I had a prince albert and a frenum done at the same time, pain wasn't too bad, but I waited 6 weeks for them to heal, hurt all the time when I moved, could not have sex and finally had them removed. I am like you, married, professional, and very clean cut, I just did it for my wife, she liked the look but never got to enjoy it. I actually had a guy do it, it was very professional and no worries. I just had a bad experience others have been just fine, but still have a hole 2 years later and 2 pee streams!!!!