Losing desire after too much foreplay

[WS6]

When with a girl, I got no problems getting it up or even keeping it up when next to her. I can keep it up for a while when relaxing next to a girl and just touching her, but if we start kissing and shit and I get all worked up the desire and boner go away if I don't stick it in fast enough after that it's impossible to get it back up unless I go back to just relaxing next to her.
This used to never be an issue until recently, anybody have similar problems or any suggestions or anything I was told by a doc that it's just a mental issue, but didn't give me a solution

 

[DepressiveJuice]

i just lick my girls feet or suck on her toes. works for getting it up with a quickness for me

 

[doublebicep]

When with a girl, I got no problems getting it up or even keeping it up when next to her. I can keep it up for a while when relaxing next to a girl and just touching her, but if we start kissing and shit and I get all worked up the desire and boner go away if I don't stick it in fast enough after that it's impossible to get it back up unless I go back to just relaxing next to her.
This used to never be an issue until recently, anybody have similar problems or any suggestions or anything I was told by a doc that it's just a mental issue, but didn't give me a solution

So many variables surrounding this problem. Amoung them are age, diet, physical condition, drug abuse and psychological issues. Losing an errection is a common enough issue that your doctor should not have simply said it is a mental issue.

 

[Mini Viper]

Try asking her to kiss you all over your torso and tongue your nipples, that might work. It works wonders for me!

 

[the_jarhead]

More than likely you are over thinking things and causing your own problems.
When things start to get going try to just relax and not think about what you are doing.

If all else fails go down south. Nothing gets me harder than eating pussy and making my girl cum.

 

[WS6]

ok thanks for the replies, I'm 24 and in great physical shape and don't really drink, smoke or do drugs.
When we first start kissing or doing what ever, licking, eating her out everything is fine and then maybe within 5-10 minutes the desire goes away. When the desire goes away it's really hard to get it back no matter what I do, I guess part of the reason being because I think too much about getting the desire back instead of just enjoying whatever we're doing.

 

[Badbart]

ok thanks for the replies, I'm 24 and in great physical shape and don't really drink, smoke or do drugs.
When we first start kissing or doing what ever, licking, eating her out everything is fine and then maybe within 5-10 minutes the desire goes away. When the desire goes away it's really hard to get it back no matter what I do, I guess part of the reason being because I think too much about getting the desire back instead of just enjoying whatever we're doing.

I have the same problem. My problem goes away if I don't think too much, but thats easier said then done. After I'm with a girl a while it gets better and I never have the problem until I'm with a new girl. If you can get yourself to relax your problem will go away.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Its a mental hangup. Me personally, I'm never satisfied unless I cum at least 3 times, and I love long foreplay. Have you thought about seeing a councelor about this? There are experts who specialize in treateating sexual disfunction caused by psychological issue.

 

[WS6]

I'm actually in the process of making an appointment with one, hopefully they can help. I used to love long foreplay and everything about it, it really increased the desire and made me wanna have sex 10x times more, but now it's total opposite. It's funny that you mentioned that you're not satisfied unless you cum at least 3 times, because for me it's kinda difficult to get into it the 1st time, but after the first time I guess I'm more relaxed and 2nd, 3rd sometimes even 4th time things are a lot smoother, I guess maybe because there isn't really too much foreplay after the initial time.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I like to go down on a girl again after I'm totally finished though,have cam several times and can't get hard anymore. Guess that just me though. I'm very oral and love the taste of pussy.