i think my gf has low libido

[Sub-Zero]

disappear for a while

 

[GoldenDelicious]

look at your relationship wholistically to identify any causes/contributors

is she depressed?
does she enjoy life overall?
has your sex life staled out?
are there any ruts in your relationship?
are you making any of the classic mistakes ie bathroom door pen, changing in front of one another etc?

in my experience sex is a barometer of fun in your lives as well as in your relationship (unless youre prone to use it as a crutch) - as soon as something else in your life begins to suffer, so does the sex...so look at those first

either that or you can just slip some testosterone into her martini. after a while, youll dread it if she changes position in bed

 

[Lestat]

look at your relationship wholistically to identify any causes/contributors

is she depressed?
does she enjoy life overall?
has your sex life staled out?
are there any ruts in your relationship?
are you making any of the classic mistakes ie bathroom door pen, changing in front of one another etc?

in my experience sex is a barometer of fun in your lives as well as in your relationship (unless youre prone to use it as a crutch) - as soon as something else in your life begins to suffer, so does the sex...so look at those first

either that or you can just slip some testosterone into her martini. after a while, youll dread it if she changes position in bed

great fucking post as always man.

What is the bathroom door pen mistake?

and are you saying that changing in front of each other is not a good thing?

 

[ponyfitness]

Obviously if you have been putting up with it for three years its nothing new - and I don't get why you suddenly want to change it. I also can't believe you're sure about marrying someone who obviously isn't sexually compatible with you and doesn't seem to care about your needs physically. In my mind that's a sure way to regret in less than ten years.

I'd take a step back and really look at what you have and if it is what you want to put up with for another 40 years.

 

[pintoca]

from what i gather, she's cheating on you

word

 

[Gymgurl]

She is getting ti from someone else and is to tired to do you too

 

[alien amp pharm]

3 things I'd like to say...

1. I like girls who are lazy in bed...they usually don't mind if I ejaculate within a short period of time.

2. There are 2 Oaks on elitefitness? Which one is the SWV? or is that both?

3. Ludendorf, kiss my buttocks!

 

[Frisky]

she's probably young and unsure of herself/insecure. she probably never had to take initiative in the sack before. she also probably isnt horny either so it doesnt really cross her mind to initiate sex. do you initiate sex when youre not horny or not thinking of sex? probably not. is her low drive normal? no. but there are probably many factors that are causing it. if she wants to make changes, she can. but, she may not really feel motivated to do so.

i didnt start becoming comfortable with myself or horny even until I went off the Deprovera shot and until I was into my 30's. Your girl sounds a lot like how I was for a long time but I was also with someone I couldnt stand and I was inactive and miserable for lots of reasons/

bottom line: there are infinite number of things that can have an effect on one's sex drive. also, dont take it personally and also, if you see it as a problem, simply talk to her about it but dont do it in a way that is accusatory or mean. Im guessing she's not just doing it to be a bitch, otherwise you would have mentioned that in the first post.

Agree 100%

I would say its a combo of being insecure and the hormone levels. I wasn't comfortable with my body well into my late 20's... and I'd been married for years.

 

[crew9]

great fucking post as always man.

What is the bathroom door pen mistake?

and are you saying that changing in front of each other is not a good thing?

Going to the bathroom with the door open gives the other person visible access to stuff that no one really wants to see = the idea that "girls don't poop."

I think what he's getting at with the "don't change in front of each other" thing is that seeing it all the time is going to make ya used to it. Kinda like an aunt that sends you socks every Christmas but still wraps them. What's the point you already know what's underneath. Your SO naked should be an exciting thing not just an eh everyday thing.


Ok I'm done with my horrible analogies for the morning haha.

 

[Mavafanculo]

Check this thread out.

emotions/relationship/blahblahblah. Just throw chemicals at the problem.

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=495878

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