Had my Ex GF arrested Tonight.... why do i still love her???

[stilleto]

... long story short...

uh, not really.

you don't love her, you love the idea of being in love.

that'll be $200. thanks.

 

[AAP]

... long story short... she hasn't changed at all... all the reasons i left her and she is so much fucking worse now. Physically and mentally abusive.

....She got crazy and chucked a full giant bottle of belevedere at me... it shattered everywhere. I had her arrested and she got in a fight with the cops....

It sucks when you legitimately love someone, have been with them for 1.5 years and made them do the therapy / support / rehab , and be there for them......

...and it doesn't matter, they are still the same.

My biggest problem is.... i should have left her after 2 mths of dating her.... she punched me and snapped my cell phone in half.... but i chose to stay with her. She is Medically Diagnosed Bi-Polar.... so 1/2 the time she is perfect and i want to marry her.... the other time's.. whenever anything upsets her... i mean anything

I could accidentally get pepporoni on a pizza for example.... if anything upsets her,,, she get's bi-polar and crazy and mean, and abusive.....

But then she does the i love you, cries to me, apologiezes, acts like that perfect fucking holy shit i want you to be the mother of my children woman..... agrees to go on meds and get medical help..... but she never changed dude. ....it's a never ending cycle.

It's only worse now, because she knows i cheated on her with some girls. So she was constantly throwing those girls in my face, and starting horrible needless drama.

I know that sounds bad, but i'm not the cheating guy....i'm not. I never thought i was capable of doing that. Jen just broke me down so much mentally.... put me through so much up and downs.... I wanna marry you... i want you to fucking die.

....that i turned to other women to make me feel loved..... to fucking have someone be nice to me and make me feel good... during those times where jen was out of control abusive...

Anyways... i pray to god I'm strong enough to not let her back this time......it's my biggest weakness dude.. I'm just too weak of a person and too forgiving to not let her back.... and hell I am in love with her.... I could marry her most of the time....... I gotta be strong dude.

-this belevedere bottle shit is nothing. She has done so many worse things. Ie) pulling the keys of my moving. truck while i was doing 45 mph, cuz she wanted to go home........and so many more examples...I have called the police on her now 5 times.

Why can't i just let her out of my life? Why do i have to be in love with her? I hate it........and it's not the fear of being lonely. I'm a good looking fucking bartender, who gets attractive women throwing themselves at me every weekend..... but it doesn't fucking matter. I broke up with her, i dated other girls... didn't matter they " weren't jen ".....maybe i just need to completely ex her out of my life, and eventually I'll fall out of love with her or find someone that does it for me...I don't fucking know. I still want Jen. I'm fucking crazy dude and I gotta go to therapy or something.

--- that's whats on my mind

This makes me think you are passive bi-polar yourself.

1.5 years, already been in therapy (while not married) and already called the police on her 5 times.

And just where is your curb kicking boot now? Hopefully you are wearing it. This is your life, your only one. The only one you have. Whatever you bring into it should enhance it somehow. Whether it be people, experiences, hobbies, etc... she isn't doing that. Cut her loose. You will always love what you can't truly have the most.

 

[stephen4327]

This makes me think you are passive bi-polar yourself.

1.5 years, already been in therapy (while not married) and already called the police on her 5 times.

And just where is your curb kicking boot now? Hopefully you are wearing it. This is your life, your only one. The only one you have. Whatever you bring into it should enhance it somehow. Whether it be people, experiences, hobbies, etc... she isn't doing that. Cut her loose. You will always love what you can't truly have the most.

What if you have a child with her??

 

[Arabian]

Just kidding bro. I thought it was a good comment

lol

 

[housemusik83]

... long story short... she hasn't changed at all... all the reasons i left her and she is so much fucking worse now. Physically and mentally abusive.

....She got crazy and chucked a full giant bottle of belevedere at me... it shattered everywhere. I had her arrested and she got in a fight with the cops....

It sucks when you legitimately love someone, have been with them for 1.5 years and made them do the therapy / support / rehab , and be there for them......

...and it doesn't matter, they are still the same.

My biggest problem is.... i should have left her after 2 mths of dating her.... she punched me and snapped my cell phone in half.... but i chose to stay with her. She is Medically Diagnosed Bi-Polar.... so 1/2 the time she is perfect and i want to marry her.... the other time's.. whenever anything upsets her... i mean anything

I could accidentally get pepporoni on a pizza for example.... if anything upsets her,,, she get's bi-polar and crazy and mean, and abusive.....

But then she does the i love you, cries to me, apologiezes, acts like that perfect fucking holy shit i want you to be the mother of my children woman..... agrees to go on meds and get medical help..... but she never changed dude. ....it's a never ending cycle.

It's only worse now, because she knows i cheated on her with some girls. So she was constantly throwing those girls in my face, and starting horrible needless drama.

I know that sounds bad, but i'm not the cheating guy....i'm not. I never thought i was capable of doing that. Jen just broke me down so much mentally.... put me through so much up and downs.... I wanna marry you... i want you to fucking die.

....that i turned to other women to make me feel loved..... to fucking have someone be nice to me and make me feel good... during those times where jen was out of control abusive...

Anyways... i pray to god I'm strong enough to not let her back this time......it's my biggest weakness dude.. I'm just too weak of a person and too forgiving to not let her back.... and hell I am in love with her.... I could marry her most of the time....... I gotta be strong dude.

-this belevedere bottle shit is nothing. She has done so many worse things. Ie) pulling the keys of my moving. truck while i was doing 45 mph, cuz she wanted to go home........and so many more examples...I have called the police on her now 5 times.

Why can't i just let her out of my life? Why do i have to be in love with her? I hate it........and it's not the fear of being lonely. I'm a good looking fucking bartender, who gets attractive women throwing themselves at me every weekend..... but it doesn't fucking matter. I broke up with her, i dated other girls... didn't matter they " weren't jen ".....maybe i just need to completely ex her out of my life, and eventually I'll fall out of love with her or find someone that does it for me...I don't fucking know. I still want Jen. I'm fucking crazy dude and I gotta go to therapy or something.

--- that's whats on my mind

omg bro!!! I know exactly what you are going through!!!! My gf now was diagnozed with Bi-polerism when she was younger but was never on meds... I love her to death, but we fight i mean "FIGHT" about 3-4 times a week, we have been together almost a year and a half, and like you said when its good it is good, we spent EVERY DAY of the year and a half together, my job is djing, so i work at nights and she has been every single one of my shows, from new york, new jerzey, las vegas, miami, so the rest of the time we are at home, under the blankets watching movies or throwing shit at eachother and or packing my shit.... Hard thing with me is, I get ALOT of attention from girls when we are out or i am working, and she gets SUPPPPPPPPPPPPER jealous and mad and wanting to start drama, fights, i never cheated on her and am super faithful, the thought never even crossed my mind, but somehow she thinks i will... its tough bro, i know exactly what you are going through trust me, because i am living through it everyday, but i know deep inside she is crying for help and so is your ex gf... that is why i am still with my girl... she keeps saying to me, she rather me being an asshole cheat on her with other girls and fight with her is better than not being together at all...keep your head high bro, the best way to get through rough times like you have described is to just communicate like adults, i am sure after year and a half you know how to talk to her and how to get through to her... good luck to you bro.... (ps. From my experience 90% of women have split personalities, some just hide it really good for some time!)

 

[JoNeS]

1 and a half years it not a lot of time in the grand scheme of things. a somewhat strong person can rebound from that within 6 months or so

But we lived together and were attached to eachother 24 hours a day for a year and a half.

 

[musclemom]

Sounds like the POS my son married. Listen to CW, LEAVE HER ALONE, GET THERAPY and figure out why you would choose to subject yourself to this torture. Being with someone who alternatively loves you and abuses you is twisted.

 

[Cardinal Slin]

Sounds like the POS my son married. Listen to CW, LEAVE HER ALONE, GET THERAPY and figure out why you would choose to subject yourself to this torture. Being with someone who alternatively loves you and abuses you is twisted.

+ 10 and as Stephen said, if you ever got her pregnant she may be abusive to a little harmless and defenceless baby and then a kid as it grows older!

Leave it dude, there are plenty of nice women in the world and one or two on elite

 

[AAP]

What if you have a child with her??

Does he?

 

[AAP]

Sounds like the POS my son married. Listen to CW, LEAVE HER ALONE, GET THERAPY and figure out why you would choose to subject yourself to this torture. Being with someone who alternatively loves you and abuses you is twisted.

+1

Get the book Getting The Love You Want.

It will open your eyes to WHY you are with this girl. You would be surprised at your past and childhood that over powers your common sense and compels you to stay with her.