Going to be a long holdiday season for me

[Gymgurl]

No..I'm sorry you can't just shut your feelings off...It seems most women that do that have something in them to be met...Nothing that man could have said done, said, did, given her blah blah blah would have ever been enough becasue something is missing within themselves....I guess if you look at a positive thing...it happend now before you were married.....Oh and can I have the ring? j/k

 

[H_T_]

Is it fucked up of me to still love her, dispite all these revelations?

yeah, it is. you don't owe her a goddamn thing. now go distract yourself and let these wounds heal.

 

[Gymgurl]

You are such a man......mr. HumanT

 

[H_T_]

You are such a man......mr. HumanT

quiet, GG, men are talking.......

 

[PBR]

Is it fucked up of me to still love her, dispite all these revelations?

No...it just means you know what "love" is...have peace with what you know....

 

[AMGETR]

No..I'm sorry you can't just shut your feelings off...It seems most women that do that have something in them to be met...Nothing that man could have said done, said, did, given her blah blah blah would have ever been enough becasue something is missing within themselves....I guess if you look at a positive thing...it happend now before you were married.....Oh and can I have the ring? j/k

That's what everyone tells me: better now than later.

As far as the ring, you're not the only one that's asked for it. haha. Even a few guys buddies of mine have asked for it, so that they could give to their SO's LOL.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Sorry to hear that Bro.
You still love what you thought she was, not who she IS.
The person you thought she was is dead. Mourn her, & get over her. It'll take booze, time, & loose women. Probably in that order.
Good luck.

 

[BOWTECH]

Be glad this shit came to the surface. It would have been worse if you would have married her, then this shit went down The best way 2 forget about the old is bring in the new Hang tuff Bro!

 

[swaptrex]

if it makes u feel any better i thinl my gf is cheating on me.

 

[MILF69]

Broke up with the SO 2 weeks ago on our anniversary. I flew in to surprise her for it, and what do I get? "I'm not ready to be in a committed relationship anymore. I don't know what I want".

I was hurt, but I was alright. I walked away

Next day I found out she's been fucking the cook from her restaurant for the past 4 months!!!!!

Found out yesterday she's already with him. She cheats on me with him for over 4 months, and now she's dating him.

Guy is two years older than me, SMALLER than me, uglier than me, and as far as money goes... I made more in a month AFTER taxes than he does in a year BEFORE taxes. The guy lives on a couch in a friends basement apartment suite, and has no education. I believe he hasn't even passed highschool. He works full time as a cook at her restaurant, while she's one of the hostesses.

She won't admit to it. Years thrown out down the drain... For what? So she can become trailor trash? With me she had it all... With him, she has no future whatoever.

We had the most amazing relationship her and I... She will never find that again.

I haven't stopped choking up over this... The more I find out, the more I find that she was lying to me. I never deserved this. I treated her amazing and everyone knew it. She made me believe that the reason we broke up for a month the first time was because "I had anger issues", because I got mad and was suspicious of her at work. I went to Anger Management, I even posted it on these forums. Little did I know, I never had anger issues. Rather, the moment we broke up, she was dating the cook. When her and I got back together, she was still with him.

It's going to be a lonely... sad... Christmas and New Years for me...

I just wanted to share

PS: I bought an engagment ring a month ago with her for $19,500 (Approx.) from Tiffany's. Do you guys know if they buy back jewelery? I didn't give it to her. I wasn't planning to for another two years...

I feel very bad for you...really. But I do agree with GYMGIRL...there was something lacking, something within her that you could just not solve. No matter what you could say or do, you have to remember that it is not you it's her. You sound like an amazing BF who did all he could to keep it going, but sometimes no matter what you do it's never enough.

Keep your head up and in time it will pass. You will never forget her or the relationship, that is a given, but you will find someone else eventually. The next person may be even better than what you had before. Best wishes!