need to make my gf feel better about herself

[markshark]

my gf of over 2 years, who im sure i will marry eventually, has, for quite some time now, felt really down on her looks. yes, she is a little overweight, but not fat. i think she is absolutely gorgeous and i love her more than anything, but its gotten to the point that it hurts to see her feel bad. she has said how guys have never really hit on her but have always hit on her friends in the past. and in bed, she always wants the lights off, and wont even change in front of me. after sex, when the lights come on and she has to put her pajamas on, she will make me not look. i need to make her feel better about herself....obviously i could tell her to go to the gym more assertively, but i wont because i am perfectly happy with her and i dont want her more self-conscious than she is. im a little lost...anybody have any advice?

 

[Mickey36]

Don't push her too fast. Is there anything that she likes on her own body? Make subtle comments to her on how good something looks. For example - like her ass in a certain pair of jeans and then offer to go shopping for other pair of jeans and let her show off in them. You cannot be too over the top or she will not believe you. Also, get her exercising with you even if it is just going for hikes. As she loses weight and hears your positive comments, she will start to come around but it is a slow and patient process. Good luck to you and hope the advice helps.

Cheers,

Mickey

 

[jassdhali]

You need to sit and have a heart to heart - the thing that comes out from your explanation is that you are happy with her looks, thats not gonna help her gain her self esteem back. Most ppl are self critical so you need to tackle that in a subtle but effective way. Best of luck.

 

[EnderJE]

Dude, tell me if you figure it out.

 

[KD1]

Make some home made porno vids with her, that might help.

 

[Bikini Mod]

If you aren't doing anything to put her down (which from the sound of it, I don't think you are) then she will have to LISTEN to your compliments and believe they are sincere. You could tell her a thousand times a day that she is stunningly beautiful, if she doesn't listen there isn't much you can do.

Keep telling and showing her over and over and over again. Hopefully one day, she will believe you.