I couldn't argue that maybe in excess it could cause some problems in some people. Although I drink about a gallon every 2-3 days, so what is the factor that makes this happen sometimes and other times have no negative effect? Also what keeps this from happening to children and animals that drink far more than 3 glasses a day? If you drink lactose free milk you definitely are screwing yourself as well because lactose is the catalyst that let's us absorb the calcium in milk. I've had strong bones my whole life and I attribute it to milk all the way. I'm a junkie. So again, I have to stick to my theory that this is a problem wholly sitting with the person who's getting sick from milk... Unless of course I and other people have health problems that strangely help us consume more milk and be okay. That actually sounds more like a super power though.
I have strong bones as well but dont drink much milk at all and only a little yogurt here and there.
Calcium excess, like any excess or deficiency doesnt just happen, its not like turning on a switch thats either on or off. Its the slow excess over time that causes undesirable changes. A good many of the things people start to notice in their late 30's or so are actually due to nutritional imbalances that have been occurring over the course of their lifetime. Yes calcium is essential, im not arguing against it. Im simply saying that it, like many nutrients, work in conjunction with others and in certain ratios. Skew the ratio too far in any one direction and you cause problems over time.
Calcium cant properly do its job with out vit A, D and K. Someone from nothern climates likely doesnt get the same amount of D as a landscaper in florida, and Many people dont get much vit K at all.
Your entitled to your opinion and can believe your theory all youd like but if you want a more scientific look at it, check out the new book by Dr Levy called "Death by Calcium".
In his newest book, Death by Calcium, board-certified cardiologist, Thomas E. Levy, offers scientific proof that the regular intake of dairy and calcium supplementation promotes all known chronic degenerative diseases and significantly shortens life. Written for both the layperson and scientist, Dr. Levy explains the dangers inherent in supplementing with calcium. "It is now clear that excess dietary calcium, as is realized with the routine ingestion of milk and other calcium-laden dairy foods, is also a toxic and potentially life-shortening practice."