Do you find passion kind of disappears?

[ponyfitness]

I've been finding that over time my enthusiasm for getting laid with certain people dwindles over time until your drive just goes away. Unfortuantely this usually coincides with beginning to sleep with someone else. Then the sex is great and wonderful and plentiful and then the same thing happens and you stop having it three times a day and go down to three times a week and then once a week, etc.

Is anyone here in a relationship for over a year or two and still feels the sex drive that they did when the relationship started? Or is it more comfortable and therefore less frequent now, or when you both have free time and aren't tired instead of making a point of doing it every night?

In case you can't tell, my sex drive with my current partner is lower than ever.

 

[Frisky]

I've been finding that over time my enthusiasm for getting laid with certain people dwindles over time until your drive just goes away. Unfortuantely this usually coincides with beginning to sleep with someone else. Then the sex is great and wonderful and plentiful and then the same thing happens and you stop having it three times a day and go down to three times a week and then once a week, etc.

Is anyone here in a relationship for over a year or two and still feels the sex drive that they did when the relationship started? Or is it more comfortable and therefore less frequent now, or when you both have free time and aren't tired instead of making a point of doing it every night?

In case you can't tell, my sex drive with my current partner is lower than ever.

I never had that problem... up until I was just not attracted to him right before the marriage ended. And we were together for 11 years. Of course there were times when we wern't having sex everyday... have two kids both working and all of the family things piled up on that, sometimes we were both just way to tired.

I always made an effort to keep our sex life interesting.. I think that was the key to still wanting it alot, maybe that and I don't think I ever had any issues with a low sex drive in my life.

Spice things up... toys, lotions, different places in the house etc etc.

 

[Cutiebaby]

i never had the problem or passion dissapearing....I do have 3 kids 2 which are small and home all day so i can not tend to buisness as much as i would like....Been together about 8 1/2 years and no loss here

 

[needtogetaas]

I've been finding that over time my enthusiasm for getting laid with certain people dwindles over time until your drive just goes away. Unfortuantely this usually coincides with beginning to sleep with someone else. Then the sex is great and wonderful and plentiful and then the same thing happens and you stop having it three times a day and go down to three times a week and then once a week, etc.

Is anyone here in a relationship for over a year or two and still feels the sex drive that they did when the relationship started? Or is it more comfortable and therefore less frequent now, or when you both have free time and aren't tired instead of making a point of doing it every night?

In case you can't tell, my sex drive with my current partner is lower than ever.

bin with my wife 9 years and we have sex evry day.we would do it more if we could but we have kids.

 

[needtogetaas]

i never had the problem or passion dissapearing....I do have 3 kids 2 which are small and home all day so i can not tend to buisness as much as i would like....Been together about 8 1/2 years and no loss here

lol.you was thinking the same thing i was.kids going to bed erly tonight.

 

[Gymgurl]

Well after 14 years....yeas my sex drive is the same....but you have to keep things really exciting in the bedroom.....

 

[mrplunkey]

I think the key is to mix it up. Men are biologically programmed to want different partners. Good news is, it's easy to trick the programming with even subtle changes (positions, toys, costumes, different locations for sex, etc. etc.).

Tell her you want to do something radically different and see if that mixes it up.

 

[EnderJE]

I don't have the problem. 10 years here. I'll admit with the careers and the kids, it's hard to get in the mood sometimes; but when we're away from it all...it all comes back.

 

[nokaoibeachgirl]

I've been with my man just over a year and we have lived together almost 2 months. We used to do it at least once a day, now we are down to about 3 times a week. He lived with a roommate before and I lived at home and we are both realizing how challenging running a household can be. We both work extremely intense full-time jobs and I travel with work, lately our lives have been so crazy we haven't even been working out, so by the time sex enters the picture we are both just too tired. Hopefully once we get used to living together and running a household and I get used to my new job we will be able to do more of our 2 favorite things, working out and having sex. Sometimes I wonder if we are normal and if we don't have enough sex, but there is no one other than us that can determine that I guess.

 

[EnderJE]

I've been with my man just over a year and we have lived together almost 2 months. We used to do it at least once a day, now we are down to about 3 times a week. He lived with a roommate before and I lived at home and we are both realizing how challenging running a household can be. We both work extremely intense full-time jobs and I travel with work, lately our lives have been so crazy we haven't even been working out, so by the time sex enters the picture we are both just too tired. Hopefully once we get used to living together and running a household and I get used to my new job we will be able to do more of our 2 favorite things, working out and having sex. Sometimes I wonder if we are normal and if we don't have enough sex, but there is no one other than us that can determine that I guess.

lmao...wait until you have kids...