Can cheating once make your marriage better?

[CrazyK]

My point is you would attack your father and injure him enough to put him in the hospitol or kill him or tell your mother to "go to hell then have nothing to do with her ever again" over sex? I can assure you I am not trying to ease my own guild. My wife has given me full permission to fuck other women without her around, and I have as of yet to do so, or even make an effort. The point is, we are talking about sex, and regardless of what anyone does or says, when that temptation presents itself one might be surprised what they do, especially if the one offering is sexy enough and one happens to be made at their spouse or feeling unfulfilled with them sexually and/ or emtionally at the time of the offer.

Get real. People need to grow the hell up and stop being so quick to "never forgive their spouse" or just divorce over something like sex. There are FAR worse things done to people than your spouse having sex with someone in a one time fling that a lot of people seem to be willing to put up with. Physical and mental abuse are high on the list. Again, you all seem to place so much importance on sex as being something more than entertainment.

For some people sex is really intimate, for others it is just about busting a nut. I think we've all had each ''type'' of sex, and maybe a mixture of each. When I'm really intimate with a woman I personally don't look at it as just fucking.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

don't lower the rest of us to your standards, just because your morals, values, beliefs, whatever are differant then the rest of us don't try and force us to look at things based on your rational which I can assure you is not the popular choice, people know they are doing soemthing wrong when they cheat, and not everyone sees sex just as something thats purely physical with no emotional connection. Whatever works for you so be it, but most people aren't like you, for one the swinger crowd is extremly small and the average person is quite frankly disturbed by it

The reason I would attack my father or say something like that to my mother has nothing to do with sex, it has to do with respect and the fact that if one of them were to hurt the other like that I would be within my rights as their son to act how I see fit, I do not tolerate that kind of pain being inflicted upon someone if I am within my rights to do something about it (and I am if it directly effects me and you better believe seeing someone I love being hurt like that would) If you honestly believe the issue is just with sex then your extremly narrow minded, and thats fine for you but don't begin to think you can dictate that thought pattern to the rest of us, its far from the norm

Well I would not beat my father half to death or disown the woman who gave birth to me over something like that... so who here as the lack of standards? How do you know neither of them has ever cheated? It is very common today...

The popular attitude does not seem to be the successful one. 60% of all first marriages for an individual in our culture end in divorce. There is a very high rate of cheating, spousal abuse is common place, and I have meet men who admit to having hit their wife with their fist at least once. That being said, maybe the majority need to rethink their view of marriage and love.

I for one made a vow to love my wife above all others until death, and even when things get bad, I will not break that promise. I would die to save my wife's life if I had too, even if she "cheated on me". If you can't say the same, you do not know what it is to love someone.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

okay everyone this is annabelletx, bbf's wife. first above all we love each other unconditionly and have total trust in each other. yes we do swing, but it is just something we do from time to time. it does not control our lives and it is just recreational. when we are at home alone, ie. just the two of just our sex life is about being intimate with each other and is a special moment between the two of us. we can seperate our personal intimacy and our swinging. we own swing if the other person is completely comfortable with the situation, if not we leave. we can read each other like a book without having to say a word. and that only comes when you can completely trust someone. as for the fact of me giving bbf permission to play without me, well that was when i was working alot of nights, we weren't seeing each other often and the condition was it had to be a one night stand and i had to know about it first. and he gave me the same option, however, neither of us has ever acted upon this. why would i want to go out and fuck around when i have my man you loves and satisfies me home. the rest is just us being honest about how we feel and setting bounderies.

 

[ortiz34]

Cheating made mine much better. She cheated, I divorced her ass

She's poor, nearly homeless with zero-self esteem

I have my own house, business, and a foxy girlfriend who actually cares about HERSELF.

I'd say it was worth it in the end for me, but for her?

 

[Gambino]

lol @ bbf and annbelletx fucking circus

 

[hammercurls]

shit go fir it!!!!! its not like your gonna care for her and comprimise your life for her. thats what your wifes for. its just sex no intimaCY

 

[needtogetaas]

You have already decided what you are going to do. I really can't answer this one because I can't relate...my wife and I are swingers and have a non-jelous relationship.

that is so.eeird.how do you do it.

 

[LindseyCita]

No it will not make it better, all trust will be lost and there is no point of marriage.

 

[LindseyCita]

cheating ruin relationship Period..enough said...

so stop your mumbo jumbo

you eitheir are a cheating bastard or your not..


but yet... you said your wife has gave you permission to fuck other woman


well you guys are both cheaters and obvs. sex is just sex to you guys


bec. if you really love someone... sex means more than sex alone.... and will not go running around having sex with another being.


Ppl like you make me sick

That's how it is for me. Most of my female friends are the same way. I would never get close to such trash. I can smell it miles away and any woman that has some respect for herself will smell it too.

 

[Agathe]

pwned.