Well well well, this has turned out to be a far more interesting thread than even I anticipated. BMOM, I am well aware of missdy's past. However I don't think she's beyond help, she just needs a concensus plan that she can STICK TO and not question. NYM, I also recommended missdy take a few high carb refeeds (aka carb up) for some very sound physiological reasons. She's been dieting for 4-5 months without a break, her fatloss has stalled, and IMHO she needs to kick start her metabolism with some carbs. 500 grams is only 2000 calories worth, and I eat this much every 4th day at the moment and am still losing fat and gaining muscle. Par Deus and I were only recommending she do this for a few days to get her metabolism up and going again, NOT as a long term diet.
Whatever. I think missyd needs to emphasize her weight training more, and be patient and stick to a plan. Make an 18 month plan to get you where you want to be. This is realistic. This plan should incorporate lean muscle building, good diet (which includes high carb days), plenty of rest, vitamins, creatine blah blah blah. If you just want abs and you want them NOW, then lipo is the way to go. Bodybuilding is a journey, not a destination. If you don't want to take that journey then go for the plastic surgery.