the guilt

[seaking420]

The way I look at it is he's young, not sure if the girl he's with is the one, but it could be, so he dosent want to lose her but at the same time he hasnt been with many other women so if he stays with her and dosent/didnt F this other chick he will always be asking himself if he's missing out on something later on down the road if he does end up being with her for the long run. And that thought will be with him for a long time until one day he gets the opportunity to cheat and will, then it will be worse because his relationship is more serious than what it is now.
I do understand were some of you are coming from that cheaters are assholes or whatever, but in his situation I agree.

Like I said I was there/am there, havent been with many people, 2 to be exact and one is with the girl Im with now, and the other was a drunk high night 1 time that I hardly remember. The thought of being with someone else ALWAYS crosses my mind because I dont have that experience and wonder what it would be like. However the girl Im with now is great. Ive been with her for years, so now it would be much worse to cheat on her than what it would have been years ago, when I had the opportunity and didnt take advantage of it.

 

[mobro]

why do people always think of what they don't have instead of what they DO have? I was just talking to a man from Iraq. He just asked me why we all get divorces when we get to pick who we marry? Good question. We all have it so good yet we think things are so bad. When was the last time you had to worry about being shot for riding down the road? We all need to open our eyes.

 

[seaking420]

why do people always think of what they don't have instead of what they DO have? I was just talking to a man from Iraq. He just asked me why we all get divorces when we get to pick who we marry? Good question. We all have it so good yet we think things are so bad. When was the last time you had to worry about being shot for riding down the road? We all need to open our eyes

your comparing apples and oranges now. We have the freedom to do what makes US happy. Divorse is high in the states for many reasons. I do agree with you that alot of people think of what they dont have instead of what they do have, thats very true.

 

[Style]

Well you just ruined your chance to be truely close with her.

 

[mobro]

your comparing apples and oranges now. We have the freedom to do what makes US happy. Divorse is high in the states for many reasons. I do agree with you that alot of people think of what they dont have instead of what they do have, thats very true.

I guess in some ways it is apples and oranges. But it is just people. It was weird for me to find out that these people see their relationshiops the way we do. Not sure what I thought it was like for those in the Middle East? Planned weddings, etc. they see women in a different way also. I guess, for me, I hope I am through looking at what I don't have and will try to look at things better. It has cost me dearly in the past. If we are on here, we have it pretty good compared to some people.

And yeah, IMO, you have lost your chance to be truly close to her. somebody spoke from experience there. Nobody could have told us that either in the past. live and learn