Married people and couples

[Cutiebaby]

I noticed in the thread below "how many times do you and your sig other have sex during the month" A lot of people are not getting it enough.
I wanted to be a bit nosy if I may and ask Why?
Is it due to opposite schedules or did the sex just fade away..And how long have ya'll been together..
Can I get some answers?

 

[immortalis]

been together off and on for 10 years... been married just over 1.


Somewhat conflicting schedules.

Getting tired a lot more as I am getting older.

Diminishing sex drive.

(I hope I dont get hella flamed for this one...)Men get "used" to the same shit, which is one reason why a lot of men cheat. Their desire to hit the same piece of ass diminishes over time.

We get horny at different times. She wants it at midnight, after weve usually already gotten high as hell, ate, and am tired as fuck. When I have to get up at 4:30... thats just a no-go. I want it in the mornings and afternoon a lot, and she doesnt.


A few more reasons im sure I could think of, but thinkin about this is already depressing enough lol.

 

[txbondsman]

she's a frigid BITCH! ( not really, she's just a bitch)
lets see,(1) she doesn't want it as much, she's on antidepressants (100 mg Zoloft ed), fucks with her libdo and it's very hard for her to cum. Only for sure way for her to cum is for me to give her oral and she doesn't let me unless she's just out of the shower, so if she doesn't think that she'll get her coookies, she doesn't want to have sex. BTW, I'm always up for oral... always. (2) HR said something on a thread that occures in my house, she is self concious of her body, younger she was 36D-22-34, but she's now 41 and things aren't as they once were. It bugs her. (3) we're both tired more, (4) we don't have the time or want to to go partying anymore, and she doesn't drink very often and I don't drink at all, what I mean is we're never drunk and horney anymore(5) refer to number 1...
how's that? discuss....

 

[txbondsman]

been together off and on for 10 years... been married just over 1.


Somewhat conflicting schedules.

Getting tired a lot more as I am getting older.

Diminishing sex drive.

(I hope I dont get hella flamed for this one...)Men get "used" to the same shit, which is one reason why a lot of men cheat. Their desire to hit the same piece of ass diminishes over time.

We get horny at different times. She wants it at midnight, after weve usually already gotten high as hell, ate, and am tired as fuck. When I have to get up at 4:30... thats just a no-go. I want it in the mornings and afternoon a lot, and she doesnt.


A few more reasons im sure I could think of, but thinkin about this is already depressing enough lol.

maybe we can trade Bro, your wifes schedule is mine, and my SO's is yours!

and he made a valid point, if you aren't open to new things, i.e. roll play, her dressing in new sexy lingere, new stuff....whatever that may be, same shit gets old. Rather catch O'relly and geta few extra winks...

 

[SpyWizard]

she's a frigid BITCH! ( not really, she's just a bitch)
lets see,(1) she doesn't want it as much, she's on antidepressants (100 mg Zoloft ed), fucks with her libdo and it's very hard for her to cum. Only for sure way for her to cum is for me to give her oral and she doesn't let me unless she's just out of the shower, so if she doesn't think that she'll get her coookies, she doesn't want to have sex. BTW, I'm always up for oral... always. (2) HR said something on a thread that occures in my house, she is self concious of her body, younger she was 36D-22-34, but she's now 41 and things aren't as they once were. It bugs her. (3) we're both tired more, (4) we don't have the time or want to to go partying anymore, and she doesn't drink very often and I don't drink at all, what I mean is we're never drunk and horney anymore(5) refer to number 1...
how's that? discuss....

bam.. we have a winner...

 

[txbondsman]

did I mention, bitching? bitching is SUCH a turn off. When we're laying in bed and I hear that GD bitching, complaining, it makes me want to just jump up and stick my big throbbing hardon in her mouth and yell, " DON'T TALK WITH YOUR MOUTH FULL...BIOTCH!!"
last time I did that the teeth marks lasted over a week. :-(

 

[thelion2005]

Never talk about "your day" in bed before sleeping. It kills sex.
As soon as you are together, get it on. Even quick, lazy married sex is OK.
I always had sex 1-2 times a day with this plan.

What killed sex as I got longer into marriage and got older was ... she and I were tired. We'd just fall asleep.

 

[Smurfy]

What killed sex as I got longer into marriage and got older was ... she and I were tired. We'd just fall asleep.

Exsactly. this happens to me a lot. Like last night for instance, I looked at my husband and thought to myself, YEAH - when we get into the bed tonight Im gonna get me some of THAT! but, I knew I had to wait until my son was asleep. SO I laid down on the couch to watch TV at 10:00 or so, and next thing I know, it's fucking 7:30am and Im waking up on the couch.

My first thought was GOD DAMNIT! I TOTALLY MISSED OUT ON HAVING SEX LAST NIGHT!

 

[needtogetaas]

been together off and on for 10 years... been married just over 1.


Somewhat conflicting schedules.

Getting tired a lot more as I am getting older.

Diminishing sex drive.

(I hope I dont get hella flamed for this one...)Men get "used" to the same shit, which is one reason why a lot of men cheat. Their desire to hit the same piece of ass diminishes over time.

We get horny at different times. She wants it at midnight, after weve usually already gotten high as hell, ate, and am tired as fuck. When I have to get up at 4:30... thats just a no-go. I want it in the mornings and afternoon a lot, and she doesnt.


A few more reasons im sure I could think of, but thinkin about this is already depressing enough lol.

right thats the part that fucking pisses me off.I want it in the morning or in the middle of the day..last time we did that.hmmmmm 1990 maybe...it always has to be right before she gose to bed or not at all.fuck that shit.

 

[needtogetaas]

did I mention, bitching? bitching is SUCH a turn off. When we're laying in bed and I hear that GD bitching, complaining, it makes me want to just jump up and stick my big throbbing hardon in her mouth and yell, " DON'T TALK WITH YOUR MOUTH FULL...BIOTCH!!"
last time I did that the teeth marks lasted over a week. :-(

right bitching is a huge turn off.I dont even want to look at my wife for hours after she has bin bitching.

 

[needtogetaas]

Exsactly. this happens to me a lot. Like last night for instance, I looked at my husband and thought to myself, YEAH - when we get into the bed tonight Im gonna get me some of THAT! but, I knew I had to wait until my son was asleep. SO I laid down on the couch to watch TV at 10:00 or so, and next thing I know, it's fucking 7:30am and Im waking up on the couch.

My first thought was GOD DAMNIT! I TOTALLY MISSED OUT ON HAVING SEX LAST NIGHT!

and this one fucking kills me.why cant women just shut the fucking dore and have sex who the fuck cares if the kids are up.

 

[Smurfy]

and this one fucking kills me.why cant women just shut the fucking dore and have sex who the fuck cares if the kids are up.

because my son is an only child. he likes attention and he is nosey. if lumberg and I were to head up to the bedroom, he'd want to know why and what we were doing. He'd probably stand right outside the door trying to talk to use while we were inside. Plus he's at an age where he is very curious about what menand women do together in a bedroom.

The whole experience would be enough to kill the mood LOL

Does that make sense?

 

[needtogetaas]

because my son is an only child. he likes attention and he is nosey. if lumberg and I were to head up to the bedroom, he'd want to know why and what we were doing. He'd probably stand right outside the door trying to talk to use while we were inside. Plus he's at an age where he is very curious about what menand women do together in a bedroom.

The whole experience would be enough to kill the mood LOL

Does that make sense?

no because I would tell my kids stay the hell away from my room and they would listen to me because they know the consequences if they don't.but for you if thats the problem then I understand.

 

[Smurfy]

no because I would tell my kids stay the hell away from my room and they would listen to me because they know the consequences if they don't.but for you if thats the problem then I understand.

lol

 

[Smurfy]

no because I would tell my kids stay the hell away from my room and they would listen to me because they know the consequences if they don't.but for you if thats the problem then I understand.

what exactly ARE the consquences?

 

[needtogetaas]

what exactly ARE the consequences?

dos not really matter as long as there is one and they know with out a doubt there will be one.each parent knows there child and knows the level of consequences there child needs in order for that child to fear the consequences
enough to not do any thing to get them.as long as the level of consequences
is in the limits of the law,is at the level in witch the child needs and is consistent
your child will lesion to you and you will have nothing to worry about.

 

[Smurfy]

dos not really matter as long as there is one and they know with out a doubt there will be one.each parent knows there child and knows the level of consequences there child needs in order for that child to fear the consequences
enough to not do any thing to get them.as long as the level of consequences
is in the limits of the law,is at the level in witch the child needs and is consistent
your child will lesion to you and you will have nothing to worry about.

then why dont you have sex during the day behind a locked bedroom door?

 

[txbondsman]

our son's 9, he knows what's going on, I told him that if I had to I'd hang a cap on the door ( a la "Meet the Fockers", he thinks that is a very funny part), he won't bother us then, he just hits all the crap that his mother won't let him do,i.e. eat raw cookie dough at will, PS2 games, game boy till he drops, etc. LOL
But she doesn't think it OK, she's "distracted" she says. "Here bitch, I'll put it in there, now who's distracted!".....

 

[needtogetaas]

then why dont you have sex during the day behind a locked bedroom door?

because my wife jst dos not like to when the kids are awake.there is no reason for it other then that....thats why it pissis me off.

 

[musclemom]

I noticed in the thread below "how many times do you and your sig other have sex during the month" A lot of people are not getting it enough.
I wanted to be a bit nosy if I may and ask Why?
Is it due to opposite schedules or did the sex just fade away..And how long have ya'll been together..
Can I get some answers?

Well, kids are grown and mostly out of the house, and we both work basically the same hours so that's not our reason ...

And while age definitely has something to do with it, we're both on HRT which actually should have mostly eliminated that problem ...

My observation is that, for us, it's general life stress. When we're on vacation, about day four our libidos definitely perk up.

 

[Cutiebaby]

because my wife jst dos not like to when the kids are awake.there is no reason for it other then that....thats why it pissis me off.

DONT fuckin get me started on this shit!

 

[Smurfy]

DONT fuckin get me started on this shit!

lmao!!

BTW, I did get daytime sex today. My son had gone outside for a while and we took full advantage. Went upstairs and locked the bedroom door and went to town - until, we heard him come into the front door of the house and right upstairs looking for us LMAO knocking on the door asking what we were doing


"taking a nap" I said.

"Unlock the door." he says

So that's when it all ended. That's ok, I was more than fully satisfied.

 

[Cutiebaby]

lmao!!

BTW, I did get daytime sex today. My son had gone outside for a while and we took full advantage. Went upstairs and locked the bedroom door and went to town - until, we heard him come into the front door of the house and right upstairs looking for us LMAO knocking on the door asking what we were doing


"taking a nap" I said.

"Unlock the door." he says

So that's when it all ended. That's ok, I was more than fully satisfied.

My kids are 8,3, and 2. They cannot go out by themselves.
Bottom line is that I am not the quicky type. I am all set with going into the bedroom for a fast 5 minutes and having 2 babies on the other side of the door screaming!
For the record it has not been since 1990 we were not even together then!
It was easier with one kid, we would say we were going in the room to talk about santa or the easter bunny, he would sit on the couch and watch tv and behave. Different story with the two younger ones, we cannot even shower alone with out them in the bathroom talking to us and irritating us!

 

[musclemom]

lmao!!

BTW, I did get daytime sex today. My son had gone outside for a while and we took full advantage. Went upstairs and locked the bedroom door and went to town - until, we heard him come into the front door of the house and right upstairs looking for us LMAO knocking on the door asking what we were doing


"taking a nap" I said.

"Unlock the door." he says

So that's when it all ended. That's ok, I was more than fully satisfied.

Wait until the day you get a knock on the door and this particular conversation ensues:

"Yeah, son?"

"What are you guys doing?"

"Getting changed, we'll be out in a minute," (bear in mind, this was my first husband, a minute was plenty of time for him).

Silence of about 30 seconds, then: "Are you guys having sex in there?"

 

[txbondsman]

Ok, I'm doing a little summary here...
I have alot of shit, like 5 reasons. Nobody else has near that many!
Needto's wife don't "wanto" when he needs to. ( lol, that's funy right there)
And most of us so far, have mentioned.... it's kids.
So, kids it is.
Here's to our kids!
damn little cock blockers!

 

[blueta2]

My kids are 8,3, and 2. They cannot go out by themselves.
Bottom line is that I am not the quicky type. I am all set with going into the bedroom for a fast 5 minutes and having 2 babies on the other side of the door screaming!
For the record it has not been since 1990 we were not even together then!
It was easier with one kid, we would say we were going in the room to talk about santa or the easter bunny, he would sit on the couch and watch tv and behave. Different story with the two younger ones, we cannot even shower alone with out them in the bathroom talking to us and irritating us!

can you tie them up?

 

[txbondsman]

can you tie them up?

Reminds me of the Roseanne Barr joke about when she went to the DR and was telling him that her kids wee driving her crazy. He gave her a script for Valium and she was back in 2 weeks needing more. He told her that she should have taken only so many by now and she replied, "You mean they were for ME!"