Erection problem (mental) - need help

[FreakOut]

I seem to have developed a problem after breaking up with my long time ex-girlfriend earlier this year that whenever I am about to fuck a particular girl for the first time, I have extreme difficulty getting it up.
I'm pretty sure it is due to tension/nerves, but I'm not sure...

I'm 20 and wake up with morning wood pretty much every day and often at random times during the day, so I'm sure it is all mental, and not hormonal. It's extremely embarassing and has resulted in me having to please girls with my fingers and tongue rather than with my cock..

Has anyone else experienced such a problem? Or have any solutions to ease my mind and help relax me before I'm about to sleep with a girl for the first time?

 

[DJ_UFO]

It's completely normal. Is mental, not physical. Do you still have feelings towards your ex? This mental barrier will go away by itself over time. Maybe you get too nervous and that's part of the issue. You are still young also...with age, you get more experienced with girls and those nerves dissapear.

 

[captainahole]

Just go with it. I wouldn't worry about it at all it is quite normal.
Your probably putting yourself under alot of stress because of it happening before.
I think if you just tell her it nerves she will be more than understanding.
As you said getting her off with your tongue and fingers should be more than exceptable for the ladies.
I'd be surprised if anyone said the opposite.

 

[Kabeetz]

You're nervous and anxious and you don't feel comfortable with a strange chick and then because u're nervous it'll happen again. I wish there was an easy answer for you bro. You're gonna meet a girl who just totally takes control of you and rapes you and're gonna break that little streak of yours and then u'll start loosening up and it'll be a non-issue in your rear view mirror.

Until then, just have fun and enjoy the sex (in whatever form u end up having it) with each new girl and whatever happens, happens. Don't let it stress you too much, life is too short.

 

[needtogetaas]

watch porn all day long and never jerk off.

 

[captainahole]

watch porn all day long and never jerk off.

lol. Could be an issue when you first pick her up though, I don't think it will go well if you try to hump her at the door.

 

[DJ_UFO]

watch porn all day long and never jerk off.

I used to do that before getting married. I might have to start doing it again now. lol

 

[needtogetaas]

I used to do that before getting married. I might have to start doing it again now. lol

lol