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I am caught between 2 poles, and there is quite a bit of tension going on.
I'm not asking for advice or an answer, because I know thats not something that internet forum strangers can give for this. But I'm making a point that this tension exists in society, and am wondering if it has been true for anyone else, and how they've dealt with it.
The Bible makes it clear that premarital sex (or fornication) is not something that should be condoned.
Granted the book was written 2000 years ago, and many things in the Bible can be dismissed as cultural, but premarital sex is emphasized as wrong quite a few times in the Bible, and no cultural component is expressed. Furthermore, many Christians believe the Bible is completely inspired by God, and was designed to be relevant today as well as yesterday.
Sex is something that with birth control and proper std prevention can be a very enjoyable activity between 2 consenting individuals. It is the ultimate physical expression of affection in a relationship, an expression of intimacy, and nearly everyone considers it to be a factor in creating a healthy relationship between lovers (some need to test drive that part before marriage and some wait until they are married to their lover until they have it.)
Sex feels completely natural. Even when not in a relationship it still feels darn good.
But the Bible places such a huge restriction on sex. If one isnt going to have sex until they are married that might sound fine and all, but if they never get married, (say because they dont find the right person or whatever) then they wont ever get to experience sex.
And to marry just to have sex would seem very foolish, so that isnt a possiblity either.
It's not that the Bible is opposed to sex all the time, its just that it feels like it distorts it by making it all sacred and everything (which feels less natural to save it that long). It can only be had in a special situation (man and wife) and in all other situations its considered wrong.
Anyways, I'm not married, so it sucks to have to choose between 2 great things, the Bible and sex, and I wonder if anyone else has dealt with this tension before and knows what I'm talking about.
I'm not asking for advice or an answer, because I know thats not something that internet forum strangers can give for this. But I'm making a point that this tension exists in society, and am wondering if it has been true for anyone else, and how they've dealt with it.
The Bible makes it clear that premarital sex (or fornication) is not something that should be condoned.
Granted the book was written 2000 years ago, and many things in the Bible can be dismissed as cultural, but premarital sex is emphasized as wrong quite a few times in the Bible, and no cultural component is expressed. Furthermore, many Christians believe the Bible is completely inspired by God, and was designed to be relevant today as well as yesterday.
Sex is something that with birth control and proper std prevention can be a very enjoyable activity between 2 consenting individuals. It is the ultimate physical expression of affection in a relationship, an expression of intimacy, and nearly everyone considers it to be a factor in creating a healthy relationship between lovers (some need to test drive that part before marriage and some wait until they are married to their lover until they have it.)
Sex feels completely natural. Even when not in a relationship it still feels darn good.
But the Bible places such a huge restriction on sex. If one isnt going to have sex until they are married that might sound fine and all, but if they never get married, (say because they dont find the right person or whatever) then they wont ever get to experience sex.
And to marry just to have sex would seem very foolish, so that isnt a possiblity either.
It's not that the Bible is opposed to sex all the time, its just that it feels like it distorts it by making it all sacred and everything (which feels less natural to save it that long). It can only be had in a special situation (man and wife) and in all other situations its considered wrong.
Anyways, I'm not married, so it sucks to have to choose between 2 great things, the Bible and sex, and I wonder if anyone else has dealt with this tension before and knows what I'm talking about.
