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Puddles
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LSUMuscle said:
Don't rush into anything. Take your time to think about it ALL.
I met TheStromba (my husband now of almost 18 yrs.) on his 18th birthday when he was celebrating with a few of his friends at my father's bar. I can still remember what he was wearing and what he was drinking that first night we met. I was attracted to him from the moment my eyes caught sight of him. Well...one of the other guys asked me out and we wound up dating for over a year. During that time I got to know TheStromba and really liked him in every way but it had been strictly platonic. We would meet in the morning and take the ferry into work together (a 30 minute ride), we'd catch eachother for lunches, ride the ferry home together, as well as the three of us just hanging out on weekends, I even tried setting him up with a few of my friends. Somehow that simple platonic friendship changed into and increadible lustfull desire, the lust was always there from the night I met him but it grew and grew until I couldn't hold back any longer. One night I confessed my feelings to him. We were in quite a situation but we were both strongly attracted to each other. We wound up dating behind my boyfriend's back for a little while...we hated doing it, but we had to follow our hearts. I broke up with the boyfriend and explained what had happened. He tried hard to get me back, but my heart did not belong to him. He never could forgive us, but we were right to do what we did because it changed the course of the REST of our lives. I can NOT imagine my life without my husband, and if I hadn't gone for it back then and followed my heart, I'd probably be misserable now. He IS my soulmate.
Since you feel so strongly about this girl, take the time to really get to know her. E-mail and talk and see if the feelings are still strong in a few months. If so, maybe she IS the ONE for you. Just take it one step at a time though. It will eventually all fall into place.
lilperronis
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hey LSU i live in baton rouge to and there are some hott girls down here .but i am serious bout this ,you should ask your girlfriend if you can go on JUST ONE date with this girl and you will be back at midnight and u never know that might bring yall relationship closer. but dont tell her that yall kissed or nothing like that.but then it might also get you in troble with her u never know till you ask.....
tell us how it goes
tell us how it goes
PrincessRayn
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ahh this sounds so much like my situation. i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.. and before him i was in another long relationship. i love him but we have gone thorough a lot and the love isnt as intense, at least for me. i find myself resenting him for the times he's hurt me.. and resenting myself for rushing into another relationship.. then again he has always stuck by my side. i am only 18. he asked me to marry him a few monthes ago and i said yes.... im not sure that i should have because i dont think i am ready for that type of commitment. i met another guy back in febuary. i was immediatly drawn to him. his personality was awesome.. and he was extremely goodlooking.(as is my boyfriend) so its not just a physical thing. we spent 12 hours together and then he moved to georgia! bad timing or good timing i always wonder. anyway we talk alot on the phone i planned to go see him this summer. then he told me how beautiful i am and he thinks i have all the traits a guy would want in a girl.. ahhh my own boyfriend doesnt even tell me im beautiful! maybe i just like the attention? but i dont think so because i liked him way before that.. anyway since my boyfriend and i have been fighting a lot i told him i have to find out.. about this guy... i thought being honest would be best. isnt it better to find out now that have regrets later? well he doesnt think so... he basically told me i can not go to see my friend now!!! ahhh... he isnt controlling like ever.. he says hes afraid this other guy will win my heart. i kind of just want him to appreciate me and make things work.. but now i cant go see my friend that i had planned on seeing.. what do i do? same thing sort of.. i know he probably has just as many flaws but i cant see them... i feel like i know him but have only spent 12 hours with him..
Nutri-Wrestler
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Hey, LSU Muscle. I got a story for you that might make you a little happier. cant typ it now caus eim at work and ill be getting off soon so i dont have the time. Just remember, the grass isnt always greener on the other side so make sure you know before you jump ship.
Ross
Ross
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Ok, i promised you the story so here it is. It all started way back in the smmer between 6th and 7th grade year. That summer i met and incredibly beautiful and sweet girl named Cassie. She came down during the summer to visit her dad and one of my friends brought her over to introduce us. well, we hit off right away. After 2 weeks of some heavy making out (hey, i was only 12) she had to leave to go back to connecticut.
She returned the next year, except this time she had a b/f. Unfortunately, nothing between me and Cassie happened that summer so that really sucked. There was no way in hell a long distance thing was gonna happen since i lived in Louisiana and she lived up in Connecticut. Every year she would come down and i would see her. We would be together off on like that all the way up till my juior year in high school.
I met my ex (jenna) my freshman year and by half way through sophomore year we were together. However, 2 weeks later i moved form louisiana up to virginia. I would come and visit every 2 months or so. So, the summer between junior and senior year came and i decided i would come back down to good ol' Mandeville Louisiana to stay with my friends and my g/f. During that summer Cassie came down to visit and my g/f refused to let me see her. Being the pussywhipped little bitch i was at the time, i just tucked my balls inbetween my legs and walked away.
Well, senior year came and i moved back to my hometown of Mandeville Louisiana. This was wonderful, or so i thought, because me and my g/f could be together again after a 1.5 year long distance relationship. Things werent going to good so me and her broke up a week before my homecoming (which i would wind up going to alone).
During me and Jenna's little break Cassie came down to visit her dad for Thanksgiving. I told her that i moved back to LA and that i wanted to see her again. We made plans to meet up at her dads and we would go out and hang out together.
Well, the day finally came. I was excited and hoping we would hit it off. But i was so nervous b/c she hasnt seen me in forever. Turns out we hit it off instantly. It was like nothing ever changed for us. Those few days we spent together were awsome. But as with all things in life, that week came to an end and she returned to connecticut.
About a month later though she came back down to LA for Christmas. Needless to say we were together again. However, when she did leave, me and my Jenna got back together on New years. Unfortunately, jenna also cheated on me that night with some 24 year old white trash piece of shit from Virginia with 2 ids and an ex wife (jenna is only 17). This really pissed me off, however, i took her back.
Things were goin good for me and Jenna, but in the back of my mind i thought about cassie and how i felt for her. These feelings for cassie never did go away, i just hid them from myself. When spring break came, cassie visited her dad again and once again i went to visit. She was all over me, kissing me and everything, but i couldnt give in to my desires, after all, i had a g/f and i wasnt about to cheat on her with cassie. I rationalized this out b/c if i did cheat on her with cassie, then if me and cassie did get together in the futrure, then she would know it was a possibility i would cheat on her. So, i resisted the temptation for the rest of the week till cassie left to go back to Connecticut.
Now, here comes the pretty cool part. Cassie, decided to move to Baton Rouge for her junior year at LSU. Although i live in Mandeville, i will be moving to Baton rouge for my freshman year at LSU. Cassie still wanted me when she moved down and she told me that she was gonna wait for me and Jenna to break up, however, she hoped it was soon.
Turns out me and Jenna did break up after 2.5 years together. The next day (literally), she got all up on some 20 year old football player from McNeese (hes fat and feminine and not to mention, a kicker haha). This absolutely destroyed me. However, i figured it would be better for me and Jenna to be best friends rather than just go our seperate ways completely. About a week later, me and jenna got together and she gave me a blowjob and i went down on her (this is after she found out me and Cassie were dating). Well, about 2 days later i went up to LSU for freshman orientation. I went to cassie's apartment and me and her stayed up till 3 just talkin and kissing.
The next day (Friday) she came to Mandeville and we went out yet again. We started kissing and everything and talking once more. However, we talked about us. We had a loooong conversation in which finally me and Cassie found up being together! As in b/f and g/f type shit. This was completely exilerating. After all, here is this girl i have been knowing and liking since 6th grade and thinkin the whole time that nothing else was gonna happen b/c of the distance between us.
Now me and Cassie are together. Its so weird having a g/f who is not Jenna. But im glad b/c Jenna really treated me like shit. And being the person i was, i continuied to take it while lookin for a way to improve our relationship while she destroyed it. Last night Jenna found out me and Cassie are b/f and g/f. Needless to say she fuckin flipped. If ya wanna know more about that, then ask, but by now im sure your bored off your ass so im gonna hurry up and end it.
The point is, some things are meant to happen in your life time. Fate will only take you so far, but it is up to you to act upon it. Its a hard situation your in, but you should also remember that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Just make sure you take a longer look at your feelings before you act upon them. Make sure what your feeling for this girl is not just lust and make sure that you dont have feelings for your girl. Otherwise, you might just jump ship and then you will be wondering "Well, what if i stayed with my ex." Just do what your heart is telling you but dont confuse love for lust and dont trade one for the other. Never thought an 18 year old kid could think like that, huh?
Ross
P.S. Good luck with the choice you make, hopefully it will be the right one.
Karma is welcome for this long and entertaining story, especially since i dont have any...
She returned the next year, except this time she had a b/f. Unfortunately, nothing between me and Cassie happened that summer so that really sucked. There was no way in hell a long distance thing was gonna happen since i lived in Louisiana and she lived up in Connecticut. Every year she would come down and i would see her. We would be together off on like that all the way up till my juior year in high school.
I met my ex (jenna) my freshman year and by half way through sophomore year we were together. However, 2 weeks later i moved form louisiana up to virginia. I would come and visit every 2 months or so. So, the summer between junior and senior year came and i decided i would come back down to good ol' Mandeville Louisiana to stay with my friends and my g/f. During that summer Cassie came down to visit and my g/f refused to let me see her. Being the pussywhipped little bitch i was at the time, i just tucked my balls inbetween my legs and walked away.
Well, senior year came and i moved back to my hometown of Mandeville Louisiana. This was wonderful, or so i thought, because me and my g/f could be together again after a 1.5 year long distance relationship. Things werent going to good so me and her broke up a week before my homecoming (which i would wind up going to alone).
During me and Jenna's little break Cassie came down to visit her dad for Thanksgiving. I told her that i moved back to LA and that i wanted to see her again. We made plans to meet up at her dads and we would go out and hang out together.
Well, the day finally came. I was excited and hoping we would hit it off. But i was so nervous b/c she hasnt seen me in forever. Turns out we hit it off instantly. It was like nothing ever changed for us. Those few days we spent together were awsome. But as with all things in life, that week came to an end and she returned to connecticut.
About a month later though she came back down to LA for Christmas. Needless to say we were together again. However, when she did leave, me and my Jenna got back together on New years. Unfortunately, jenna also cheated on me that night with some 24 year old white trash piece of shit from Virginia with 2 ids and an ex wife (jenna is only 17). This really pissed me off, however, i took her back.
Things were goin good for me and Jenna, but in the back of my mind i thought about cassie and how i felt for her. These feelings for cassie never did go away, i just hid them from myself. When spring break came, cassie visited her dad again and once again i went to visit. She was all over me, kissing me and everything, but i couldnt give in to my desires, after all, i had a g/f and i wasnt about to cheat on her with cassie. I rationalized this out b/c if i did cheat on her with cassie, then if me and cassie did get together in the futrure, then she would know it was a possibility i would cheat on her. So, i resisted the temptation for the rest of the week till cassie left to go back to Connecticut.
Now, here comes the pretty cool part. Cassie, decided to move to Baton Rouge for her junior year at LSU. Although i live in Mandeville, i will be moving to Baton rouge for my freshman year at LSU. Cassie still wanted me when she moved down and she told me that she was gonna wait for me and Jenna to break up, however, she hoped it was soon.
Turns out me and Jenna did break up after 2.5 years together. The next day (literally), she got all up on some 20 year old football player from McNeese (hes fat and feminine and not to mention, a kicker haha). This absolutely destroyed me. However, i figured it would be better for me and Jenna to be best friends rather than just go our seperate ways completely. About a week later, me and jenna got together and she gave me a blowjob and i went down on her (this is after she found out me and Cassie were dating). Well, about 2 days later i went up to LSU for freshman orientation. I went to cassie's apartment and me and her stayed up till 3 just talkin and kissing.
The next day (Friday) she came to Mandeville and we went out yet again. We started kissing and everything and talking once more. However, we talked about us. We had a loooong conversation in which finally me and Cassie found up being together! As in b/f and g/f type shit. This was completely exilerating. After all, here is this girl i have been knowing and liking since 6th grade and thinkin the whole time that nothing else was gonna happen b/c of the distance between us.
Now me and Cassie are together. Its so weird having a g/f who is not Jenna. But im glad b/c Jenna really treated me like shit. And being the person i was, i continuied to take it while lookin for a way to improve our relationship while she destroyed it. Last night Jenna found out me and Cassie are b/f and g/f. Needless to say she fuckin flipped. If ya wanna know more about that, then ask, but by now im sure your bored off your ass so im gonna hurry up and end it.
The point is, some things are meant to happen in your life time. Fate will only take you so far, but it is up to you to act upon it. Its a hard situation your in, but you should also remember that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Just make sure you take a longer look at your feelings before you act upon them. Make sure what your feeling for this girl is not just lust and make sure that you dont have feelings for your girl. Otherwise, you might just jump ship and then you will be wondering "Well, what if i stayed with my ex." Just do what your heart is telling you but dont confuse love for lust and dont trade one for the other. Never thought an 18 year old kid could think like that, huh?
Ross
P.S. Good luck with the choice you make, hopefully it will be the right one.
Karma is welcome for this long and entertaining story, especially since i dont have any...
im of the opinion that there is no "one true love" for people, but a large number of suitable, compatible mates for each of us.
perhaps what you have here are two of the many options you have. its lust PLUS some kind of emotional connection (for no apparent reason). its very likely that you could be happy with either of these women. this is where logic comes into play. you feel like its time to "choose", right? go ahead and do so.
but, as im sure you know, if you choose the new girl, some day down the road when your relationship with HER is in the "rocky" stage, you WILL run into another of your options. and so will the new girl.
perhaps what you have here are two of the many options you have. its lust PLUS some kind of emotional connection (for no apparent reason). its very likely that you could be happy with either of these women. this is where logic comes into play. you feel like its time to "choose", right? go ahead and do so.
but, as im sure you know, if you choose the new girl, some day down the road when your relationship with HER is in the "rocky" stage, you WILL run into another of your options. and so will the new girl.
This is very simple-----You are looking for the BBD(bigger-better-deal)regardless of whats going on with your current girlfriend, don't be like every other fucking guy out their and keep her around until the BBD comes. Its not fair to her. Ups and Downs are what make up a real relationship...If you love your current girlfriend --stay with her and grow with what you have....if you don't love her, let her go......I have a ton of respect for people that can walk the earth alone(no relationship) in search for what they believe they deserve(their not afraid to be alone) I myself have never been that person--always had some girl by my side(insecurity you know)
But let me tell you --it doesn't matter that she didn't have sex with you--that really doesn't mean shit(what if she did put out, would she be so intreging to you)--what type of chix would let you put your hands all over her but not give out her digits(ya she does have a boyfriend) and the reason you didn't get the Duke(fuck her) was because of this boyfriend...thats all...its really no secrete....This girl was exciting to you(she dug her shit)and made you feel good..The Excite Factor really can play with your head.....Hell guys fuck up all the time and give up on their 15 year Marriage just because of the Excite Factor---then they try crawling back with their head between their legs after the wife moved on and probably fucked 2 of his friends while they were apart---In his old house, in his old bed-----while the husband is scraping by in one bedroom apartment.....maybe i'm going alitte far with the above statment but you get what i'm saying.
So my advice to you is very simple-----put 100% of your energy into your current girlfriend-----if it doesn't work and you truly tried, let her go for good ---then go out and look for what you think you need---that way you will be drama free and be able to spot women who are drama free also----this woman that you speak of- I can almost say for certain will bring drama into your life----do yourself a favor and don't be in such a hurry to give all of yourself to a female other then the one your with----by doing this, you are setting yourself up for failure in one way or another.....
Good luck and go give your real girlfriend and hug----and lose the others email--------by the way I could go walk out my door and in a one mile radius find on any given day probably a hand full of women that would be intreging to me---you could do the same(their really is no need for long distance relationships)that will probably end in failure anyways----peace
But let me tell you --it doesn't matter that she didn't have sex with you--that really doesn't mean shit(what if she did put out, would she be so intreging to you)--what type of chix would let you put your hands all over her but not give out her digits(ya she does have a boyfriend) and the reason you didn't get the Duke(fuck her) was because of this boyfriend...thats all...its really no secrete....This girl was exciting to you(she dug her shit)and made you feel good..The Excite Factor really can play with your head.....Hell guys fuck up all the time and give up on their 15 year Marriage just because of the Excite Factor---then they try crawling back with their head between their legs after the wife moved on and probably fucked 2 of his friends while they were apart---In his old house, in his old bed-----while the husband is scraping by in one bedroom apartment.....maybe i'm going alitte far with the above statment but you get what i'm saying.
So my advice to you is very simple-----put 100% of your energy into your current girlfriend-----if it doesn't work and you truly tried, let her go for good ---then go out and look for what you think you need---that way you will be drama free and be able to spot women who are drama free also----this woman that you speak of- I can almost say for certain will bring drama into your life----do yourself a favor and don't be in such a hurry to give all of yourself to a female other then the one your with----by doing this, you are setting yourself up for failure in one way or another.....
Good luck and go give your real girlfriend and hug----and lose the others email--------by the way I could go walk out my door and in a one mile radius find on any given day probably a hand full of women that would be intreging to me---you could do the same(their really is no need for long distance relationships)that will probably end in failure anyways----peace
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