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FELLAZ- do you know how many guys your girl has banged??? and if so....

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how many? do you judge her on it? do you think negatively about it? does it bother you at all? share your thinking on this matter please...
 
GOOD GOD NO!!!! i'd go fucking crazy at that one... i cant even handle someone i am dating having slept with someone in the past, let alone gettin railed by 2 guys!!!
 
I don't understand what the big deal is about someone's
past. We all have done things that we probably wish
we hadn't. That's life, you learn from your mistakes.

Before anybody ask's their girlfriend or boyfriend
this question, they need to ask themselves if they
can handle the answer.
Then ask yourself, do you really want to know?
 
i never said i was NOT immature... i have issues... i KNOW THAT... this thread is to help me get some understanding.. their is another thread on the sex board asking the girls how many guys they have been with as well....

and YES, my past SHOULD matter to them somewhat... if i have laid 30 chicks this past year then they should peg me as a player and not worthy....
 
If you don't wanna know don't fucking ask!!
They probably gonna lie to you anyways!!

I asked this chick one time that gave me a blow job how many guys she's been with and she said 50. Hehe
 
I DO want to know... i dont know why i do... i guess to weed out the ones i think are sluts...

50??? you didnt bang her right?
 
madbomber31 said:
I DO want to know... i dont know why i do... i guess to weed out the ones i think are sluts...


MB...all I can say is don't ask questions that you can't handle the answer to. And we as men can NEVER handle the answer to that question...we want to think that we are boldy going where no man has ever gone before. However in today's society finding such a thing is a Holy Grail of sorts...and if she did say that she had never been with another guy then you would think that she was lying. Nothing she will tell you will work. I know that you say you want to know....but you don't.
 
madbomber31 said:
I DO want to know... i dont know why i do... i guess to weed out the ones i think are sluts...

50??? you didnt bang her right?

No, I didn't bang her but she sucked a damn good dick!!

If your looking to get laid it shouldn't matter how many guys she's slept with but if your looking for a quality girl to settle down with I think you would want the girl that has the best morals.
 
oh, i already know.... too late for that...

i just want to know everyone else's point of view... their thoughts, opinions... and 'situations' (ie. their girls' rating on the whore scale)
 
madbomber31 said:
oh, i already know.... too late for that...

i just want to know everyone else's point of view... their thoughts, opinions... and 'situations' (ie. their girls' rating on the whore scale)

Well man...I know I'll get flamed for this but here is my opinion. If I am with a girl, in a relationship, then it is because I like her as a person. And no matter what she has done in the past...all those actions and reactions are what has made her what she is. She is the sum total of all her life experiences. If I like her as a person then I have accept all of it. And if she's with me...she's with me...what happened in the past doesn't really bother me. There is nothing I could do to change it...and if I did change it then she wouldn't be the same person. But like I have said before...opinions vary...and that's just mine.
 
Hannibal said:


MB...all I can say is don't ask questions that you can't handle the answer to. And we as men can NEVER handle the answer to that question...we want to think that we are boldy going where no man has ever gone before. However in today's society finding such a thing is a Holy Grail of sorts...and if she did say that she had never been with another guy then you would think that she was lying. Nothing she will tell you will work. I know that you say you want to know....but you don't.


Hannibal is right on the mark with this one.. Someone said it here a while ago........ "As far as I'm concerned...she did not exist until she met me"
 
Hannibal said:


Well man...I know I'll get flamed for this but here is my opinion. If I am with a girl, in a relationship, then it is because I like her as a person. And no matter what she has done in the past...all those actions and reactions are what has made her what she is. She is the sum total of all her life experiences. If I like her as a person then I have accept all of it. And if she's with me...she's with me...what happened in the past doesn't really bother me. There is nothing I could do to change it...and if I did change it then she wouldn't be the same person. But like I have said before...opinions vary...and that's just mine.

I knew that you were a wonderful guy! :) You and I think alike on this...but, of course, we've already had that discussion, huh? :)
 
I think it kind of sucks that guys (like MB) think a girls number makes her a slut. I mean really...a person's past makes up who they are today, and that is the person that you want to be with, you know? Why judge them on their mistakes...especially if they don't judge you for yours?
 
Night Fly said:


I knew that you were a wonderful guy! :) You and I think alike on this...but, of course, we've already had that discussion, huh? :)

Yeah lady...like I told you before I never judge or expect anything from anyone. It's the whole "Sliding Door" idea....every decision that a person makes is part of who they are...if you like the person then you have to accept ALL the things that it took to make them themselves.
 
Night Fly said:
I think it kind of sucks that guys (like MB) think a girls number makes her a slut. I mean really...a person's past makes up who they are today

and if a girl has slept with a bunch of guys, had one-night stands, can go from sleeping with one guy to the next (even if its only her 4th guy to her 5th guy) without a worry, or treats sex like its no big deal, then the person she is today is a S-L-U-T.

MadBomber and I think very much alike on this topic. Only, he seems to think it makes us immature and we need to change. But I'm working on converting him. :) If a girl has slept with more than three guys, I don't want to date her. ESPECIALLY if she is in her early to mid 20's like me.
 
StoneColdGold said:


If a girl has slept with more than three guys, I don't want to date her. ESPECIALLY if she is in her early to mid 20's like me.

No offense...but in doing so you are severely limiting your chances to find happiness. It is so hard to find the right person to begin with. Once you start eliminating more and more possabilities...the odds are no longer in your favor.

Funny thing is I used to refuse to date a woman that smoked. It was a set rule. Then I got to thinking about all the women that I might have missed a meaningful relationship with because of a hang up that I had. I know that smokin and having sex are completely different but the point is still valid...IMO I mean if someone is willing to accept me at face value then I should at least be willing to do the same.
 
madbomber31 said:
i never said i was NOT immature... i have issues... i KNOW THAT... this thread is to help me get some understanding.. their is another thread on the sex board asking the girls how many guys they have been with as well....

and YES, my past SHOULD matter to them somewhat... if i have laid 30 chicks this past year then they should peg me as a player and not worthy....


I used to be just like you, I dated a girl who let me know to much info(She had been with 5 guys) and it ruined the way that I looked at her.

I think it an insecurity thing since my stats are waaay over that and it did not bother her.

To avoid this problem:


Second or third date I say this:

"The past is the past and I don't need to know about it. I don't care what or who you have done, just don't let me ever meet any of them."


Seems to work.
 
No offense taken. I hear what you're saying, Hannibal. I guess what I'm saying is... I don't WANT a girl to accept me at face value! I want her to get to know everything about me and have that only make her want to be with me MORE. I would hate to think that a girl is somehow settling in what she wants. Hell, if she thinks i'm a great guy and blah, blah, blah, but has always wanted to be with a guy who has a 9 inch cock.... ITS TIME FOR HER TO MOVE ON! See what I'm saying?

let me give you another example. assume i've been on a few dates with a girl and she looks great, is smart, and we have fun. the topic of our pasts come up and she says, "Oh, you don't need to tell me how many girls you've slept with. I don't care. That was in your past and it doesn't matter to me." Bzzzzzzzzzzz!!!! wrong answer! date over! :) Here is what she ACTUALLY just said: "I don't really have standards. I don't see anything really special about you. I'd just as soon date a guy who has slept with 20 women and cheated on half of them as I would date you."

Indeed, you are correct about my standards SERIOUSLY limiting my options with women. But it DOESN'T reduce my chances of being happy with someone. Dating someone who hasn't held sex in the same regards as I have is what would limit my chances of being happy! My last relationship is all the empirical evidence I need! :)

But, hey, I understand where you are coming from. As long as each person KNOWS what makes them happy... go for it.
 
SCG...see we are tryin to get to the same place...just using different roads. I agree with everything that you say. And to set the record straight a woman's past does matter to me...it would be stupid to think that it doesn't. As I would hope that my past would matter to her. It's just that I give every woman a clean slate to start with so to speak.

And no, the way you put it you are not limiting your chances at happiness...because the ones that you have eliminated from your search wouldn't make you happy anyway. So I definitely agree with what you are saying. I am just playing devil's advocate here somewhat. And I submit to you that people can and do change. So you have to allow for that when you discover a woman's past.
 
It won't matter to me if she's been with other men, shit I have been with other women, the best sex I have ever had was with a very experienced and very uninhibited woman, she was fantastic.

Now if you are young and want a virgin get ready to have to take the time to train her, if your into that sort of thing, and be ready for some very bad sex, and getting her to do what you want may be difficult to do. Ahhh... the days of finding a virgin who will swallow are thankfully behind me.
 
I don't know...I don't care. To this day I have never asked. All you have is now, the past is irrelivant.
 
I agree.........does it really matter?? I dont usually bring the subject up.....not because I might not like the answer, just because it doesnt matter to me. But if she wants to tell me thats fine.....I just dont do jealous.

I cant believe that some of you people think that if she's been with 3 or more guys then she is ruined. Geez get a life.....she's still the same person no matter how many guys she's been with.


WODIN said:
I don't know...I don't care. To this day I have never asked. All you have is now, the past is irrelivant.
 
wow, you guys who dont know and dont want to are strong willed mofo's.
 
Hannibal said:
And I submit to you that people can and do change. So you have to allow for that when you discover a woman's past.

Yes, this is very true. The above philosophical statement is the ONLY reason I dated my last girlfriend to begin with. She swore she had changed. But she hadn't. So while I believe the opportunity to change is always right in front of you, most people never actually take it.

Imnotdutch: I don't think a girl who has been with more than three guys is "ruined." I just think she's not for me.
 
wouldnt care whether it was 1 or 100......as long as we were having fun it all good. id have no problem forming a relationship with a 'slut' as people put it....but id be very concerned if she didnt practise safe sex...its enough to make me end the relationship. or if i could fit my elbow into her poontang...

whats in her past is her past. if it were a guy, most people would think he's 'the man' ior something like that (hey im not american ib have no idea what u guys say)....as long as she was faithful id be cool with it.
 
hell no i dont ask. I don't want to know how many shlongs shes had in her mouth. I dont bring it up also cuz idont want her to ask me that. Ive been w/ over 250 women but if she told me she was with 6 Id dump her.
 
I had a girlfriend once that had a reputation that I found out about after dating her for a couple months. It freaked me all out. I already cared about her at that point and it didn't suit her personality to have been banged by half the campus. I couldn't deal w/ it and we never made it.

My wife was a "untouched" when I met her. I know it is f-ed up for me to think this way, but that was a MAJOR strong point that surrounded her that led to my decision to make her my wife. I have been with probably 25 women in my days. I guess I am a hypocrite.

It would bug the shit out of me if my wife had been with 25 guys.

Just knowing that she could have had someone elses schlong in her mouth would freak me out beyond belief. I guess it is along the lines of her being smarter than to let every fraternity boy looking for a one night stand bang her. She was better than that and I adored her for it. She found a sincere man like myself and here we are 3.5 years later, married.
 
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I always like to know because then i have an idea of how many guys I have to be better than to impress her. It starts making me self conscious as to weather i am big enough, good enough or last last long enough. Cause we all know girls tell their friends this shit about us.
 
wanna know what is funny? NONE of us have stated how many guys our girls have banged... why??? cuz none of us want to be told we are dating a slut.... we all have the same worry as i have deep down.... we dont want a slut...
 
madbomber31 said:
wanna know what is funny? NONE of us have stated how many guys our girls have banged... why??? cuz none of us want to be told we are dating a slut.... we all have the same worry as i have deep down.... we dont want a slut...

I always ask them that too MB. My current has been w/ 5 guys...and she is almost 26. She is not a slut by any means. The kitty kat was tight till she meet me :)
 
I couldn't handle it. I say if it's something that could potentially affect a relationship, then keep it to yourself. Don't ask, don't tell.
 
there's no sense in asking cause if the girl likes you she's gonna lie about it, one girl i know was like i've been with 11 guys but if my bf asks its 3 ok!
 
nobody goes through life waiting for you and everyone you meet will have a past. if you can't put past aside you will never have a serious relationship.
 
but if i am the "love of their life" and they KNEW the guys before me were not... then WHY SLEEP WITH EM??? :)

god, i am so self centered its sick.
 
i broke up with my first girlfriend once i found out how many guys she slept with. Of course she lied to me and i found out the hard way by finding a letter full of the guys she slept with. I can't really remember how many were on the list since this happened 6 years ago but i think was number 13 or 15 on the list. zThe only good thing about her was that I banged her all the time, whenever i wanted..:D There ain't nothing like bustin 13 nuts in one night :D .

Later on I tried to convince myself it didn't matter but seeing that many names on that list but it messed up my mind. I finally decided to end it when i heard a lyric from an old rap song that was playing in her car. the lyric was " Momma said never marry a slut". And from there i said laters.:D I later found a nice wholesome(virgin) girl who goes out of her way to make me happy.
 
aside from me.... NINE!!! she is 24 years old, active since 17...
 
That's NUTHIN for a 24 year old woman dude. That is damn near celebate. With a small number like that you can at least know that she was sincere about who she chose to be with.

I think she deserves the benefit of the doubt man. :)
 
Numbers game.

FrankRizzo isn't too far off the mark.
The numbers say A LOT about the person , that has definitely been my experience.
The last woman I had really strong feelings had been with 9 others before I met her (which I think is a lot) was 26 at the time , and kept telling me just how much she had changed - she hadn't. SLUT
 
ya, i dont think i can handle this though... so this relationship will end up as friends who happen to love each other... glad it took 5 months to figure out...

i have concluded, i am immature.
 
Immature or got your eyes wide open - see it how you want.
At least you're not inconsistent - I wouldn't put my dick into any old pussy that walked in front of me either.
 
madbomber31 said:
ya, i dont think i can handle this though... so this relationship will end up as friends who happen to love each other... glad it took 5 months to figure out...

i have concluded, i am immature.

mb it's up to you (and her) what you do...far be it from me to try to tell you...

friends who happen to love each other...i thought that was as good as it got, in relationships...fwiw...i'd forgive a friend a lot of stuff...

just a few thoughts, i guess.

have a nice day then,

love
helen
 
Well, I know my G.F has had several long term
relationships (she's 34) so I know she's had a few
But ya know what...
Once I got in past the used spot it was all
virgin meat.;) ;)
Actually, it's been kinda of nice having a
partner who is experienced and know's her
own body, much more fun than the dead fish
I was married to for years, lame-o!
Yeah, the Ex was a virgin when I meet her and
I'll take experience anyday now over that.
As long as nobody compares you to previous
lovers.....who cares??
Just do a good job and she'll come back for more.:horny: :horny:
 
bomber I couldn't handle nine either. Although at 24, they could have all been 9-12 month fairly serious relationships, doesn't mean she's a slut. Remember, the older the girl the more dudes have stepped up.
 
Helen,
Actually I'd prefer not to be compared at all
Favorable or not..... I mean I don't really feel
any better knowing she was poorly screwed or well
screwed by her previous fling's....
I mean, Turn it around....would you feel better or
worse if I said you sucked cock worse than my
last 19 girlfriends,now would ya feel better if I said
you sucked better than those other 19....prolly not!

Just tell if I'm doing the right thing now.....here...today
in the present time..
Ya know...working all the knobs and dials right :p :p:
 
I wanted to know how many people my wife had been with, but it would not have changed my perception of her (unless the number was really high) And I told her how many people I had been with (she was somewhat repulsed but married me anyway)
Since then, I have asked about every detail and we have discussed our past in detail. If anything, it has brought us closer together.
 
Wow...I haven't even met 250 people in my life. How did you keep track of all those? Do you use a pitch counter like I use when i'm keeping my pitch count in a game?

HEY DAYS OF TANTRIC. I STARTED WHEN I WAS 13 AND HAVE BEEN A SEX MANIAC SINCE. I'VE SLEPT WITH ABOUT 18 WOMEN SO FAR THIS YEAR AND PROUD TO SAY IM HIV NEG AND STD NEG. I ACTUALLY MET A CHICK LAST WEEK I MIGHT STTLE DOWN WITH.
 
Re: Numbers game.

Mandinka said:
The last woman I had really strong feelings had been with 9 others before I met her (which I think is a lot) was 26 at the time , and kept telling me just how much she had changed - she hadn't. SLUT

EXACTLY! AMEN! Let's put that in perspective shall we?

DICK DICK DICK DICK DICK DICK DICK DICK DICK!

That is a lot of Dick, period. :)


Hey MB-- I'm telling you man, stop fighting it! I remember you were all torn up when dating that girl who had been with 7 guys. Then you went on to a girl who had been with 9??? COME ON MAN!!! Just accept that it bothers you and date accordingly. You will be much happier!
 
Well I asked this girl I was "seeing" briefly in dec-jan last year this very question. She said 9 or 10 and is 26. well I know how she so I called bullshit on this and asked another question.
"Of course that doesnt include blowjobs you have given has it?"

She didn't like the question until she realized I was joking.

I think point blank like I beleive Hannibal said. What people have done before you is really none of your business and EVERYONE has skeletons in thier closet, the ones that say they dont are full of shit. It's more important to judge(not the best word) people for the actions they perform now, not something they did when you did not even know them.

That being said I dont want a fucking virgin. And for anything relationshipwise I realize now I want to be with someone who will make me wait for that special day.Just not too fucking long though.
 
Binky said:
Helen,
Actually I'd prefer not to be compared at all
Favorable or not..... I mean I don't really feel
any better knowing she was poorly screwed or well
screwed by her previous fling's....
I mean, Turn it around....would you feel better or
worse if I said you sucked cock worse than my
last 19 girlfriends,now would ya feel better if I said
you sucked better than those other 19....prolly not!

Just tell if I'm doing the right thing now.....here...today
in the present time..
Ya know...working all the knobs and dials right :p :p:

I know what you mean...I was being realistic that if they've been with others they probably can't help comparing...but yeah, no need to discuss it - YIKES!!! :eek2::D

...forget it is more like...as you said...just tell me what you want me to do...don't tell me why so-and-so was better!!!!!!!!

Really I don't think I'd care...my panic is that CURRENTLY I am the only one...that's all I really really care about...that if my spouse is not happy with me it's not because there's someone else

that has to be the worst feeling in the whole world


I can honestly say I don't think I've been in that situation THANK GOD hope I never will be either... :(:(

(I cried my eyes out over this once at least...in fear...but then I cried my eyes out on a different day, for fear what if I ever unintentionally did that to someone else...caused that fear in someone else...good job I am so - unattractive it's impossible LOL :D;))

love
helen
 
hell, the previous girl only FUCKED one of those 7, sucked 6 other dicks though... but the difference is the previous girl did it to please guys... she felt thats what she had to do... this one has slept with guys while in a relationship... sad thing is, i have KISSED maybe 10 girls in my life... thats it! she has slept with 3 times the number of people i have... she says it wouldnt matter if i fucked 30 girls... it wouldnt??? that gives me even less respect...

i have this thought that every girl i am with should feel lucky to be with me... they should also have the high moral standard that i have.. i have not slept around (4), and never wanted to. i wanted a girl to be mine and only mine... i dont have any desire to play chicks, different pussy every night means nothing to me except that in the end i would be lonely. to know that other guys who DID NOT CARE about a girl i am with had the opportunity to spray their nut in a girl i am dating, is sick... some guy is out there thinking "dude, i was fuckin this girl and i yanked out on her face"... (NO, THIS DID NOT HAPPEN, just an example)... i dont want anyone to see me with a girl and have the privelage of saying "i fucked that chick"... it drives at me... i get the mental image of the girl being fucked, begging for more dick, asking to be fucked "harder, harder".. "deeper" "faster"... "please cum for me", "cum in me"... NO FUCKING WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i cant handle it... sick sick sick
 
MadB----There isnt going to be a right answer for a guy like you until some woman tells you that she has slept with no one. But even when that girl tells you that, you will ask her how many blow jobs etc. The older you get the more the #s add up for most people. If your not married by the age of 30, you wont be asking how many people she slept with but how many kids do you have. Another thing is dont ask if you are the best fuck she has ever had. They will tell you that you are every time. Truth is you are not. Suck up your insecurity and look forward not backward.
 
madbomber31 said:
hell, the previous girl only FUCKED one of those 7, sucked 6 other dicks though... but the difference is the previous girl did it to please guys... she felt thats what she had to do... this one has slept with guys while in a relationship...

yeah but it could be the same deal...she felt she had to...they encouraged her into it...just because she might have enjoyed it physically doesn't mean she wanted sex really, given a free choice...

heck even little kids 'enjoy physically' being abused by an adult, in a sense...:mad: that's why it messes them up so bad :bawling: because it seems bad, it feels good...they are too young to process it... :(

sad thing is, i have KISSED maybe 10 girls in my life... thats it! she has slept with 3 times the number of people i have... she says it wouldnt matter if i fucked 30 girls... it wouldnt??? that gives me even less respect...

mb that's just her way of saying "let's forget about the past....please...she wants to live in the now, in this relationship...

i have this thought that every girl i am with should feel lucky to be with me...

sweetie I'm sure she feels totally lucky to be with you...have you asked her? I bet she'd say she's never loved anyone like you...you don't have to believe her but really really don't you want to if she says that? And mayn't it be true, just maybe???

turn off the tv in your head sweetheart and look at what you have in front of you...before she is just one more memory...just a thought, no offense...

love
helen
 
Madbomber,
O.K. let's take a different approach then...
Try being the guy who busted a nut in some chick's eye!
I mean take this for example,
Every time I see my ex with her boyfriend
I always take the opportunity to remind him that I busted
her ass for 13 years, that I blew 1000 loads in her mouth,
etc: etc:
I can always see this just eating him alive....don't be
like that... let it go. stop obsessing. start screwing
the chicks.
It's gonna eat you alive.
Get rid of it...flush it! :toilet:
 
i like getting every ones opinion... its like a support group...
 
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