Just found out via myspace that my brother is gay

[Delinquent]

My sister called me last night after I sent her a message about it. I also asked her to call me today but she decided to call last night. We talked about it and she only found out last week. He's never been with a girl and his first kiss was senior prom and my sister said he felt uncomfortable. She said he's always had a severe self esteem issue which she thinks is the reason why he felt uncomfortable.

I guess my sister must have told him as he messaged me today trying to defend/explain his beliefs. I told him that there was no reason to defend his beliefs to me as it's his life. I also explained that if our dad can't accept it, then that is our dads fault and not his.

My parents haven't had the best relationships over the past few years and I fear that this could cause a rift large enough to where they would divorce if my dad cannot accept this. After that, I fear that my brother would feel as if itwas his fault for such a thing which would be unfortunate. Sure it's a slippery slope but it's a definite possibility given the narrowmindedness of our dad

 

[Mr. Black]

My brother in law is gay. Pretty weird to deal at first....especially when you see him with his first boyfriend. I'm lucky he lives in Australia

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

LOL @ you responding like he said his brother had been diagnosed with cancer.

Isn't being gay a mental disorder?

 

[bran987]

shit I better check to see if my brother has a myspace page

 

[gotmilk]

Anyone had any experience with this?

Perfect website to ask for suggestions

 

[Sub-Zero]

wow I am sorry to hear that

LMAO!

 

[Sub-Zero]

well said, but I think asking if you can do anything to help will show him that you want to help him in his situation. Actions really do speak louder than words.

if he asks "can i do anything for you" he may think he means gay sex and it could lead to an uncomfortable situation

 

[Sub-Zero]

Sober up first.
Then go to your brother and give him a hug and tell him that you saw his myspace profile and that if he wants to talk about anything that you are their to listen. Just leave it at that so that he can take the next step but reasure him that it will be his decision to tell other people and not yours just so he doesn't have any worries about people finding out. Apart from that, just treat him as you would normally treat him as he is still the same person.

what if the hug gives his bro a boner

 

[mrdeeznuts]

wow I am sorry to hear that

gay hater

 

[Sub-Zero]

you should talk to him. i agree with what c00per said.

if he put it on his myspace page he had to figure that it might be found by you or someone who knows the family. i think he kinda' wants you to know.

p.s. disclaimer: i am gay myself, though not at all the "obvious" type, so i didn't "come out" til 30. i think he really would like some support and some acknowledgement that you still love him regardless, either through words or just by not disowning him or mistreating him when you find out. i used to fear those things so much that i didn't act on my impulses for almost 30 years...

i knew u were gay, it was obvious to me.

but for real tho, after reading some respones in here i decided that the best way to deal with this would be to make a myspace profile of a gay man using burnando pics, and then flirt with him and arrange a meat up, but really when u guys meet up it will be u and not burnando and u can be like "surprise!"