Importance of a wife Initiating Sex

[billfred]

My wife initiates almost all sex in our house anymore.

It just got too frustrating otherwise. Fortunately, she has picked up the pace a bit over the years and I have dropped off so we are in a pretty good balance right now.

 

[curvymommy]

Hell^Yes

That's the obvious answer. Screw him early and often!

I do! I do! LOL! Thanks everyone.

This has been very helpful in helping my relationship.

K to ALL of you but it might take a couple days or you might get it double!

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have this conversation with my wife all the time. It always seems to be me initiating sex.

I don't think you really need to do the "strip tease" on the table, but even if your in bed just start by kissing or grabbing his dick, or whatever.

I think guys (or atleast your husband and myself as we seem to think on the same level) want to know that you wimminz want the sexy time from us as much as we do from you.

Do yourself a favor and just stroke his ego...or whatever else you feel like stroking

This will sound REALLY wierd but my way of initiating nookies is by rubbing the old boy's head. I dunno why or how this happened really I just find it a very affectionate gesture on my part to put my arms around his head and rub it softly.

Goodness I am getting wierd in my old age.

 

[nefertiti]

This will sound REALLY wierd but my way of initiating nookies is by rubbing the old boy's head. I dunno why or how this happened really I just find it a very affectionate gesture on my part to put my arms around his head and rub it softly.

Goodness I am getting wierd in my old age.

lol...my bf loves that too...LOVES his head being scratched. Though it usually makes him want to sleep rather than want to bump nether regions.

 

[sshadoww]

Ok, I know this forum can be somewhat gritty and straight forward so help me out here sexy people!

My husband keeps getting mad at me because I rarely initate sex. It's not like I put on flannel jammies and fuzzy slippers and expect him to be turned on. I make myself availiable to him. Wear lipgloss and cute stuff to bed, shave my legs (omg I can't believe I'm talking about this), smell good, don't wear sox, ect. We go to bed at the same time, ect. So, lots of good stuff going on.

~BUT~

Why am I not horny? Is it a decision you make? Am I doing something wrong? I just feel overly tired by the end of the day and am not in the mood to give a strip tease on the coffee table after finally getting my kids to bed at night.

Does it hurt your feelings if your woman doesn't initiate sex? Or is it enough for her to be a willing sport in it when you are ready?

It's nice to have the lady initiate sex at times. As far as being tired, I'm sure you've felt that way before and still got ready and went to work for several hours. I would think your guy is just as, if not more, important to you- so push yourself for an hour once in awhile and show him what he means to you.

Just my 2

 

[curvymommy]

It's nice to have the lady initiate sex at times. As far as being tired, I'm sure you've felt that way before and still got ready and went to work for several hours. I would think your guy is just as, if not more, important to you- so push yourself for an hour once in awhile and show him what he means to you.

Just my 2

Wow, you sound EXACTLY like my DH and considering that I don't have a job outside the home, it really is my "job" to take care of him as best I can and that includes doing just what you said.

Ok, now if he'll give me a change to initiate I will before he finds this thread, lol

OH! Nef and Bikinimom, that is so funny about the headrubs. Except for when DH rubs my head it's so relaxing it almost makes my eyes cross and I get a drunk feeling almost.

Hmm...he even initiates head rubbing not me

anyhoo, thanks you guys. This is hugely helpful.

 

[WhistleBritchesII]

An Alpha male never worries of these things NOR cares

telling the wife or girlfriend how your hung up is a slippery slope to disaster and a TURN OFF

if your a true man make it happen and Shut teh f up

 

[musclemom]

An Alpha male never worries of these things NOR cares

telling the wife or girlfriend how your hung up is a slippert slope to disaster and TURN OFF

if your a true man make it happen and Shut teh f up

While I realize it's a difficult concept to grasp, ALPHA male, the politics of living within a committed, monogamous relationship successfully and cooperatively are quite different from the inside.

In other words, as my husband likes to say, women are the guardians of the gates.

 

[NEO1]

Getting?

This will sound REALLY wierd but my way of initiating nookies is by rubbing the old boy's head. I dunno why or how this happened really I just find it a very affectionate gesture on my part to put my arms around his head and rub it softly.

Goodness I am getting wierd in my old age.

 

[WhistleBritchesII]

While I realize it's a difficult concept to grasp, ALPHA male, the politics of living within a committed, monogamous relationship successfully and cooperatively are quite different from the inside.

In other words, as my husband likes to say, women are the guardians of the gates.

I understand what your saying but in relation to my point i do not

clarify please