Just found out via myspace that my brother is gay

[HiDnGoD]

Yeah it is very possible that if you bring it up to him, even in a supportive way, he could get defensive or feel like he has to explain himself and his lifestyle which will be uncomfortable for everyone. plus, it kind of puts him on the spot.

I'm thinkin, if he put it on Myspace, he's already acknowledged it, if not accepted it.

maybe im not getting this....
WHAT is there to be discussed?....
the "need" to talk to him about his sexual prefrences?....like you or anyone else is going to change his way of thinking?...
Just tell him (if you find a need to) that you had no idea, and wish him the best.

He's probably anxious about his family finding out. Maybe sis knows, but he's gonna have enough issues with the 'rents. Just knowing that his big brother accepts him can be a load off, even if they don't have a big discussion.

 

[PBR]

I'm thinkin, if he put it on Myspace, he's already acknowledged it, if not accepted it.


He's probably anxious about his family finding out. Maybe sis knows, but he's gonna have enough issues with the 'rents. Just knowing that his big brother accepts him can be a load off, even if they don't have a big discussion.

yeah, i understand that...but like someone said earlier, "its not like everyone just found out he has cancer"....
I remember getting flak for online dating...friends were like , "Omg!!! PBR is online looking for dates!!!"....

 

[HiDnGoD]

yeah, i understand that...but like someone said earlier, "its not like everyone just found out he has cancer"....
I remember getting flak for online dating...friends were like , "Omg!!! PBR is online looking for dates!!!"....

Didja get any?

 

[Dial_tone]

just tell him you know so he doesn't have to pretend around you.

 

[slickdadd]

Tell him it's illegal to be gay and that you aren't afraid to turn him in. He should stop being gay pretty soon after.

 

[PBR]

Didja get any?

yeah...i had a few good ones. a few bad ones. a few that will go down in history....

 

[dee_wire]

you should talk to him. i agree with what c00per said.

if he put it on his myspace page he had to figure that it might be found by you or someone who knows the family. i think he kinda' wants you to know.

p.s. disclaimer: i am gay myself, though not at all the "obvious" type, so i didn't "come out" til 30. i think he really would like some support and some acknowledgement that you still love him regardless, either through words or just by not disowning him or mistreating him when you find out. i used to fear those things so much that i didn't act on my impulses for almost 30 years...

 

[-SD-]

LOL @ you responding like he said his brother had been diagnosed with cancer.

I read that as she was sorry to hear what his folks attitude towards it would be if found out.

 

[velvett]

If it were anything else like him saying he love strawberry ice cream but ate nothing but chocolate growing up you'd be like - Dude? Since when do you do strawberry ice cream?

Get it?


Dude, since when are you gay?

 

[Frisky]

Add him to your myspace

If he put it out in the open like that clearly he is trying to come out.