blinddeafmute...I'm very sorry to hear about your wife. My husband and I have had our ups and downs over the last 7 years (law school is hell on a marriage, as is the financial burden of being a young attorney), but we are so much stronger for all we've been through, and I wish you the same luck. Goodness knows there were times I didn't feel like compromising. Thank God for our son, or I probably wouldn't have. Prayers your way...
I trained at the Y after I had my son (3 years ago in another city). It was a top notch facility. Of course, I wasn't into PLing at the time, or I may not have enjoyed it so much. It had 4 floors, several pools, indoor and outdoor tennis, basketball, volleyball, freeweight room, outdoor trail, an outdoor agility course....tons of cool stuff. Plus I could go to any Y in the country if I needed to travel.