You sound like you have the same problem I have. As far as being in shape, eating healthy, and exercising I do a great job. But when I look at some of these ladies that compete I sudenly think my butt is saggy and my fat % is too high. The reality is many of these girls take it to then next level because they compete. Their diets and workouts are extreme. I have tried to get to that level but it is very hard. If I ever want to look "competition good" I am going to have to enter a competition to motivate myself. With all that said, I have come to realize that I am in shape and that I do look good.
The bottom line is you look great and your diet and workout are solid with maybe a little tweeking here and there. Just keep up the hard work and be patient.
Rebecca D