pissing me off

[spatts]

Jenny my parents are like yours. I used to get upset. In fact, I once told Ma that I don't give her a hard time about being fat, so she shouldn't give me a hard time about being healthy...lol. This board was a big part of me getting over that because I suddenly didn't feel like I needed to discuss my life with my family anymore. I have a rule at my house when the family comes over for dinner: no talking about religion, dieting/exercise, or politics. That pretty much keeps the peace for us.

 

[jenny27]

spatts...yeah i pretty much take what they say about that and just let it go. I mean c'mon , would they rather me be strong and healthy or 500 lb with heart complications? I think anyone who criticizes someone because of the way he or she eats or works out does so simply because he or she doesn't have the motivation and feels like shit about him or herself.

 

[spatts]

That's been my experience.

 

[aussiechik]

I can really relate to this subject. ive got a mother who goes to the gym a few times a week but eats stuff like two minute noodles, and a sister who is a real cardio fanatic and is stick thin. They both love to give me advice but cant grasp the concept that i have different goals to them. I dont want to be a waif..i want to be strong and healthy. Im thinking years ahead, to when im elderly and i want to be able to live a good stong long healthy life with a strong body. To me being stick thin can only mean big health problems in later years. But not many people, particularly family members seem to be able to understand that being strong and muscular is not un-feminine (is that a real word? lol)

 

[velvett]

You have to have a mild tunnel vision with those that continue to rain on your parade as it were - and know that what you are doing for yourself is right for you.

If family, friends or co-workers continue to get on your case - place them on a deaf ear and ignore their comments or walk away if you need to.

 

[Sassy69]

Ah yes the mom factor. I just try to not say anything. My parents eat pretty healthy and all, but they think I'm anal about my eating. But gee, I wpnder my paranoia / obsession w/ food started about 30 yrs ago?? My dad still gets in my bizness about whether or not i'm gonna eat this or that and then keeps friggen asking about it. Like "no" isn't good enough. No wonder I have such a complex about eating & I absolutely dread going to visit them because the same shit starts up like I was 16 again.

O well. Do what ya gotta do & don't live too close to the 'rents.

 

[wilson6]

Tell the that unlike the rest of the aging female population out there, you'd prefer to avoid osteoporosis, heart disease, obesity and Type II diabetes.

W6

 

[makedah]

Once, when I was in high school, I pointed to a pic of a buff woman in a magazine. I said that's what I wanted to look like. My mother looked at the pic and asked me, calmly: "So, what do you think about lesbianism?"

At New Years', I made it a point to make EVERYONE in the house feel my muscles - brother in law, everybody! I'm not nearly as buff as you ladies, and there's a lot of goo before you hit muscle, but it was in there. My mother asked, with shock: "How did you get your arm so hard like that?"

When a 20" TV had to be moved from one room to another, she got so upset that I carried it myself instead of letting her help me. (TVs are so unweildy, it would be HARDER for 2 people to carry.) She actually said it hurt her feelings that I was carrying that tv. She was really scared that I would hurt myself. Poor mommy!

 

[makedah]

I'd throw in a tater too, and then an hour later, I'd act like I hadn't eaten in like a century.

 

[Sassy69]

Its really interesting how people are so freaked out by "differences" -- I mean its like not that big a deal to go out clubbing and see people completely fucked up on some recreational drug or puking out in the parking lot. Its accepted. For a while even "heroin chic" (junky skinny) was "in". And people accepted it. But if you decline to junk on pizza & beer with your friends, they all think you are nuts. If I pass on the baked potatoe, my dad won't leave it alone. WTF??

Its sort of annoying, but in the same way that people will turn it around on you that you must be some sort of freak to have a couple inches of muscle and eat on a different schedule. Is it that we are so "strange" or is it that they are so insecure about their own bodies???

Weird.