I want another man's wife

[Dial_tone]

I've never met a truly happily married man who seriously entertained the idea of an affair. I saw no indication in his post he is a serial cheater or even has a history of cheating. That means there is SOMETHING wrong in the marriage, this woman sparks something he is missing, even if it's the excitement of something new.

I agree. he comes across as pretty sincere and I think y'all are being harsh. Weigh the pros and cons then the right choice will be clear. It's okay to lust in your heart....just leave it there.

 

[djgaler]

If she continues to work for you, you don't have a chance. Your feelings are set in shone especially if you too have been working together for ten years. I think if you talk to her and u both have the same situation with family then she must find a new job. Don't fire her, just tell her you think its best if you too don't see each other anymore. Let her set the time table to find another job. I think thats your best bet man, because you can't be putting youself into those situations anymore.
Good luck bro

 

[Snarf]

tbuz67 - thanks for the great feedback. I appreciate the time you put into that post and you had some good points. I think those ideas can really get me going in the right direction.

To be honest it is hard to come to terms with letting go. Right now, I haven't cheated on my wife and I am having fun, but I realize this is a dangerous path that probably can't be sustained.

I'm really not worried about this girl's actions as I end this relationship. She would never cause a problem for me or my family but I am sure she will be hurt.

Thanks to everyone else for telling my I'm being a dickhead when I really needed to hear that (no sarcasm, I did need to hear that).

I'll try to post an update down the road if anyone cares.

 

[Dirk Howat]

When did you get married?
It is best for a man to get married after 30 or even later.
First establish your professional life.
Date, bang, MANY, MANY, women.
The more women you are with, the better you will find your fit and therefore,

highly less likely you will ever cheat, want another women, in the future.

IMO, you should have never married this women in the first place. You should have waited. Personally, if you really liked your current wife, I would see if she would be into living with your family and have two wifes. From your persepective:

Why not?

You would have two women who you love and the sex would be much better in the three way.

 

[Snarf]

Personally, if you really liked your current wife, I would see if she would be into living with your family and have two wifes. From your persepective:

Why not?

You would have two women who you love and the sex would be much better in the three way.

Yeah, I can just seeing pitching this idea to my wife. lol.

And I got married this time at 32 (this is my second wife). I'm really trying not to have a 3rd wife.

 

[Dirk Howat]

Yeah, I can just seeing pitching this idea to my wife. lol.

And I got married this time at 32 (this is my second wife). I'm really trying not to have a 3rd wife.

Do what is ever best for you. Which women is the best for you. What is important to you, her looks, her personality/compatibility, sex, money, etc.......

Decide which one you want.
What is your ideal lifestyle?

I would pitch it to her, if I choose the newbie girl over your wife. If she says no, then go for the newbie.