How to get my girlfriend to improve at sex?

[silverstar1025]

Me too on alll that. Had my first intercourse only "o" last year at 30. We felt like we hit the lotto. Gotta love the dirty 30's!

It took you 30 yrs? WOW!!!

 

[BNG]

Sounds like your both young.
Great sex starts before the clothes even come off. Take some time getting there. Quickies are fun, but truly great sex takes a while.
You have to last a lot longer than you'll want to. She's prolly baarely warming up when you want to finish.
As has been pointed out already, you have to encourage her good performance. Don't discourage, just say nothing. But pour on the compliments when she's getting the right idea. Do new things to her gradually, a new experience one or two at a time. When her self confidence is there she'll be more open to experiences.

CM- I luv a CSP! Congrats on your first in-out-"O"!!!

 

[curvymommy]

It took you 30 yrs? WOW!!!

I know! I had never had one JUST through intercourse alone. My DH is a very generous lover and always pleased me but an orgasm just through regular sex was an amazing thing. I guess many, many women never have one.

 

[BNG]

I guess many, many women never have one.

This makes me sad.

 

[curvymommy]

This makes me sad.

Me too! I think so many women fake it early in a realationship that they are never really open about it. It's so sad.

I know, I know, the women of EF are probably a bunch of over achieving women in the bedroom and out of the bedroom so it does not apply here obvioulsy.

But, the average woman in America is not satisfied sexually and just chalks it up by justifying it and saying that they don't like sex or just deals with it. My husband would be pissed if I were like this. Maybe it's an ego thing but he's not happy until I am happy. Sometimes I wish he liked "quickies" but he hates them. Seeing me get off boosts his ego and I am happy to do it for him. Actually, when we are having a lot of sex his career flourishes and we are much happier overall. Less financial stress, ect. Interesting but totally unrelated here so sorry for the tangent.

In my situation, we just became so dependant on oral and we were so happy with it that it kept us from expanding our horizons so to speak, lol.

 

[Mickey36]

Buy some "how to" books and videos and go over them together so it just doesn't seem like it is all her problem. It really does take two to tango.

I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how I should tell my girlfriend things to work on and tryout in the bedroom. Shes only been with one guy before and I'm pretty sure shes not lying because shes really bad in bed. I brought it up once before but she got upset and starting crying because she thought i was upset that she was really bad at sex but even after that she tried to work on some things and it got better. She went from like a 1/10 to a 3/10 but still could improve a lot. I love her very much and would like things to improve in this area. Sometimes she is very skeptical about trying different positions. For example she didnt want to do it doggie when I mentioned that we try it. Her blow job skills are bad too. How do I mention to her about improving without hurting her feelings or making her cry? I love all the other areas of the relationship as we are very compatible but this is one area that could be improved on. Any thoughts?

 

[blueta2]

I know! I had never had one JUST through intercourse alone. My DH is a very generous lover and always pleased me but an orgasm just through regular sex was an amazing thing. I guess many, many women never have one.

Many women cannot have an O with intercourse.

 

[Powerlifting57]

I've only slept with a couple that weren't good. Not sure I can say they weren't good either, it may have just been that they were too crazy/kinky for me. I remember one girl from Stars Cabaret (forgot her name) wanted to stick her fingers in my ass. I vetoed that shit real fast! She got mad after I repeatedly told her no and she full on slugged me! It was like the female version of KB, everything had to be rough and angry. Found out the next day she was on some e and other shit, which explains why she wanted to screw for 3+ hours.

funniest thing ever