So how mad should I be?

[jnevin]

It's called support check. Fucking cvnt of an ex-wife that my husband made the mistake of reproducing with is similar, "oh, I love my children, I can't imagine my life without them." No, they just don't want to lose the secondary, tax free incomes of the weekly support check and yearly tax deduction.

I don't pay child support. I have my daughter six days a week and six nights overnight. Paternity has been established but we don't have a custody agreement through the courts. It just blows because I don't have $$ for an attorney right now. I almost wonder if I'd even need one, but I'd hate to get a super pro-mom judge and get fucked, this being Utah and all.

 

[jnevin]

Really, bitch is seeing a married dude? Not only is she a shitty mother but shes a homewrecker!! You need to con her into relinquishing her guardianship somehow. Like musclemom said I doubt that will happen due to the $$$$ factor.

Yeah, dude left his wife and kidsand they're hanging out. That part wouldn't really be a concern to me, but she's had my daughter around him and that's not ok with me. Guy has three kids, the youngest was a month old when he bailed. If he's going to do that to his own kids he doesn't need to be around mine.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

damn jnevin, this is some tough shit to deal with. I would be so pissed, I dont know what its like yet to have my own kid and to not love anything more than him, but its coming up in 4 weeks and Im sorry u gotta be dealin with this shit, fuck its so disgusting

 

[nangiggles]

this is awful and you have every right to be angry, I would have taken a pic of my little girl covered in vomit and texted it to that bitch, hopefully it will ruin her fucking night, also keep the pic as evidence of negligence....

 

[Sub-Zero]

that's horrible!!

so i'm confused about something. maybe i'm just reading it wrong. but, i get the impression that your ex or the sister purposely made your kid go to sleep with benadryl just to go out or get drunk!?!?!? i don't know if it's sad or pathetic she can't be a mom barely 2 days outta the week...

sorry rob! glad your kid is ok!

something to seriously consider.

this, and start recording your fucking conversations with her. she is unfit to be a parent.

how the fuck can you leave a young child in a pool of her own vomit with no lights in the room after drugging her on benadryl? is that a fucking joke? and there was no evidence of anyone even being home??

 

[Smurfy]

nev, sounds to me like you should come up with a different babysitting option if Mom isn't capable of doing it/isn't even home. if she didn't babysit while you worked, then she would have much less time with Q to fuck things up.

 

[musclemom]

I don't pay child support. I have my daughter six days a week and six nights overnight. Paternity has been established but we don't have a custody agreement through the courts. It just blows because I don't have $$ for an attorney right now. I almost wonder if I'd even need one, but I'd hate to get a super pro-mom judge and get fucked, this being Utah and all.

Utah, huh?

Y'know something, that whole "Pro Motherhood" thing could seriously work in your favor, if you play it right. Maternal neglect will be strongly frowned upon.

If this isn't uncommon behavior for the mother then start documenting shit, even if it means you have to get the police involved. If there is any way possible you cut a piece of shit parent out of a child's life early and permanently.

 

[Roxy722]

I don't pay child support. I have my daughter six days a week and six nights overnight. Paternity has been established but we don't have a custody agreement through the courts. It just blows because I don't have $$ for an attorney right now. I almost wonder if I'd even need one, but I'd hate to get a super pro-mom judge and get fucked, this being Utah and all.

I think you have grounds to do something. If that had been child protective services that walked in the door last night and not you, you would have lost your child, at least temporarily. She was clearly put at risk and the whole light bulb thing is just strange but also puts a child at risk, as you found out last night when you were trying to help her. I think it's good you got there when you did and yes, I'd be furious if I was you. (I used to investigate child abuse allegations).

I would start looking at what Utah's courts are like. Do a lot of people go through the system without attorneys? Most family court systems would have some provisions for that. It makes it more official because if you really start fighting and things get ugly, you don't have anything to back you up legally. That being said, since there isn't anything legal, you can make the choice to withhold access and put it on her to take you to court. I'd be sure to be writing down all of this somewhere and date it too.

The other thing I'd suggest to you is to keep yourself in check when it comes to the other man, in fact, I wouldn't even bring him up if you end up in a court like situation. Places like here....vent away. I wouldn't want my kid around him either but threatening him, if you do end up in court, will work against you. Keep it clean, no matter how much it kills you. Sadly, I've seen many good dad's get screwed in court if the woman decides to go on a witch hunt. So don't give her any ammunition. She's clearly making very poor decisions and you just have find the best strategy to protect your daughter and yourself.

 

[Sub-Zero]

can you imagine if you didnt have the key to the place? what would you have done then?

also think of it from this perspective:
the cunt has to give you a key to pick up your daughter from her house, in case shes not there to hand off the kid when you arrive?

pretty sure you can lock your kid in an empty house (IE provide the same care she does) and it would still be better conditions because ur place would have the lights available

 

[BBR100]

I think you have grounds to do something. If that had been child protective services that walked in the door last night and not you, you would have lost your child, at least temporarily. She was clearly put at risk and the whole light bulb thing is just strange but also puts a child at risk, as you found out last night when you were trying to help her. I think it's good you got there when you did and yes, I'd be furious if I was you. (I used to investigate child abuse allegations).

I would start looking at what Utah's courts are like. Do you a lot of people go through the system without attorneys? Most family court systems would have some provisions for that. It makes it more official because if you really start fighting and things get ugly, you don't have anything to back you up legally. That being said, since there isn't anything legal, you can make the choice to withhold access and put it on her to take you to court. I'd be sure to be writing down all of this somewhere and date it too.

The other thing I'd suggest to you is to keep yourself in check when it comes to the other man, in fact, I wouldn't even bring him up if you end up in a court like situation. Places like here....vent away. I wouldn't want my kid around him either but threatening him, if you do end up in court, will work against you. Keep it clean, no matter how much it kills you. Sadly, I've seen many good dad's get screwed in court if the woman decides to go on a witch hunt. So don't give her any ammunition. She's clearly making very poor decisions and you just have find the best strategy to protect your daughter and yourself.

Best advice right there.

Do NOT go near the boyfriend. It's on your ex.

Too bad you couldn't take pictures but keep documenting everything you can.

Does this douche bag pay you support?
One day a week with her kid and to bail when she's sick is incomprehensible to me.