I'm no lady, but here is what ill say:
-When it comes to dieting and lossing fat, weight training isn't a big key. Keep your exercises basic and compound. My weight training doesn't change much from dieting to bulking, only difference is I don't expect to be adding weight to the bar while dieting.
When dieting my schedule is like this.
Day 1 Chest, Calves (AM Cardio)
Day 2 Quads, Hams
Day 3 Rest
Day 4 Shoulders, Traps (AM Cardio)
Day 5 Bis, Tris (AM Cardio)
Day 6 Rest
Dunno if that helped at all, but I tried.
-Diet is what will determine how well your diet goes. (I know you've heard this 1000 times, but its 100% true. IMO, diet = 80% of results).
-You can hit the weights anytime from 3-5 times per week, but it really depends on your training split and what level your at.
-Also, I would do cardio 3-4 times per week, leg day being the only off day from cardio.