FELLAZ- do you know how many guys your girl has banged??? and if so....

[lincoln]

i never said i was NOT immature... i have issues... i KNOW THAT... this thread is to help me get some understanding.. their is another thread on the sex board asking the girls how many guys they have been with as well....

and YES, my past SHOULD matter to them somewhat... if i have laid 30 chicks this past year then they should peg me as a player and not worthy....

I used to be just like you, I dated a girl who let me know to much info(She had been with 5 guys) and it ruined the way that I looked at her.

I think it an insecurity thing since my stats are waaay over that and it did not bother her.

To avoid this problem:


Second or third date I say this:

"The past is the past and I don't need to know about it. I don't care what or who you have done, just don't let me ever meet any of them."


Seems to work.

 

[StoneColdGold]

No offense taken. I hear what you're saying, Hannibal. I guess what I'm saying is... I don't WANT a girl to accept me at face value! I want her to get to know everything about me and have that only make her want to be with me MORE. I would hate to think that a girl is somehow settling in what she wants. Hell, if she thinks i'm a great guy and blah, blah, blah, but has always wanted to be with a guy who has a 9 inch cock.... ITS TIME FOR HER TO MOVE ON! See what I'm saying?

let me give you another example. assume i've been on a few dates with a girl and she looks great, is smart, and we have fun. the topic of our pasts come up and she says, "Oh, you don't need to tell me how many girls you've slept with. I don't care. That was in your past and it doesn't matter to me." Bzzzzzzzzzzz!!!! wrong answer! date over! Here is what she ACTUALLY just said: "I don't really have standards. I don't see anything really special about you. I'd just as soon date a guy who has slept with 20 women and cheated on half of them as I would date you."

Indeed, you are correct about my standards SERIOUSLY limiting my options with women. But it DOESN'T reduce my chances of being happy with someone. Dating someone who hasn't held sex in the same regards as I have is what would limit my chances of being happy! My last relationship is all the empirical evidence I need!

But, hey, I understand where you are coming from. As long as each person KNOWS what makes them happy... go for it.

 

[Hannibal]

SCG...see we are tryin to get to the same place...just using different roads. I agree with everything that you say. And to set the record straight a woman's past does matter to me...it would be stupid to think that it doesn't. As I would hope that my past would matter to her. It's just that I give every woman a clean slate to start with so to speak.

And no, the way you put it you are not limiting your chances at happiness...because the ones that you have eliminated from your search wouldn't make you happy anyway. So I definitely agree with what you are saying. I am just playing devil's advocate here somewhat. And I submit to you that people can and do change. So you have to allow for that when you discover a woman's past.

 

[krzysiu013]

ZERO

 

[Laserdude]

It won't matter to me if she's been with other men, shit I have been with other women, the best sex I have ever had was with a very experienced and very uninhibited woman, she was fantastic.

Now if you are young and want a virgin get ready to have to take the time to train her, if your into that sort of thing, and be ready for some very bad sex, and getting her to do what you want may be difficult to do. Ahhh... the days of finding a virgin who will swallow are thankfully behind me.

 

[WODIN]

I don't know...I don't care. To this day I have never asked. All you have is now, the past is irrelivant.

 

[Imnotdutch]

I agree.........does it really matter?? I dont usually bring the subject up.....not because I might not like the answer, just because it doesnt matter to me. But if she wants to tell me thats fine.....I just dont do jealous.

I cant believe that some of you people think that if she's been with 3 or more guys then she is ruined. Geez get a life.....she's still the same person no matter how many guys she's been with.

I don't know...I don't care. To this day I have never asked. All you have is now, the past is irrelivant.

 

[madbomber31]

wow, you guys who dont know and dont want to are strong willed mofo's.

 

[StoneColdGold]

And I submit to you that people can and do change. So you have to allow for that when you discover a woman's past.

Yes, this is very true. The above philosophical statement is the ONLY reason I dated my last girlfriend to begin with. She swore she had changed. But she hadn't. So while I believe the opportunity to change is always right in front of you, most people never actually take it.

Imnotdutch: I don't think a girl who has been with more than three guys is "ruined." I just think she's not for me.

 

[danielson]

wouldnt care whether it was 1 or 100......as long as we were having fun it all good. id have no problem forming a relationship with a 'slut' as people put it....but id be very concerned if she didnt practise safe sex...its enough to make me end the relationship. or if i could fit my elbow into her poontang...

whats in her past is her past. if it were a guy, most people would think he's 'the man' ior something like that (hey im not american ib have no idea what u guys say)....as long as she was faithful id be cool with it.