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[Raina]

Last night we went out wioth my little sister and her bf. She told me that he's planning to ask my dad about marrying her at my wedding on Friday. I think that's kind of inappropriate because 1) it's my day and 2) my dad has been really involved with the wedding planning and has paid a fortune and I know he really wants to enjoy the night.

My parents like her bf but they're only 23 and 22. She's never lived on her own. She's never once paid a bill. She bounces checks all the time and has no real life-experience. I know that they're going to be against the idea of her marrying her first serious bf who she's had a rocky relationship with for the last 18 months. I lived on my own and took care of myself for 4 years before getting engaged.

Am I wrong for feeling like that's not an appropriate time to have the discussion? They appear to think my parents will be fine with it but I know that is going to be a stressful situation for them.

 

[velvett]

OMG

Your Wedding is this Friday?!
BIG HUGS!





YES, it is most inappropriate to ask on your wedding day.

I would go as far saying that they are choosing that day because they figure your dad will be in a high because of your wedding and they'd think they'd more likely get a positive response.

You could ask them not to and if they are hostile about that you could always mention it your parents, "gee you know sis and beau are thinking about getting married and asking you on Friday".

 

[Raina]

Yes! This Friday...as in just a handful more days to go! I'm glad to know that I'm not insane for feeling this way. I don't want to be some sort of bridezilla!

My dad LOVES parties and hosting events. He is very very excited about this whole deal and how it will come together. I want him to have a wonderful night. The only other thing I'm stressed about is weather. I hope it's beautiful out and everything can be outside as planned. Eithre way there will be tons of pictures and I'll post a bunch of them.

That's really our day though and I don't want to share it with my sister. I don't think that's too selfish though as I've worked my butt for for 6+ months planning this. I might drop a hint about it to my mom who can then talk to her about it.

I'm looking forward to how much less stress I'll feel by Friday night! It should be a great time (I bought 1500 worth of wine and champagne yesterday). Then we can focus on the honeymoon in December. I can't wait to run away from our real lives for a week!

 

[velvett]

I am very happy and excited for you.





yes, drop the hint to your mom.

 

[jenscats5]

Ooooh!! Have fun on your BIG day!!

IMO, it's inappropriate for your sister's bf to discuss marriage with your dad at your wedding. It's your day & the spotlight should be on you the whole time...... Tell your sis to get her own day....LOL

 

[Tink!]

Congratulations!!! I definantly think it is wrong for him to steal your thunder on your BIG day!!!!!! I under stand what you are saying about their age, however my husband and i got married very young. I was 17 and still in school, and he was 19. I hadn't paid any bills either, 7 years later here we are. ;0)

 

[Daisy_Girl]

It is completely inappropriate.

And not just be becasue it is "your" day - it is also your parents day. This is the day they are giving away their oldest daughter, I am assuming it is the first wedding they (as parents) have hosted. This is a special, meaningful day for them too. The focus should be on blending YOUR family and your FIANCE'S family. And that is it. Asking your parents to deal with this too, is selfish and inappropriate.

K - GOOD LUCK, I know it is going to be amazing. Please post pics, or email pics.... I really want to see! I have 13 days, I am jealous of your date this weekend! CONGRATS!

Oh, where are you going on your HM? You are taking a delayed one, right?

 

[Raina]

We're going on a cruise in December...which will be nice since Minnesota isn't known for warm winters.

I think I'm going to call my sister today and suggest that she moves it up to another day. If she's not up for that then I'm going to say something to my mom because the more I think about this the less appropriate it seems.

I got up at 4 am all excited about today. I'm also a little stressed out because I had a friend flying in on Thursday who will be staying at my house and my guest bedroom is currently the place in the house where we throw things we don't know what to do with. It's knee high in boxes!

 

[Miss24k]

Wow, I definiately agree with everyone that posted already that them talking to your parents about getting married is inappropriate. To be quite honest, perhaps your sister is alittle jealous and wants some of the attention for herself. Yea you should talk to your sister, and hopefully she understands and decides to move the date.

 

[FigureSkater]

That is not cool of your sister...maybe I'd understand if they were both living away and only saw your family once in awhile and he wanted to do it face to face, but still...wait until a few days after, at least. And 22 and 23!? I'm 23, on my own, have had a boyfriend for 2 yrs, and couldn't even IMAGINE getting married right now or any time in the near future! lol. But then again I've gone to way too many of my early-20s friends' weddings this past year...