First time fucking- questions

[Robert Jan]

So after already regularly having both way oral sex for some months and both having become pretty good at pleasing each other and getting each other off using the mouth and hands, me and my gf first actually fucked the other night and again the other day.

We didn't do this at first because she wasn't on birth control yet.

Anyway while I had no crazy expectations in my eyes it was quite the letdown.

While I can keep very hard and good length and girth for longer periods of time on end when receiving blow- and handjobs, fucking seemed to turn my dick into a sloppy mess, almost unsuitable for proper thrusting.

Furthermore I orgasmed quite quickly and the orgasm lacked sensation to such a degree that It was only actual ejaculation that notified me I had nutted. I was tempted to pull out, grab my cock and smack it and taunt it for giving me this crap.

I also noticed that, unless your girl is 4 inches taller than you are, doggie style is almost mechanically impossible. How do you people do that?

I had her on top of me while lying on the bed first and she moved well, she gave me a good ride. It felt good but it also felt as if the pressure was pushing blood out of my penis and I was disappointed in the depth of the penetration.

Then I sat down on a chair and had her mount me while facing me. This was better but the beforementioned problems were unchanged. We almost had a consecutive orgasm but then she moved a bit too loosely and my penis went out of her vagina. Very frustrating.

Really the only really cool thing about this was how it stimulated us both at the same time. Other than that it was worthless compared to good oral.

We didn't use lube, or a condom which would have lube, but it got so wet it was dripping all the same so I don't think this was the problem.

I also had a problem with pube-burn since I had completely shaven my genital area and she had only trimmed above her vagina and so it rubbed quite hard and was all red and painful afterwards.

Can you give me an informed post without macho bragging but with valuable information of what I should know here? Is this how it is going to be?
Would lube help?

telling by this experience so far, fucking is lame compared to oral and handwork.

 

[SoKlueles]

It will get better

 

[Robert Jan]

What's gonna change then?

and what can I do to improve?

I'm hardly potency challenged I sport boners whether I want to or not all the time when I'm just around my gf.

 

[Gambino]

Damn Jan, that was a pretty meticulos discription of getting laid, lol...it will certainly get better, you will get more in tune with your bodies and your gal's likes. Oral is only a prelude to sex, which feels much better in my opinion...

 

[Robert Jan]

Damn Jan, that was a pretty meticulos discription of getting laid, lol...it will certainly get better, you will get more in tune with your bodies and your gal's likes. Oral is only a prelude to sex, which feels much better in my opinion...

I was meticulous because I hope to get some kind of advice here. I really don't care for you all knowing exactly how I got laid.

Many will disagree with you on oral vs fucking. I guess it depends on many things.

Anyway it better get better, because modern society has given me a sense of entitlement to unlimited mind blowing sex without consequences and I WILL think of somebody I can sue if I don't get it.

 

[RaZor Ramon]

I don't understand how anyone could have oral sex repeatedly without fucking.

 

[Robert Jan]

As I said, she was not on birth control yet.

Why would you not have oral without fucking? It's real good

she's a talent.

Never really missed it before. Now I want to learn.
So give me some goddamn advice instead of asking silly questions

 

[R33t]

Just relax, release your muscles, and enjoy the experience. Try not to take anything too seriously, because sex is suppose to be fun. Sometimes people get overly excited and a little nervous to a point where they don't enjoy their sex the way they should. Start off slow, have a little fun with different positions, and go from there. Some positions tend to be more sensitive for a man than others. From my experience having the girl on top is much easier, and I can last an extremely long period of time. On the other hand, if i'm on top going at it, thrusting in and out, then I have to control myself and develop endurance based on the mood and how fast we're going.

All I can say is, like oral, just fuck around and practice. Heck, even laugh about stuff if you're comfortable with each other. You'll definitely get a feel for her body, your body, and how sensitive you are to different positions. Eventually you'll be both be in control, you won't be asking who's doing what, if they're doing it right, and asking how they like it, or even getting told what to do. There's nothing like reaching climax at the same time.

Anyhow, good luck. Go have some fun and don't worry about the setbacks!

R33t

 

[Robert Jan]

I'm not emberassed or worried or whatnot really, after all we're not new to one anothers bodies.

I guess there's no real golden advice here and we'll learn automatically and that's that and maybe it'll just never be as good as hoped.

Anyway do you all get that thing that your penis is softer when fucking than it is when getting head?

 

[SoKlueles]

Dont be worried RJ ill be gentle on ya

 

[Robert Jan]

I'm not sure if I'd ever be able to have sex with a woman who has expressed an affinity for a man in a cowboy hat

 

[SoKlueles]

well then babysit mykids so i can go out

 

[RaZor Ramon]

As I said, she was not on birth control yet.

Why would you not have oral without fucking? It's real good

she's a talent.

Never really missed it before. Now I want to learn.
So give me some goddamn advice instead of asking silly questions

I love good oral but sometimes you just wanna fuck or at least I do and a ew months is a long time to wait for that.

 

[Robert Jan]

Yeah well it was about time now yes. I guess if we waited longer we would have had a hard time waiting

 

[Pamela]

You describe love making as a mechanical maneuver.

 

[Robert Jan]

that's because any problem here was mechanical not emotional we are real good together

 

[Pamela]

that's because any problem here was mechanical not emotional we are real good together

You've got to feel it in your body. Every touch, every feel and every kiss
you've got to make special and you should feel the electricity!


How did your girl feel?

 

[rnch]

first off, congrats on waiting until ya'll both had birth control and were both mentally ready for it.

it sounds like you are both too anxious and up tight about this, dude. no offense meant......more than one couple has been this way.

TRY to relax, both of you! some alcohol might help......

like almost everything in life, it gets better and easier the more you repeat it.

 

[Robert Jan]

You've got to feel it in your body. Every touch, every feel and every kiss
you've got to make special and you should feel the electricity!


How did your girl feel?

Well we were all cool and open about it and she enjoyed it but not as much as she expected to which was exactly how I felt. She sayd she liked the part on the chair best and I agreed and she mentioned what I noticed too that my penis was softer when having intercourse than otherwise. I said it would probably get better as we go along and maybe we should try lube and she agreed.

She seemed worried I might have a bruised ego but I don't

 

[Robert Jan]

first off, congrats on waiting until ya'll both had birth control and were both mentally ready for it.

it sounds like you are both too anxious and up tight about this, dude. no offense meant......more than one couple has been this way.

TRY to relax, both of you! some alcohol might help......

like almost everything in life, it gets better and easier the more you repeat it.

Yeah I know while I'm generally a very rational and down-to-earth dude there was definately some pressure here. Not that bad though.

Alcohol sounds good. We both like wine and stuff. but isn't that supposed to actually make sex less good

 

[Robert Jan]

first off, congrats on waiting until ya'll both had birth control and were both mentally ready for it.

it sounds like you are both too anxious and up tight about this, dude. no offense meant......more than one couple has been this way.

TRY to relax, both of you! some alcohol might help......

like almost everything in life, it gets better and easier the more you repeat it.

The waitings hardly a noble thing it's more that I'm very scared to get her pregnant. My life would be officially over I tell you. She didn't want to risk it either.

 

[rnch]

i have yet to find any between the sheets partner as talented as my left hand.........but i keep on trying!!!

 

[Robert Jan]

So is there any correlation between that and this thread

 

[rnch]

robert, my man..........judging my what you have posted on this thread and your avitar.....you think too much!!!!

when you are naked in bed with somone; it's not a race with a mental check list of what to do or get done or feel.....it's supposed to be FUN!!!!!!!

what happens.......happens! what doesn't........doesn't!

no 2 people are alike, what works for me or you or her might not work for the next person! part of the fun of having sex is exploring each other and seeing what does (or does not) turn ya'll on.

relax, get a lil' drunk, smile, loosen up and BE HAPPY!!!!!!!! HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Juice Authority]

Here's what you do my friend.

Go with missionary for now. That's where you're laying on top of her. If she's flexible you might want to have her put her legs on you shoulders. The pussy is more exposed that way. Have her insert your penis in her vagina. That way she can control the rate of penetration. Start moving it in and out slowly. Suck on her tits. Then ask her to start caressing your nutsack. Once your sack gets hard increase the rate of penetration. Things should start feeling pretty good at this point. Then, when you feel yourself ready to cum have her stick her finger in your ass. Right when you're about to cum have her slowly take it out. That should give you one hell of an orgasm.

 

[Robert Jan]

She's real flexible she's a gymnast

 

[liftshard]

telling by this experience so far, fucking is lame compared to oral and handwork.

Get on top of her, that way you control everything. You can change your own angle. I don't like it either when bitches sit on me and squirm around and rotate that shit and try to snap my cock in half. I would rather do the work myself, at least then I'm guaranteed that it'll be done right.

 

[onebigab]

Here's what you do my friend.

Go with missionary for now. That's where you're laying on top of her. If she's flexible you might want to have her put her legs on you shoulders. The pussy is more exposed that way. Have her insert your penis in her vagina. That way she can control the rate of penetration. Start moving it in and out slowly. Suck on her tits. Then ask her to start caressing your nutsack. Once your sack gets hard increase the rate of penetration. Things should start feeling pretty good at this point. Then, when you feel yourself ready to cum have her stick her finger in your ass. Right when you're about to cum have her slowly take it out. That should give you one hell of an orgasm.

Would this mean that your gay?

 

[Buddy_Christ]

definetly relax. you'll learn each other over time.

i definetly vote for missionary position to get used to things. jumping from position to position the first time isn't going to teach either of you too much about the other.

if she wants to be on top, let her, but if she's moving in a way you don't like, grab her ass tightly and slow her down or stop her, guide her how you like it.

this is probably the best advice i've ever heard when it comes to sex - granted, you have a penis, she has a vagina, 2 drastically different body parts. however, they're meant to interact with each other. if you're thrusting into her and it feels good to you, chances are it feels just as good for her, and vice versa if it doesn't feel good. i've used this way of thinking many times when with a girl i wasn't "in tune" with. get in, do what feels good for me, and watch her signals. there's been times that i've been plugging away thinking "yeah, this feels good" while in the meantime, she's wriggling around, eyes rolled back in her head, and fingernails dug into my back cause she's going wild.

patience and take it one step at a time. i doubt you were master pussy licker on day 1, and even if it was good for her, i'm sure you've gotten better on her and know what really gets her going. same with sex.