My most recent problem....

[DrBones]

OK.. heres the situation.......

I've been out of a 2+ year relationship for about 5 months now. I've been seeing this new girl for about a month and a half...
My ex GFs birthday is coming up very soon... and its been on my mind constantly... I just can't stop thinking about her.

When I first started seeing this new girl, I really liked her.... but now I have a new problem... since thinking about my ex constantly it has completely destroyed my attraction to the new girl. So much, that I dont even want to see her naked... I don't want to mess around, dont want to kiss her and I really don't think i want to have sex with her.... and its starting to make me feel like I'm fucked up....

I keep trying to make myself give her a chance... but no matter how hard I try I just can't be too close. I act extremely cocky to her and make constant sarcastic comments where at the beginning of the relationship, I was nice and treated her like she should be treated...

What the hell should I do?
Am I STILL not over my ex?
I have way too much time on my hands right now to overanalyze this shit.... argg...

PS: Getting back with my ex gf is not an option.. shes with a new guy and apparently she is happy

 

[ajtomasi]

Hey man I had a problem once where I lost my attraction to my current girlfriend due to thinking about my ex. My ex treated my like complete shit and there was no way I would have ever gotten back with her, but I would always be comparing the two.

So I had to really take my ex out of my mind. I got rid of all her photos and anything that she had given me. I took a while, but I got over my problem. I never told my current girlfriend about what was going on in my head, but I had plenty of friends to help me through it.

It was really wierd having sex and you close your eyes and you don't even think about your ex, you just see her. That shit was my major problem. But it faded after a while.