Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below Okay, so here it goes, I am 6'5" 220lbs and all my friends tell me the same thing: That they felt intimidated by me before they knew me. Now, I do not consciously do anything to intimidate people so I questioned more and they said that I have a strut that says to other people "I don't give a fuck". Now how can I change myself without changing my size to make me more approachable. I feel that I can scare off potential partners that way.
Why Do I Scare People Away?
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FarBeyondDriven
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try wearing flower print attire. The dumb grin won't work, ever see slingblade?
Jimsbbc
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It probably has to do with physical communication - body language. We understand much more about what someone is communicating by their BL and not the words they say. Something you are doing makes them think this. It can be facial expressions - like glaring at people, shit like that. Also, smiling and acknowledging someone goes a long way for making them feel confortable about being around you.
Happens to me a lot,main reason is that I don't smile much.Figured it out a couple of years back,believe it or not I just started smiling a bit more often and people's reactions stared to change towards me gradually.
Going around with a big cheesy grin the whole time on your face mught scare the hell out of some folk though.
Going around with a big cheesy grin the whole time on your face mught scare the hell out of some folk though.
ive actually tried both methods. this is what happend
when id never smile or talk much people would get defensive when around me hence intimidated, they thought i was stuck up concieded ect...
when i tried the grin thing people thought i was deprssed about something tring to hide stuff, people would aproach me out of pure pitty. ( i phucking hate pitty)
end result??
i hold a straight face then when i see someone id talk to or interested in then give them good body language and a few smiles. i find this method the most fruitful
believe it or not this topic had been on my mind on and off within the last month
when id never smile or talk much people would get defensive when around me hence intimidated, they thought i was stuck up concieded ect...
when i tried the grin thing people thought i was deprssed about something tring to hide stuff, people would aproach me out of pure pitty. ( i phucking hate pitty)
end result??
i hold a straight face then when i see someone id talk to or interested in then give them good body language and a few smiles. i find this method the most fruitful
believe it or not this topic had been on my mind on and off within the last month
Jimsbbc
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Do remember Arnold in T2 when he walks up to the guy expressionless and demands his clothes/motorcycle butt naked?
That is what I am like most of the time around people I don't know. Most of the time it's like - they don't know me and don't want to know me so fuck them. I have my friends and don't need any more. If people who don't know me are intimidated - then that is a good thing.
I say be yourself and fuck what other people think all together.
That is what I am like most of the time around people I don't know. Most of the time it's like - they don't know me and don't want to know me so fuck them. I have my friends and don't need any more. If people who don't know me are intimidated - then that is a good thing.
I say be yourself and fuck what other people think all together.
