Going through a huge seperation...Man this sucks

[Silent Method]

...Statements like the ones I made are something mosty people recognize as exagerration in support of an arguement.

...I'm also secure enough to laugh off your belief that you can gain ANY insight into me as a person based on my posts on this board.

...you could get a feel for my thoughts on numerous subjects, including women, but if you think for a second that these posts provide any real psychological insight you are the one who needs to get your head checked

Any and all statments that a given person makes to support a position, written or otherwise, whether exagerations or not, are indicitive of that persons psyche. I will agree that I am no more certified to evaluate anyone's psyche, through any media, than Micky Mouse.

...I was overemphasizing a very real distrust of the opposite sex in making my point, that being that men are illogically far more selective of best friend than they are of female partners and since the female partner is prevy to an even more exposed emotional side of you, there is a definite recipe for disaster.

Though I partialy agree with your point, you have added one qualifier that invalidates the logic. If your point is "that <many> men are illogically far more selective of best friend than they are of female partners" and that the inherent danger is exacerbated by the fact that we also become more vulnerable to female partners, I agree. Given this, however, it is far more logical to project a distrust on oneself than to apply an irrational, unilateral distrust to women.

 

[hard as rocks]

i know what you going through.was with the same woman for 6 years, and we were also engaged.i started having doubts after living together for 2 years.we mutually decided to break up and at the time it seemed right.
it didnt hit me till like three months later what had happned.i was so misarable i started to see a therapist.it is def the hardest thing to go through.nothing but time will heal your wounds and close family and friends to get you through.
it will be a tough road but one day yoll wake up and say fuck her.you will prob always love her and comapre every woman for awhile too your ex.
just give it time and if you need to talk please feel free to email me or leave you im and i will get back too you.
the two worst things that could of happened is that and my recent car accident.im still going through recovery from that because some 18 year old kid decided to blow a stop sign.
good luck

 

[Gambler]

Bro.

Been there myself. Thought that I was going to die.

Now getting ready to celebrate my 6th wedding anniversary with a woman that has made me happier than the first one ever did.

The passage of time is the only true antidote for the pain. Hang in there, things can and will get better.

 

[wilst05]

Sorry to hear that bro. I am going through that right now and when you say it is hard damn it is. I have been with my girl for 7yr and marriage for 3yr. It is even harder when you have a child involved. I have been trying to work it out, but she changes her mind every week. We have started the divorce process and it sucks. I have to pay $526 in childs support. I guess it really hard because you can't see someone else raise your kid. It suck.

 

[liftsiron]

Its tough luck bro, take my advice, I've been in the same boat as you a half dozen times. All one can do is put the woman out of your mind and hunt down another. Women for the most part have no regard for the emotions of anyone other than theirselves.
You don't realize it now, but in time you will see how much better off you are without this girl who is already screwing another guy. I've always found that getting laid, is the very best remedy for a break up. What ever you do don't let yourself get to depressed. Best of luck to you man.

 

[QuadDamage]

good advice

Its tough luck bro, take my advice, I've been in the same boat as you a half dozen times. All one can do is put the woman out of your mind and hunt down another. Women for the most part have no regard for the emotions of anyone other than theirselves.
You don't realize it now, but in time you will see how much better off you are without this girl who is already screwing another guy. I've always found that getting laid, is the very best remedy for a break up. What ever you do don't let yourself get to depressed. Best of luck to you man.

Been there too. More times than I like to think about, the advice given by liftsiron is right on.

1) Put her out of your mind and "you do not care anymore" you are nonchalant about her in every way starting today.

2)Don't ever call her again, if she wants to talk she can call you, you'll just slide back into whining if you do.

3)If you just HAVE to drive by her house every 5 minutes (LOL) do it in someone elses car.

4)Dont whine to her friends.

5)Most importantly GET A NEW BEAUTIFUL WOMAN TO OCCUPY YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR BED. RIGHT AWAY. THIS IS THE QUICKEST CURE I HAVE FOUND. MAN IT REALLY WORKS JUST TRY IT.

Best of luck, and he's right about the IRON, it will always be there for you.

 

[muscleup]

Guys, I thank you so much for your words of wisdom and advice it really does mean a lot...Much respect for you all
Thank You