Had my Ex GF arrested Tonight.... why do i still love her???

[manny78]

Grow up kid. It's not like you're stuck with her on a remote island. Get another pussy that will make you forget this one.

 

[nefertiti]

I dated someone like that for four years. In retrospect I came to learn that our relationship was more of an addiction to the cycle than love. When he was good, he was really really good. but when the tension started to build inside him it took nothing to set off his rage.

Here's what I have to offer you - even if in some way you actually care about her, by taking her back you will be enabling her. The best chance she has at realizing she needs help is to be alone and to realize that she is the cause of that. As long as you take her back, she will never have to face her problems. And the longer it goes on, the worse it gets. Go cold turkey on her like an alcoholic going cold turkey on alcohol. It will take time...maybe a lot of time...but you need to emotionally detox to really be able to have clarity, and you can't do that if you have ANY contact with her at ALL. So cut her loose for your sake AND hers.

 

[txbondsman]

when there's no kids involved, I just don't get it with yall guys. Grow a pair will ya! Yeah, it sucks to move on, but you do. You don't have to live through such drama and termoil. With kids, totally different story....

no kids, I'd be like... "BYE!"

 

[housemusik83]

Txbondsman = wise ol man

 

[AAP]

I dated someone like that for four years. In retrospect I came to learn that our relationship was more of an addiction to the cycle than love. When he was good, he was really really good. but when the tension started to build inside him it took nothing to set off his rage.

Here's what I have to offer you - even if in some way you actually care about her, by taking her back you will be enabling her. The best chance she has at realizing she needs help is to be alone and to realize that she is the cause of that. As long as you take her back, she will never have to face her problems. And the longer it goes on, the worse it gets. Go cold turkey on her like an alcoholic going cold turkey on alcohol. It will take time...maybe a lot of time...but you need to emotionally detox to really be able to have clarity, and you can't do that if you have ANY contact with her at ALL. So cut her loose for your sake AND hers.

She knows what she is talking about. ^^^

 

[Bikini Mod]

I dated someone like that for four years. In retrospect I came to learn that our relationship was more of an addiction to the cycle than love. When he was good, he was really really good. but when the tension started to build inside him it took nothing to set off his rage.

Here's what I have to offer you - even if in some way you actually care about her, by taking her back you will be enabling her. The best chance she has at realizing she needs help is to be alone and to realize that she is the cause of that. As long as you take her back, she will never have to face her problems. And the longer it goes on, the worse it gets. Go cold turkey on her like an alcoholic going cold turkey on alcohol. It will take time...maybe a lot of time...but you need to emotionally detox to really be able to have clarity, and you can't do that if you have ANY contact with her at ALL. So cut her loose for your sake AND hers.

^^ Yup, what she said.

If it helps, A LOT of us have been where you are now. As long as you FIX YOU then you won't repeat this cycle.

Don't make her problems, YOUR problems.

 

[mrplunkey]

... long story short... she hasn't changed at all... all the reasons i left her and she is so much fucking worse now. Physically and mentally abusive.

....She got crazy and chucked a full giant bottle of belevedere at me... it shattered everywhere. I had her arrested and she got in a fight with the cops....

It sucks when you legitimately love someone, have been with them for 1.5 years and made them do the therapy / support / rehab , and be there for them......

...and it doesn't matter, they are still the same.

My biggest problem is.... i should have left her after 2 mths of dating her.... she punched me and snapped my cell phone in half.... but i chose to stay with her. She is Medically Diagnosed Bi-Polar.... so 1/2 the time she is perfect and i want to marry her.... the other time's.. whenever anything upsets her... i mean anything

I could accidentally get pepporoni on a pizza for example.... if anything upsets her,,, she get's bi-polar and crazy and mean, and abusive.....

But then she does the i love you, cries to me, apologiezes, acts like that perfect fucking holy shit i want you to be the mother of my children woman..... agrees to go on meds and get medical help..... but she never changed dude. ....it's a never ending cycle.

It's only worse now, because she knows i cheated on her with some girls. So she was constantly throwing those girls in my face, and starting horrible needless drama.

I know that sounds bad, but i'm not the cheating guy....i'm not. I never thought i was capable of doing that. Jen just broke me down so much mentally.... put me through so much up and downs.... I wanna marry you... i want you to fucking die.

....that i turned to other women to make me feel loved..... to fucking have someone be nice to me and make me feel good... during those times where jen was out of control abusive...

Anyways... i pray to god I'm strong enough to not let her back this time......it's my biggest weakness dude.. I'm just too weak of a person and too forgiving to not let her back.... and hell I am in love with her.... I could marry her most of the time....... I gotta be strong dude.

-this belevedere bottle shit is nothing. She has done so many worse things. Ie) pulling the keys of my moving. truck while i was doing 45 mph, cuz she wanted to go home........and so many more examples...I have called the police on her now 5 times.

Why can't i just let her out of my life? Why do i have to be in love with her? I hate it........and it's not the fear of being lonely. I'm a good looking fucking bartender, who gets attractive women throwing themselves at me every weekend..... but it doesn't fucking matter. I broke up with her, i dated other girls... didn't matter they " weren't jen ".....maybe i just need to completely ex her out of my life, and eventually I'll fall out of love with her or find someone that does it for me...I don't fucking know. I still want Jen. I'm fucking crazy dude and I gotta go to therapy or something.

--- that's whats on my mind

Marry her immediately!

 

[samoth]

I suggest returning to primary school in order to relearn how to write in complete sentences and paragraphs.

HTFH

 

[binö]

the pussy must be good for you to stick it out for this long.

 

[PICK3]

She's cheating on you