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Had my Ex GF arrested Tonight.... why do i still love her???
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Abuse is abuse, I don't care if it is the man or the woman or in the case of gay couples - either party. Gender doesn't mean diddly. ABUSE IS ABUSE IS ABUSE IS ABUSE.
If someone puts their hands on you, calls you names, tries to control ANY aspect of your life, tears you down, blames THEIR behavior on you.... THEY DONT LOVE YOU - THEY ARE ABUSIVE.
There is no amount of *you loving them* that will ever ever EVER change this.
My exhusband was emotionally and verbally abusive for 13 years until he beat me to the ground, then I kicked his ass out. Course he continued to use the family court system to abuse me for the next 8 years.... but that is another story.
I had a bf that I loved very much. He was bi-polar MESS. He REALLY messed with my head. For the longest time I blamed myself, as if his point of view had ANYTHING to do with me.
YEARS OF THERAPY helped me to see what was wrong WITH ME that I kept attracting these people into my life. It was all I knew as I was raised by abusive parents who told me that I would never amount to anything and that after men were tired of my sex they would throw me away like an old worn shoe (thanx mom)... exactly the way my girls are now being raised by their POS father. Took me A LONG TIME to break free of that *comfort zone*. Now I don't tolerate any sort of abusive behavior from ANYONE - husband, co-worker, or stranger in the line as the grocery store. NO ONE is allowed to make me feel badly for any reason.
Once you fix your head, trust me, you will see a whole different group of people gravitating towards you (they could have been there all along but you chose to push them away perhaps) and you will be able to see the abusers a miiiiiiiiiiiiile away.
Good luck.
Fix yourself and the rest will fall into place. I promise you.
If someone puts their hands on you, calls you names, tries to control ANY aspect of your life, tears you down, blames THEIR behavior on you.... THEY DONT LOVE YOU - THEY ARE ABUSIVE.
There is no amount of *you loving them* that will ever ever EVER change this.
My exhusband was emotionally and verbally abusive for 13 years until he beat me to the ground, then I kicked his ass out. Course he continued to use the family court system to abuse me for the next 8 years.... but that is another story.
I had a bf that I loved very much. He was bi-polar MESS. He REALLY messed with my head. For the longest time I blamed myself, as if his point of view had ANYTHING to do with me.
YEARS OF THERAPY helped me to see what was wrong WITH ME that I kept attracting these people into my life. It was all I knew as I was raised by abusive parents who told me that I would never amount to anything and that after men were tired of my sex they would throw me away like an old worn shoe (thanx mom)... exactly the way my girls are now being raised by their POS father. Took me A LONG TIME to break free of that *comfort zone*. Now I don't tolerate any sort of abusive behavior from ANYONE - husband, co-worker, or stranger in the line as the grocery store. NO ONE is allowed to make me feel badly for any reason.
Once you fix your head, trust me, you will see a whole different group of people gravitating towards you (they could have been there all along but you chose to push them away perhaps) and you will be able to see the abusers a miiiiiiiiiiiiile away.
Good luck.
Fix yourself and the rest will fall into place. I promise you.
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PS - dont take this the wrong way, but what you feel is NOT LOVE. It is chemical and a habit. How can anyone love someone that abuses them? Answer? THEY DONT. They just don't think enough of themselves to leave that relationship. I mean, who else will want them when they loved this person soooooooooo much and this person treated them like shit? They (meaning the person in love) must be the lowest form of life and actually DESERVES the abuse.
This isn't *truth* but it IS the perception of the abuse victim.
God, if I had a dime every time I heard those voices in my head....
Now in my marriage I have NO QUALMS about leaving if I feel that the relationship is unhealthy for either of us. I feel THAT STRONGLY about me being happier ALONE than to be miserable in a relationship. Strong self-esteem changes EVERYTHING. It always, always begins with YOU.
This isn't *truth* but it IS the perception of the abuse victim.
God, if I had a dime every time I heard those voices in my head....
Now in my marriage I have NO QUALMS about leaving if I feel that the relationship is unhealthy for either of us. I feel THAT STRONGLY about me being happier ALONE than to be miserable in a relationship. Strong self-esteem changes EVERYTHING. It always, always begins with YOU.
WHY YOU KEEP ME AROUND
*ahem*
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why alls I does is treat you like shit.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When alls yous has do is tell me "Bitch GIT!!"
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you know my ass is Kuh-Raze-EY
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you done call the po-pos 5 muthafucking times to come taz me.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I done chased away all yo friends.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When a well placed Belevedere could be yo end.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I done turned you into a cheating heart
Why you keeep meee around....?
Ans you tolds me about it, boy that wasn't smart.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I only gonna make life miserable for you
Why you keeep meee around....?
When past + present = future is TRUE
Why you keeep meee around....?
Cause you thinks you gots a heart of gold?
Why you keeep meee around....?
When half the times you need to have my ass in the sleeper hold.
Why you keeep meee around....?
You don't understand and don't know what to do
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you know I gonna ruin my life and yours too
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Huh? Why bitch why?
*ahem*
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why alls I does is treat you like shit.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When alls yous has do is tell me "Bitch GIT!!"
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you know my ass is Kuh-Raze-EY
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you done call the po-pos 5 muthafucking times to come taz me.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I done chased away all yo friends.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When a well placed Belevedere could be yo end.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I done turned you into a cheating heart
Why you keeep meee around....?
Ans you tolds me about it, boy that wasn't smart.
Why you keeep meee around....?
When I only gonna make life miserable for you
Why you keeep meee around....?
When past + present = future is TRUE
Why you keeep meee around....?
Cause you thinks you gots a heart of gold?
Why you keeep meee around....?
When half the times you need to have my ass in the sleeper hold.
Why you keeep meee around....?
You don't understand and don't know what to do
Why you keeep meee around....?
When you know I gonna ruin my life and yours too
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Why you keeep meee around....?
Huh? Why bitch why?
Ya think? Sounds like you know what to do, so just fuckin do it.
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lartinos
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6 months is what it takes for me, strange how all of a sudden my depression just begins to subside after 6 months and I'm happy again.
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lartinos
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Here's my tip of advice for ya bro.. As hard as is it is to let the crazy bitch go, the sooner the you do it the sooner you will be with a normal woman who makes you happy and fulfills your life. You're holding yourself back..
Once you get over the post relationship sadness, you'll soon meet a normal chick who will have you thinking WTF was I thinking!
Once you get over the post relationship sadness, you'll soon meet a normal chick who will have you thinking WTF was I thinking!
Cardinal Slin
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Speak for yourself lady
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