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Going through a huge seperation...Man this sucks

man I dont think theres anything else that can destroy a man more than a woman. I have unfortinately had to endure that also so I know the pain that you are dealing with right now. Try to focus on your future my friend and not on the past. As hard as it is, try to understand that there is a woman out there that is truly for you and that this woman that has left you is not the one for you. I know this is damn near impossible but you must try because it is the truth. In the mean time I will indeed really pray for you. All the best.
 
I feal your pain bro. My girl and I broke up last monday, 5 year down the drain. I've been on the drunk since last wednesday, Go to the club and find a new one, a better one. Hust try to have fun. That bioch made me sell my sport car, :mad: :mad: for a family car.

I'll pray for you bro
 
You are a very good bro and I wish you well. I know its hard and there is not much I can say to comfort you, but hang in there bro. You know if you need someone to talk to you can always hit me up bro. Good luck!
 
Silent,

Thats just the typical response I'd expect from someone who looks at things from a typical, yet in my opinion irrational world viewed based on societal norms rather than logic. I say don't trust a woman, they will hurt you and the best interpretation you can develop is the typical "Oprah response" that it s my insecurity. You can attribute my statements to insecurity, but you have no evidence, since you have no knowledge of my personal life, that this is the case. However, I can support my assertions with what I see as reasonable logic.

I ask you bros, why is it that we tend to develop our closest friend ships very slowly and keep such relationships to a precious few. You know who your real bros are and they got to be your real bros b/c they've proven themselves time and time again. You've been there for them and they've been there for you. I ask why though we spend years developing these close bonds and are very unlikely to develop new bonds like this one b/c we know they are unique and hard to comeby YET we will give our heart over to some woman we barely know just b/c we've dated them for a few months and think we're in love. Silent Method, you can say what ever you want bro, but this isn't a irrational form of insecurity, its a fact. We spend years developing our network of close friends and family who we allow a degree of emotional access and allow a degree of vunerability, but when it comes to women we give them the keys to this kingdom without nearly the same degree of screening and caution. It a huge mistake guys make and we pay dearly for it b/c just like most guys aren't gonna be your best bro, most women aren't miss right, but since we don't have the same safety nets in place for the broads we end up at a great emotional risk and many times pay dearly. This isn't some manifestation of insecurity, its a very real problem and for my money, the solution is to not allow the women to get close enough to do the damage.

Silent Method, I am not a guy who minds people expressing views different and even contradictory to mine. I don't enjoy flaming people, or being flamed myself, but I get extremely bothered when I feel another board member does a poor job of processing the issues and ideas I've expressed and instead makes a mindless attempt to appear witty at my expense. Calling me insecure based on a few statements I made professing a distrust of women is your right bro, but what really bothers me is you ignored the actual point I was making about the vulnerable position we as men allow ourselves to be put in. I was trying to discuss a legitimate issue and problem facing men, but the best you could do is muster a half assed response to the most irrelavant part of my post, followed by made for tv advice on how to get over a break up. Next time, save your energy and skip the unnecessary jabs directed at members you don't know and who are simply adding to the discussion. I don't come on here to make smart ass comments about other bros, I come on here to offer advice on gear and receive some from time to time. I may not have too many posts under this handle, but I've been on these boards for a years and I've been in the whole game for a while. I come here for legitimate debate, learning and teaching, and I'm gonna do that that. I don't give a damn if all you can get out of my post is I'm insecure. Out.
 
Aathegame, you've got issues with relationships and women that are your own. My knowledge of this comes from your own typed words, the first post and this second post. Your insecurity is blatant and real, stemming from your own perception of the world.

Want a challenging opinion? Print out both of your posts in this thread and run them by any qualified psychologist - see what he or she has to say. Better yet bro, lie down on a couch for a few sessions a good shrink might guide you to a self-realization on the issue.

Look bro, my reply to your first post, and this reply as well, are not meant to slam or insult you. They are just my raw intuition leaking out of my fingertips. I make blatant replies to what I find to be obvious observable ideas. If you were to come to my house this very moment, you'd find me very welcoming and open minded.

BTW, my observations on this issue in no way exclude me from the realm of insecurity and other neurosis.

Bro, we can agree to disagree, but I encourage you to do some serious self- assessment on this issue. Look deep. If your heart comes out clean, so be it.
 
Muscleup...

From my experience:

1. never just think about it - you may go crazy - it will scare her and will do not any good for yourself

2. do something, get a hobby, get involved in doing something all the time (work)

3. if you are serious about getting her back - go to these sites and study it all:
http://www.fastseduction.com/ http://www.pickupguide.com/ - this is NLP (neurolinguistic programming), used by politicians, doctors, hypnologists and everyone who need to control people behavior. (it is not really about seduction).

David.
 
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Silent,

I'm not looking to flame either bro. The fact is, you are attempting a pscyhological evaluation based on a personal rant in which I was overemphasizing a very real distrust of the opposite sex in making my point, that being that men are illogically far more selective of best friend than they are of female partners and since the female partner is prevy to an even more exposed emotional side of you, there is a definite recipe for disaster. I'm not going to do something as ludicrious as debate my insecurites with you via a discussion board. I definitely take exception to your belief that a post I make in debating the issue of relationships gives you any real insight into my reality. The suggestion that I run my posts by a psychologist is laughable. I'm not familiar with you medical background or training, but your suggestion that I lie down on a couch for self realization sounds like someone is paraphrasing their 2nd year intro to psych text. I have several psychologists in my immediate family and any could tell you that insecurities are most commonly expressed incidentally and rarely would manifest in bold over the top statements of mistrust. Statements like the ones I made are something mosty people recognize as exagerration in support of an arguement. You are as you said a master of the obvoius, but the problems is that this represents exactly what I said, a distrust of women. The fact is that I am secure enough to admit to myself and on this board that men are extremely vulnerable b/c they allow women into their hearts without really taking the time to really evaluate them as people. Not that it matters, but I happen to have a good job, family, and friends. I'm quite secure in just about every aspect of my life. Secure enough to admit that my concerns regarding opening up emotionally to a woman which I feel is too risky, particularly when you look at the national divorce rate. I'm also secure enough to laugh off your belief that you can gain ANY insight into me as a person based on my posts on this board. You could determine what I know about lifting and juicing, you could get a feel for my sense of humor and you could get a feel for my thoughts on numerous subjects, including women, but if you think for a second that these posts provide any real psychological insight you are the one who needs to get your head checked. Don't you think its a little outrageous for you to be advising me to seek deep reflection. Get over yourself Silent. There really no place for attempts at philisophical guidance on something as impersonal as a discussion board. How would my heart come out clean? Clean from what? This whole discussion has gotten old anyway, bro as I'm sure it has for you. I can tell you're a decent guy as we've disagreed, but kept things above the belt. I'm just done on this subject. If I have any insecurity, it would be over being misunderstood. The board is frustratin b/c I post rater colorfully and I realize that this is all bros have to go on, but everyone needs to remember that this is not reality. The debates are real and so is the valuable information, but my point is that its hard to really know someone when you are with them every day in the real world, so I won't accept anyone thinking they can know or label me based on a few posts. Nothing but love bros. Out.
 
Been there done that. I feel for you. Whatever happens, it may not seem like it now but you will become stronger as a result.
 
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