Have any of you ladies ever had....

[katz]

Night fly

I had dysplaysia ten years ago. I was really terrified because it was stage 4. I think stage 5 is cancer. Anyway my doc was great and recommended laser surgery which is more precise. The coloscopy was painful..like really bad cramps. Aftrer the surgery my cervix was tender when I'd move around ..for a couple of days. I was told I didn't have hpv. Regardless, it was very scary. I have since had a child. They didn't tell me that the laser surgery makes it more difficult to dialate while in labor. So my second labor (after the surgery) was as long and tedious as the first. I'm pleased to tell you that I have had no recurrences! Pm me if you want I'm also on yahoo im. Oh and I'm in nursing school too. Hang in there!!

 

[vixenbabe]

Scared? I would be as well, "D".

I took my best friend three year's ago for her procedure in her doctor's office.

Her prcedure consisted of "freezing" the suspect cells. Cramps and minor bleeding afterwards.

She has not had a problem since then, I'm happy to say!

Keep us posted , Hon!

....AND TELL YOUR MOM! She will be strength for you!

 

[Gladiola]

Kinda eerie - but this was just posted on the aerobics instructor bulletin board I also frequent (yeah, my day job is dull).

It was posted by a frequent poster & the title was "A sad story, & a lesson learned" - I CUT & PASTED as is.

My best friend has just found out that her sister has cervical cancer. It is stage four. It has spread to her back (I don't know whether it's in her spine, or soft tissue), and also in her lymph nodes. Her doctor has said that her prognosis is not
good. They are unable to operate, and can only treat her with radiation and chemotherapy. My friend's sister is only 41.

I asked my friend how it was possible that her sister's cancer had gone undetected for so long. I thought cervical cancer was a slow developing cancer. She replied that her sister has not had a pap smear in 15 years! I was shocked. Then my friend said that she went about 5 years without having had one. She did havene last year which was normal - thank god.

It's more than likely that you all know exactly why we have pap smears every year. But just in case you don't, this is the reason. Cervical cancer is very treatable in its early stages, but it is definitely life-threatening when it goes undetected. Don't put it off. Don't let your mothers, sisters and best friends put it off. My
friend actually did not know how important these tests were. I'm sure she'll never go five years without one again.

I can hardly fathom a greater tragedy than to be facing death at such a young age, when it could so easily have been detected, treated and cured. As horrible as our annual physicals are, what's half an hour out of your life once a year?

I'm sorry to go on and on. I just feel sick about it. Such a needless tragedy.

 

[Sassy69]

My pap came back w/ "abnormal" a few years ago. This happens in about 10% of cases where it just comes back "abnormal". Could be pre-cancerous. So I went thru the cryo-treatment. YUK. IT WAS GROSS. Certainly not the worst thing I've ever done... just uncomfortable because it takes a while for all the "junk" to come out and you sorta feel like you are "leaking" for about a week. Then the stuff that cryo'd takes a while to get itself flushed out of your system -- same as if you've ever had a wart treated w/ liquid nitrogen. Nuthin big... just uncomfortable.

After that you go back ever 3-4 months for a year to monitor it, and then every 6 months after that for a year.

The worst part is when it comes back "not normal" -- but what that really means is that it didn't particularly test positive for the specific things they test for -- it just came back sort of inconclusive. Then from there you do more specific testing if available or just dont' take chances and get the stuff removed.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Gurl - I didn't post up before because I have no experience w/this and I honestly didn't know what to say.... I am glad that I waited.

It NEVER ceases to amaze me that when help is needed all you have to do is ask - post up and IT WILL COME - LOL!

Now, you asked a question about how to tell your mom. I sadly, have an extremely strained relationship (to say the least) w/my own mother but perhaps I can shed some light on your sitch in regards to my own feelings as a mother.

If you were my daughter I WOULD DIE if you felt too afraid to come to me WITH ANYTHING! I mean that from the bottom of my soul.

I am trying to parent my daughters in such a fashion that they HOPEFULLY will not be afraid to come to me with ANYTHING - good news or bad.... happy or scary. I tell them DAILY that I am not perfect, that I am an adult who has and continues to make very adult mistakes - so I WILL NOT JUDGE THEM EVER. But if THEY DO NOT TELL ME (lie or leave stuff out, hence lie of omission) THEN I CAN NOT HELP THEM. Whatever it is - WE CAN GET THROUGH IT TOGETHER!

From the brief conversation that we had that day and from all the contact that I have had with your hunny I can not for the life of me believe that your mom is the kind of woman who would react in ANY FASHION that is different from one of love, concern and endless support.

You have ZERO to be ashamed of (and I could slap you for even thinking that!)... you are going through something that though it in all likelihood IS NOTHING (THANK GOD) would STILL SCARE THE POOPIES OUT OF ANYONE!

Just tell your mom, especially now that you are armed with KNOWLEDGE that at your annual something not quite normal was found, but that it in all likelihood is no biggie.... yes, you are a scared and concerned, but just like most things in life - you'll get through.... ESPECIALLY BECAUSE YOU HAVE SUPPORT FROM SO MANY WHO LOVE YOU! Give her a hug and cry if you like, ask her to come to the doc's if you want and if it is possible for her (some how I think if you really wanted her she would have no difficulty "finding" the time ) to come.

There is NEVER an easy way to tell someone that you love and who loves you - especially if you are like me - you don't want to add to their list of worries.... when you are frightened and feeling confused. But take it from me as a mother - I WOULD MOST DEFINITELY WANT TO KNOW!

Tell us how things go and give that man of yours a hug for me... tee-hee

Hug your mom for me too.... I hope that my daughters will grow to be kind, honest and decent young women like you.... then I will have accomplish much and will die happy. <------I SINCERELY MEAN THAT!

 

[Sassy69]

BUMP for the warm fuzzy!

When I got the "abnormal cell" thing from my doc, I started out by freaking. But then I started asking questions so I could understand if there was something I had done, something I could do, more information I needed to get. There is a history of stomach cancer in 2 aunts on both sides of my family, but none other that I am aware of. I asked if the potential "pre-cancer" was a hereditary thing - if I needed to discuss w/ my parents about a history of somethign in the family I didnt' know about, if it was something I may have eaten / not eaten, etc.

After eliminating all of this - he just said that 10% of paps come back "abnormal". Its not hereditary or environmentally caused. Just a statistic. So from there, you find out what is the next step and what needs to be done. The secret is set the shock aside long enough to get the information you need or to be patient enough to get to the next step before you lose it.

At this point, you have some sort of plan of attack and you can go to your parents and say exactly what is going on. Here's an interesting note... up until I had my boob job 2 years ago, I was always too embarrassed or whatever to mention this sort of stuff to my mom. When I decided to do the surgery (after 3 months of research & consulting w/ 3 diff docs, and of course, checking my finances!) I called my mom and said what I wanted to do and said that they didn't have to support me in my decision if they weren't comfortable w/ it, but I thought at least they had a right to know I was going into surgery under anesthesia - whcih always carries a small risk in itself. We had a long conversation about it and she were a little freaked. But the next night both she & my dad called back & said that they had talked about it and would support me in whatever I wanted to do. (THAT WAS VERY COOL OF THEM!)

Anyway, after discussing the size of my boobs w/ my dad, I really had no problem giving he the nasty details about this cryo treatment. I"m sure he would've been happier getting the short, undetailed version , but hey - he's my dad!

If anything, you can use the question of "is there a history of any cancer in the family that I should be aware of " as an opener. But the stress will be much less on you and on your parents if you just say what's going on.

 

[b fold the truth]

It broke me to read this. You know that I am here for you. I read part of this before I went to class this morning and the rest when I got back.

You know that I am here for you and will do all that I can. Still can't believe that you EVER thought that I would run from you because of this possiblity that you might have some sort of pre-cancerous thingy. (Sorry, but you know me and my KY terminology) . Well, you know my smile too.

We will find out all that we can to take care of this situation. OK?

Now...Get your big ol' butt up here for the weekend!!!!!!!!!!

B True

 

[Bikini Mod]

See B True.... didn't I tell you that there was an amazing woman out there - JUST FOR YOU! tee-hee

You and that sweet girl have a grand weekend and KNOW THIS - you are loved.....

*scratches head*

*rolls eyes up into head*

*snorts REAL LOUD*

.....now just WHERE have I heard that last phrase?!

Now I am going to go out with my good friends and MAKE SOME SERIOUS TROUBLE! hehehehehehehehehehehehheeee

Good night to all - be safe and be happy!

 

[catwoman]

Night Fly,

I can understand your situation. I entered into remission from my battle with cancer 4 months ago. I remeber when I first found out.... I was devistaded, all I could think about was the worst possible scenerio. But then I got educated and took the battle head on and for now I've won.

Keep your spirits, from what I have read in this thread you have lots of support.

catwoman

 

[b fold the truth]

spatterson: Well, how could I not be understanding? I can not change it...but it does kill me that I can not help her or take it away from her.

bikinimom: Were you quoting me exactly in that post? What can I say? Night Fly is a true southern belle.

everyone else: Keep Night Fly in your prayers. I just went and checked on her and she is sound asleep. All tuckered out and deserving of a rest. Just when I spend several days on one of these boards and feel that no one cares about anyone and this board has gone to trash...I run into a post like this one. God Bless all of you.

B True