What Do I Do???

[LSUMuscle]

Ok, Saturday night I was in New Orleans for a friends bachelor party. We run into a couple of girls from N.Y., well actually one lives in Boston now. I along with a couple of my friends hung out with them for a while, and I ended up getting closer to the one from Boston. She was extremely cute, very attractive, and incredibly nice to talk to. We kissed a little, and later she told me that she would not be sleeping with me. I was fine with that since it was early in the night and I was just having fun. Around 4 a.m. she and I, along with her friend and a couple of mine head back to her hotel to go swimming, but the pool was closed of course so we settled for hanging out in their room. A little later, my friends left to return to our hotel, but I stayed as we were having fun talking and such. She was walking me downstairs to leave sometime later, but we ended up talking and decided that I would stay as long as there was no funny stuff. I was cool with that since I just really didn't wanna walk back to my hotel at that point. We climb in bed, kiss a little, and go to sleep. I get up around 930, say goodbye, she gives me her email addy, and catch a cab to my place.

Ok, that's the story now here's the problem. I have a girlfriend who I have been dating for a couple years. We have had lots of ups and downs, and I'm really close to her family. But, this girl really turned me on, both physically and emotionally. It was the first time that I actually liked the fact that a girl wouldn't put out. I have never really believed in love at first sight, but I really believe that it happened with her. I can't stop thinking about her. But, I also don't know what to do since she lives in Boston and I live in Louisiana AND the fact that I've got a gf already.

Can someone please give me some advice. Please only serious comments as I don't need any more confusion or guilt.
Thanks

 

[TheStromba]

You only talked to this girl for a couple of hours. Given enough time, I'm sure you will find lots of things about her that annoy you just as much as your current girl. Unless you really want to fuck up what you already have, move on.

 

[duritz]

Maybe she didn't want to screw around cuz her crabs we being agressive tonight. It takes longer than a few hours to find out about a chick. You had what is called lust. You wanted her cuz she didnt want you. Every guy has it. You beg a girl to hang out with you and she says no, but you still try. Then there is that girl who calls u and tells u she is gonna blow u and wants u to fuck her in the ass, but she lives 10 minutes away and it's not even worth it to you. Ever happen to you??

 

[epimetheus]

The unknown is always fascinating. Familiarity breeds contempt.

Girls are always fascinating when you first meet em, but after awhile you can start seeing through the "interesting mask" they have built around the true them. Don't mess up what you have for a short infatuation.

 

[Puddles]

You say you've been with the same girlfriend for a couple of years, but do you truly love her...the kind of love that you can't live without, the kind of love that the thought of living without her brings tears to your eyes and makes your heart ache? If you do, then don't even think about this new chick in a serious way...but if you don't honestly love your girlfriend, then maybe you're just together out of habbit and it's time to take a leave of absence and possibly get to know this other girl.

A couple of years seems like a long enough time to know what's in your heart. You don't want to screw around on your current g/f because she will never forgive you and you won't forgive yourself, but if you seriously don't think your current girl is the one for you, then re-think your relationship...you don't want to live the rest of your life with the "What if..." lingering in the back of your mind.

 

[LSUMuscle]

MrsPuddles, that's exactly my problem. I don't want to live the rest of my life wondering "what if" about either of these situations. What if I would have forgotten about the girl I met? OR, What if I would have gone after her?

You know, up until this point, I thought that I was totally in love and couldn't live with out her. But she was gone out of town with her family for several days, and then I went to N.O. where this took place and I didn't miss her the way I usually do. Now that this has happened, I don't look at her the same, don't feel the same, etc...I feel guilty, but not because I kissed this girl and slept in the same bed as her, but because I had feelings for someone other than my girlfriend. The emotional attraction was just as strong as the physical attraction.

Well, I understand and have thought about what the rest of you said also. I don't want to just give up what I have for something that I don't know will ever be. But on the same hand, I don't want to stay with her just because I think that this incident was lust instead of something real.

Thanks for your help, and anyone else's help is also appreciated.

 

[bigguns7]

Number one, yes I do believe in love at first sight.

Number two, this MAY have been what you experienced.

Number three, I too would find it very attractive if a girl wouldn't sleep with me. There are too few girls like that out there. But here is why: I believe it was the famous philosopher Lao Tzu who said "WE PURSUE THAT WHICH RETREATS FROM US."

That is one of the truest statements I have ever heard. The girl played hard to get, and you loved it. Secondly the girl is in another city, and you can't have her or see her. That makes her that much more attractive.

These are just some things to think about.

 

[LSUMuscle]

Well, I don't really think she was playing hard to get. Neither one of really came on to the other very strong at first. We just kinda started talking and let things go as they may. After we kissed, we both were a little touchy-feely, and I think she just wanted to let me know up front that she wasn't the type of girl who did that. Other than that, she was all over me the rest of the night, kissing, touching, holding hands, talking, etc.....So, I really don't think that I'm after something that I can't have, at least in the sense that she is playing hard to get.

Now the part about her being in Boston and I being in Louisiana, I guess in that sense I can't readily have her. I can't drive over to her place or anything, or even drive a couple hours to see her, so that makes it tough and I guess it makes me wonder more.

Well, just to update, we've talked through email a couple times and I'm still confused. This girl really got to me. I can't hardly function normally anymore. All I want to do is see her again, or even talk to her on the phone, but she hasn't given me her number yet. I've given her mine, but.....So, I guess we'll see in the next few days what happens.

 

[Legs1010]

The unknown is always fascinating. Familiarity breeds contempt.

Girls are always fascinating when you first meet em, but after awhile you can start seeing through the "interesting mask" they have built around the true them. Don't mess up what you have for a short infatuation.

As if men don't do the same damn thing.

 

[LSUMuscle]

Legs1010,

Sure, that's very true. It's not a sex thing, it's a person thing. People are different when you first meet them. They always change somehow, some good, some bad. Anyway, I'd love to get the chance to find out if this girl has any bad qualities because right now the only one I know is that she is so damn far away.