Importance of a wife Initiating Sex

[Bikini Mod]

MM you are on one heckuva roll today. I am literally holding my sides with laughter..

Thanks I really needed it tonight.

 

[mrplunkey]

Considering that pregnancy/birth/raising a human child to the age/size of being able to fend for itself really is not something suitable for an unattached female I really wonder about the whole "Spread the Genes" theory, seriously. It seems to me that young humans (male and female) are all pretty much your basic horny little hairless apes but once they get a little age on them I think there is a stronger drive to bond with one mate. Now, in terms of till death do you part, that's a recent convention

I always thought humans are genetically serial monogamists with the occasional fling thrown in here or there.

As for the female being the gatekeeper, that's just what it is. Males can bellow and roar and butt heads all they want, it's still the females that make the final decision.

And therein lies the hidden genious in the Abraham-based religions! Hell, wimminz did what they were told back then. See how badly those pagan religions and atheism messed us up???

Next go round, you get to be female, you get to pick

Oh hell no! I like the setup I've got. Besides, I'd probably be a slut if the gatekeeping role got dropped in my lap.

 

[musclemom]

Well if we're going to start talking about the original philosophy behind development of Hebrew law we'll never get out of this thread ...

But you've got it pretty close, a lot of it was to take power away from women.

If you get a chance a really interesting read is a book called "The Great Cosmic Mother" takes a look at the rise of patriarchal religion over the the original mother based pagan spirituality, incorporating archaeological evidence. It's good food for thought.

 

[mrplunkey]

Well if we're going to start talking about the original philosophy behind development of Hebrew law we'll never get out of this thread ...

But you've got it pretty close, a lot of it was to take power away from women.

If you get a chance a really interesting read is a book called "The Great Cosmic Mother" takes a look at the rise of patriarchal religion over the the original mother based pagan spirituality, incorporating archaeological evidence. It's good food for thought.

a.k.a. "Progress"!!!

 

[jeepchick]

I always try to remember that one day we will be too old to make love/have sex/f**k so we try and take every opportunity that DH and I get. And if we haven't had a chance then we are very good about telling each other that it has been too long and one of us agrees to stop and get a bottle of wine on the way home. It was a little rough when the kids were young right now they are at the perfect age because they go to bed early enough and sleep like rocks so we can get close and still get some sleep. I also have noticed that I am way more likely to initiate sex on the days I have worked out. If I am really uptight/tired I have a glass of wine and try and relax. I also try and have a healthy meal- no heavy food like Mexican or Italian.

Think of sex as your right. You deserve to feel good. (If he isn't making you feel good that is another thread.) As women we have been repressed, told that it is wrong for us to want and demand sex. God forbid that we actually enjoy it. We are not wanton women we are "wanting" women. JCK

 

[-SD-]

I always try to remember that one day we will be too old to make love/have sex/f**k so we try and take every opportunity that DH and I get. And if we haven't had a chance then we are very good about telling each other that it has been too long and one of us agrees to stop and get a bottle of wine on the way home. It was a little rough when the kids were young right now they are at the perfect age because they go to bed early enough and sleep like rocks so we can get close and still get some sleep. I also have noticed that I am way more likely to initiate sex on the days I have worked out. If I am really uptight/tired I have a glass of wine and try and relax. I also try and have a healthy meal- no heavy food like Mexican or Italian.

Think of sex as your right. You deserve to feel good. (If he isn't making you feel good that is another thread.) As women we have been repressed, told that it is wrong for us to want and demand sex. God forbid that we actually enjoy it. We are not wanton women we are "wanting" women. JCK

Where have you been the past couple decades? Women being sexually repressed went out in the 1980s.

 

[jeepchick]

Society sends very mixed messages to women. Raising a daughter I am very aware of the messages that are broadcast and that DH and I must decide how to address. I know the mixed messages that I received and I was pretty forward for my teens/twenties which was the in the 80-90's But I am pretty sure that part of this thread has mentioned that men would appreciate women being more aggressive and taking the initiative. Sometimes it is hard switching mental states from mother to wife/girlfriend.

There are plenty of guys who freak out when a woman knows what she wants and won't settle for a man who isn't strong enough to handle a woman who knows her own mind and body. I wish that the mixed messages weren't still being sent and I wish that women were more accepting of their sexuality but as a woman I know that the messages are still there. There are derisive undertones to the term "cougar" and MILF and it all boils down to the perceptions of a woman's sexuality so repression is still here. JCK

 

[cmiii]

There are plenty of guys who freak out when a woman knows what she wants and won't settle for a man who isn't strong enough to handle a woman who knows her own mind and body.

HUH??? Perhaps I am the exception not the rule... But to find a woman who knows what she wants and is not shy to express it emotionally, physically... WHAT A DREAM COME TRUE!!!!
It is a beautifull thing to find a strong minded woman with no hang-ups who is confortable in her own skin. I suppose that I see women as my equal (with nice breast) not as an accesory.

CM

 

[rocky_road]

I learned this in Human Sexuality... teenagers get horny which leads to touching. People a little older than that and beyond get horny by being touched.

 

[needtogetaas]

look who it is^^^^^^^^^^^