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Zander1983
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Basing a r/ship on friendship has worked for my girlfriend and I.
She was in your situation and did something about it
She was in your situation and did something about it
Thaibox
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Of course a good friendship is an ideal place to start a relationship. But, what if the girl doesn't have those types of feelings. The friendship could easily be ruined.
Also, just because you're good friends with a girl doesn't mean you'd make a good couple, and after the relationship crashes, the friendship goes with it.
This would be a good time to have a friend ask her about her feelings. A good tactical strategy is to have other people do some recon before the attack is initiated
Also, just because you're good friends with a girl doesn't mean you'd make a good couple, and after the relationship crashes, the friendship goes with it.
This would be a good time to have a friend ask her about her feelings. A good tactical strategy is to have other people do some recon before the attack is initiated
overhead
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I use to have major problems with this type of thing, but over time I have learned to compartmentalize (spelling) my problems. Some might say this is unhealthy, but it is what works for me. Work stays at work, home stays at home. I take a couple of minutes before each activity to try and release what is bothering me and focus on the next task. Yeah, I know it is easy to say but hard to do and it does not always work. The gym is my escape, I know that i can focus, or have to focus on lifting the weight, feeling the muscle burn etc.
As far as the girl goes, in my experience saying whats on your mind sometimes does not work as well as just showing it. But, I am not expert, just ask my girlfriend
As far as the girl goes, in my experience saying whats on your mind sometimes does not work as well as just showing it. But, I am not expert, just ask my girlfriend
hellboy
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If you're really into this girl then you should probably let her know. Otherwise this is just gonna keep nagging at your brain/heart and each time you're with her it's going to be harder for you. If you tell her and she doesn't feel the same way then you can always kill her... oops... I mean - at least you won't have to keep wondering and you can spend your energy in a more profitable persuit.
I was kidding about the killing part. ;-)
I was kidding about the killing part. ;-)
st8k_lover
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Oak, think about this. You have feelings for her, she has feelings for you but both are afraid to make the first move. Now a week down the road she meets somebody and they start to date. You will be kicking yourself that you let your feelings go unspoken. I know it is hard to make that first move when it is someone that you really care for. Bite the bullet and tell her how you feel or you may truely be sorry for waiting. see if this touching and closeness caries over to an area other than the bar or drinking as that will take alcohol out of the equation. Maybe a nice dinner or movie. Damn I am sounding like freakin dear Abby
Im out!
P.S from the way you describe it, she might have feelings for you. You should be excited and curious to what might happen not depressed, wait and see if she says NO before you get depressed
Im out!
P.S from the way you describe it, she might have feelings for you. You should be excited and curious to what might happen not depressed, wait and see if she says NO before you get depressed
c3bodybuilding
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I used to be very depressed, but I found that weight lifting actually helped me get better. It gave me a new found confidence, and I felt like I was accomplishing something all on my own. Every time I hit a new pr, I would get a good feeling inside.
I would say keep training, for it may just be that tiny bit of salvation that brings you out of this. If you ever need to talk PM me. We are all brothers and sisters here, and even if the depression is something big or small, it's nice to have someone to talk about it.
Good luck with this situation. I went through something similiar once with a girl, so I understand the feelings you may be feeling right now. Now go hit the gym, and attack the weights ;p
I would say keep training, for it may just be that tiny bit of salvation that brings you out of this. If you ever need to talk PM me. We are all brothers and sisters here, and even if the depression is something big or small, it's nice to have someone to talk about it.
Good luck with this situation. I went through something similiar once with a girl, so I understand the feelings you may be feeling right now. Now go hit the gym, and attack the weights ;p
hellboy
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I agree with c3bb on this. Whatever you decide to do you should NOT stop hitting the weights. Even if you're just goin through the motions and not putting the intensity into it that you usually do you CANT stop.
You can't keep it from messing with your head - but you don't have to let it mess with your body.
Tell her.
You can't keep it from messing with your head - but you don't have to let it mess with your body.
Tell her.
