheater always a cheater". I think it is true until you learn a very hard, valuable lesson. I have. It's fun to play around man but the consiquences last a lot longer. And you are right, in my case anyway, that once you start you have no reason to not do it again. SO pay the girl back for the damn tickets or send your bud over there. Would be the best thing for ya!
txbondsman
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don't do it, lieing cheating dogs are a dime a dozen, that is male and female, if you have an understood monogamous relationship, keep it that way. How would you feel if she had a guy flying in to bang her?
If your ready to end the relationship with your GF, do it BEFORE you F around. That's the way a man would handle it. Boy's, different story....
If your ready to end the relationship with your GF, do it BEFORE you F around. That's the way a man would handle it. Boy's, different story....
Does anyone else think it is kinda wierd that this girl just went and bought a plane ticket without asking him first? I would be creeped out if someone did that to me.
Oh - and break up with your girlfriend. Something is lacking in the relationship if you feel the need to hang out on singles websites and think it could somehow be acceptable to hook up with this girl.
Have fun with the psycho.
Oh - and break up with your girlfriend. Something is lacking in the relationship if you feel the need to hang out on singles websites and think it could somehow be acceptable to hook up with this girl.
Have fun with the psycho.
dump your gf first if you think some skank from the internet is worth it. more than likely its a skank with a husband and 4 kids, and hes probably in iraq or something. dont tell me that "she said she wasnt married" crap, on here i have a 10" dick and 4% bodyfat. I seriously cant believe you would think about doing that!!! hope you catch the crabs!!!
txbondsman
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Stefka said:
ROFL!! ding, ding, ding.... we have the winner!
Don't be a fucking dickhead and fuck some chick when you have a GF. Let me say this, and it ALWAYS comes true.... PAYBACK IS A MOTHERFUCKER!! Ever heard of Karma!?
It may not be this GF, but it'll probably be the one who you think is "the one" for you. But that's the one who bangs your best friend, your brother, your sister, something like that and it just really tools your world....
Keep your dick in your pants. Get a hotel room, try different sexual things, buy her lingeree that is a bit kinky for her taste, whatever, do something different if you think you need to get some new pussy. Chances are, you haven't even scratched the surface of her sexuality. At 8 months, hell, that IS new pussy, shit...............
SlutFucker
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Wow, you are a gentleman.
you didnt ask her to buy the tickets, i wouldnt feel guilty. what do you want?? everyone to speak up and say "yeah fuck this girl no one will ever know and youll be a better man for doing it" or something?? most of this board has warned you, youre either gonna listen or not. no one is gonna tell you to betray your gf. i cant believe you would even think about it. if you do, hopefully youll catch crabs so your gf can move on to better things.
boxhdn said:
no...i never asked anyone to tell me that i was doin the right thing. i was askin those of you who HAVE cheated before how to reduce the feeling of guilt. ive been horny since i was 16 and have hardly been with any females. now im with one of those few and am in a serious relationship but cant help but feel the urge to wanna do something meaningless with someone she wont know about. i cant help the feeling. she is great and i dont wanna lose her but i feel like doin this will get the horniness for others out of my brain and focus more on her afterwards...maybe im wrong. im not experienced with relationships and i do not think im a good person. i want to make her the only one and i feel like if i do something meaningless with someone ill never see again ill feel like i got it out of my system and just wanna be with my girl. so in sum, i dont want anyone to tell me i should do it. im just asking those that have before how to deal with it. i dont wanna leave her but i really need to do this.
Cheating doesnt help. You'll fuck up the relationship. Not only that, but your guilt and the sneaking around will fuck up your "meaningless" flings.
Maybe you should break up with your girlfriend. If this is going to continue to be a problem maybe you should go and "get it out of your system." But there is no need to cheat.
So break up with her and go out and have sex with strangers. You'll either love it and be happy with your freedom or you'll realize that it isnt all that it is cracked up to be and you'll start to miss your girlfriend.
Maybe you'll get back together maybe you wont.
But this is your problem. Your confusion and lack of experience does not give you the right to treat her like shit.
This isnt your first post about wanting to break up with her. Maybe it really is something you need to do - part of the learning process.
Everyone goes through this. Some of us chose to be decent and some of us take the easy way out. Your choice.
Maybe you should break up with your girlfriend. If this is going to continue to be a problem maybe you should go and "get it out of your system." But there is no need to cheat.
So break up with her and go out and have sex with strangers. You'll either love it and be happy with your freedom or you'll realize that it isnt all that it is cracked up to be and you'll start to miss your girlfriend.
Maybe you'll get back together maybe you wont.
But this is your problem. Your confusion and lack of experience does not give you the right to treat her like shit.
This isnt your first post about wanting to break up with her. Maybe it really is something you need to do - part of the learning process.
Everyone goes through this. Some of us chose to be decent and some of us take the easy way out. Your choice.
Stefka said:
i agree. ive been with her for 9 months and have never done anything behind her back even though i could have many times. thing is i broke up with her before and right after i did it i was fine but by that night and the next few days i was so sick, couldnt sleep, wanted to kill myself until she texted me and said she missed me and i missed her to so i went back. i wasnt tryin to go through that again. its like a double edged sword. if i break up ill be sick and wont sleep for a week, wanna kill myself but if i do this ill end up betraying her even though she probably wont find out. in a way ill have betrayed myself. but so many guys have done this before...i cant believe i can find nobody on this board that wont admit to it.
markshark said:
Oh yeah, so other guys do it... its ok for you to do it too right?? You're self justifying it. Break up with her so she can find a better man. Bottom line is you just wanna cheat. She probably deserves a lot better than you anyway. When you do CHEAT (which im sure you will because youre going to put it in your mind that its ok) are you going to stop with this one?? NO!! You're not!!! You'll be like "well, it was ok that time so I'm gonna do it again". Just break up with her, hopefully she can make someone else happy. Later on you can find another gf or if you're really lucky she'll take you back. Have you EVER been cheated on??
kish
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you must have some conscience otherwise you would'nt of started this thread. so ,if you go through with it it will fucking haunt you later as long as your with your current chic. and it will. and you seem like the type that could fold and end up tellin her sooner or later. then she'al hack it off while you sleep.
I remember you... you had the gf who was with you since you were butt fucking ugly and has stuck with you through your transformation. I remember the thread about you wanting to break up with her because you were so fucking ugly and didnt used to be able to get laid, and now that you have a few girls looking at you differently you want to toss this one to the side. she deserves SO much better. youre a piece of work who deserves to have kids with a hooker. hope the worst for ya!!! may as well spit in your gf's face.
mobro
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You want advice from someone that has been there huh? OPEN YOUR EYES! We have been there, or may be I should just speak for myself here. I am dealing with the consequences of exaclty what you are thinking about doing! I had the same exact feeling to run out and do what my buds were doing. Stupidest thing that I have ever done. Might have lost the best thing that ever happened to me plus my house! Worse than that, I am dealing with myself and being humiliated over what I have done. What kind of example did I set to those that looked up to me? don't think anybody looks up to you huh? Look a little harder bud. You went back to her and felt the way you did because you love her dude. The other temptations are human nature. It is up to us how we deal with them. If you remove yourself from the internet sites the temptaions go too. TX bondsman has already told you the best advice about your relationship. Improve on what you have. She loves you too man. She will be more than willing, and probably really enjoy, changing things up. You just might be surprised what you find in there. You haven't even tried it. Neither did I. You would have no problem making the right decision if you were in my position or the position of most of the people that have already given you advice on here. They know what they are talking about because of those experiences. To bad we are usually to dumb unless we go through this ourselves. You know what is best, so do it. You will be happy with yourself most of all.
ponyfitness
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Frankly if you're going to feel guilty about it then you shouldn't bother cheating because the guilt will eat away at you until you confess, or you will make a screwup with your story and get caught. If you're going to cheat anyway, just make sure that there is no chance you will get caught. What she never knows won't hurt her. It will only hurt you but that's another thing.
Put together a good story about where you're going to be for that two days. Make sure at some point to call your girl and pretend like you're not banging some other skank in a hotel room. I'm assuming the other girl knows you have a girlfriend, if she doesn't then you might have problems. Don't let emotions rule you - if it's just sex, then treat it like that and leave without any emotional attachment. Then cut off all communication with the other girl and make sure she has no way of contacting you that your girlfriend might find. Then forget about it.
Put together a good story about where you're going to be for that two days. Make sure at some point to call your girl and pretend like you're not banging some other skank in a hotel room. I'm assuming the other girl knows you have a girlfriend, if she doesn't then you might have problems. Don't let emotions rule you - if it's just sex, then treat it like that and leave without any emotional attachment. Then cut off all communication with the other girl and make sure she has no way of contacting you that your girlfriend might find. Then forget about it.
I just dont think markshark will be able to make up a good story and pretend like he is going to not go bang some chick in a hotel room. He isnt experienced enough for cold heartless cheating. He will probably get physically ill from the guilt and end up telling the girlfriend everything.
This thread is some drama queen shit and its pointless. There's no ifs and buts, you either cheat or don't cheat. If you know its wrong, then don't do it. If you're gonna do it anyway, then be an ass an do it, just stop whining about it.
Sorry to rant on you, but you're a weak minded drama queen.
Sorry to rant on you, but you're a weak minded drama queen.
im calling it off. and i did lie before. when i first started dating this girl i was fucking someone else for a few months at the same time because the relationship was just dating. ive also dated and messed around with other girls behind her back before. its just that im more serious now so its worse.
ProtienFiend
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I agree with those that said to break up with her if you are considering this. If you don't do it now, you're going to want to do it later. Obviously your current girl isnt the one for you.
Be single and do your thing. I also like the "send your friend" idea though. Man, thats so sweet. Or you can just bring him with you... Less guilt?
Be single and do your thing. I also like the "send your friend" idea though. Man, thats so sweet. Or you can just bring him with you... Less guilt?
want me to be honest?? NONE while in a relationship. 2 one night stands when i was single. the rest were long term relationships which ive always been faithful. thats honesty. not all guys are pieces of crap. its the ones like you who ruin the reputation of all of us.markshark said:
you know what BOXHDN.. your one of the biggest cock blocks ive ever seen...quit wishing for somebody to catch an STI/STD.. not everyone elses fault that u cheated on your only girlfriend in your life and caught herpes...dont gotta spread ur bad luck around to everybody else man..makes me sick to think of what guys have come to now a days...so basically box..fuck off man..ur just discouraging him more, obviously if u have the urge to do it with this other girl markshark, your gonna do it. if you dont, then you wont. plain and simple, whatever the situation may be, if been around your corner once or twice in my life and ill admit to you, yeah it caused alot of problems b/w the relationship, no my gf never found out but its your OWN guilt that is the concern, and 2nd off, ive never been more fulfilled in my life then when i sneak around. i feel like a special ops man goin on a 10 year mission..everything planned out perfectly lol. either way, yes your gonna have an extremely fun night(well, if shes not 500lbs and nasty), and your not gonna regret doing it for your own well being..your regret will follow if you DONT do it..its 8 months man..u know how many people on this board that have told you not to cheat, have cheated themselves?the reason they say not to is because they got caught or had bad expeiriences with it..its all on how u make it to be. just wrap it up, dont get a disease, dont get her pregnant..its that simple. take it easy, and if i were u, id be fuckin this bitch in a hotel room right now haha..have fun man.
mobro
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Yeah I cheated. Sometimes I got caught sometimes I didn't. I got caught becasue of exactly what you guys are saying, self guilt. You can't run from it man. The reason you felt guilty was because you knew it was wrong. You wont ever change that. Your relationship with your girlfriend will only get better if you did call it off because you will have proved something to yourself. Hope you stick to your guns so that you can hold your head up. No body is PROUD of themselves for cheating unless their morals are screwed. If you break up with your girl later you will still be proud of yourself for doing what you know was right. Hope the best for you bud.
calimuscle
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Its not bad to look. Touching and more is a different story.
markshark said:
Breaking up with the GF = no guilt
You arent married, you dont have kids, you've only been together for a year.
There is just no reason to stay in the relationship if you know you are going to cheat.
Good for you - you can finally get girls - now learn how to treat them.
seaking420
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markshark, Im glad you went through with it, I think some peeps on here have thier SO reading there threads, so dont wont truly tell you what they think. I would have done the same thing. Craig145 is right you will regret if you DONT do it. I was in a similar situation as you and didnt do it.......and I still regret it. Who know's if your going to be with your gf forever, until that is said than fuck away, just be careful.
kish
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if you have a chic that rocks ya world ya wont be lookin elsewhere u cheating unfair fucks. a cheater has no guts and is afraid of possibby losing the lay/love thay already have, the one theyre not satisfied with. split up, like someone else said. be fair.
then again other pussy looks quite nice at times, I see that side too. but it's empty fuckin and unfair.
then again other pussy looks quite nice at times, I see that side too. but it's empty fuckin and unfair.
mobro
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kish said:
well put. If you had already made up your mind, then I apologize. You have a right to your own opinion and decisions. I think you will see for yourself that breaking up with your girlfriend would be the right thing to do , for her. If your not ready, your not ready bro. Peace.
seaking420
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The way I look at it is he's young, not sure if the girl he's with is the one, but it could be, so he dosent want to lose her but at the same time he hasnt been with many other women so if he stays with her and dosent/didnt F this other chick he will always be asking himself if he's missing out on something later on down the road if he does end up being with her for the long run. And that thought will be with him for a long time until one day he gets the opportunity to cheat and will, then it will be worse because his relationship is more serious than what it is now.
I do understand were some of you are coming from that cheaters are assholes or whatever, but in his situation I agree.
Like I said I was there/am there, havent been with many people, 2 to be exact and one is with the girl Im with now, and the other was a drunk high night 1 time that I hardly remember. The thought of being with someone else ALWAYS crosses my mind because I dont have that experience and wonder what it would be like. However the girl Im with now is great. Ive been with her for years, so now it would be much worse to cheat on her than what it would have been years ago, when I had the opportunity and didnt take advantage of it.
I do understand were some of you are coming from that cheaters are assholes or whatever, but in his situation I agree.
Like I said I was there/am there, havent been with many people, 2 to be exact and one is with the girl Im with now, and the other was a drunk high night 1 time that I hardly remember. The thought of being with someone else ALWAYS crosses my mind because I dont have that experience and wonder what it would be like. However the girl Im with now is great. Ive been with her for years, so now it would be much worse to cheat on her than what it would have been years ago, when I had the opportunity and didnt take advantage of it.
mobro
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why do people always think of what they don't have instead of what they DO have? I was just talking to a man from Iraq. He just asked me why we all get divorces when we get to pick who we marry? Good question. We all have it so good yet we think things are so bad. When was the last time you had to worry about being shot for riding down the road? We all need to open our eyes.
seaking420
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your comparing apples and oranges now. We have the freedom to do what makes US happy. Divorse is high in the states for many reasons. I do agree with you that alot of people think of what they dont have instead of what they do have, thats very true.
mobro
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seaking420 said:
I guess in some ways it is apples and oranges. But it is just people. It was weird for me to find out that these people see their relationshiops the way we do. Not sure what I thought it was like for those in the Middle East? Planned weddings, etc. they see women in a different way also. I guess, for me, I hope I am through looking at what I don't have and will try to look at things better. It has cost me dearly in the past. If we are on here, we have it pretty good compared to some people.
And yeah, IMO, you have lost your chance to be truly close to her. somebody spoke from experience there. Nobody could have told us that either in the past. live and learn
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