Approaching 3somes...

[Spectre]

The wife and I have been talking about a 3some for along time (years). We have discussed all the details and an exit strategy if one become uncomfortable. We have done it before, but the situation lent itself.

Anyways, I love flirting with the girls (i am married not dead, I don't cheat).. I don't have a shyness problem, however I am having difficulty with the approach to a threesome angle.

I get into converstation easily, then the girl drops the question "are you married?" "yup, happily actually' but the conversation doesn't go far after that..

The farthest I got so far was "you should me meet my wife, she would like you" She thought that was cool...

later

 

[BigMackster]

Dude, I've thought of that but never had the balls to even ask my wife if she would consider it. Damn, you're pretty lucky. I've actually tried hinting it to my wife before, but she I was crazy, and quickly changed the subject.

I guess "in my dreams" the ideal approach strategy is to have a dinner for three and then dessert (if you know what I mean).

But I do see the problem here. Getting the other girl interested. Once they know you are married they stay away. However, I would continue the flirting with a girl that knows you are married, but don't talk about your wife (almost like you are going to have an affair with this girl). Bring your wife in after you have had sex with this girl, it might be easier that way. Now remember that I do not have experience in this field, just fantasy!

Big Mack

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

Being that I am a single women and am part of the threesome, I think I am qualified to answer this question. You must have a open minded, trusting relationship with your spouse.

First you have to find someone that is interested in doing a threesome and also that she is bi-sexual. Start by being friends first to make sure all three of you are comfortable together. Spend some quality time together and flirt with eachother. If things are going to go that way, nature will take it's course.

Good luck and have fun.

 

[Zerxes]

Two words brother. Strip club. Alot of open-minded girls, and they mostly ALL are bisexual. You'll have to have your gf set it up though, as they mostly hate men, or at the very LEAST are too used to guys hitting on them. Have her initiate some conversation, get her a lapdance, and have her do the flirting bro and see where it goes from there. Id think you'd have a better chance there than you would at a regular club. At least there you know that the girls are into that type of thing ya know?!

 

[Spectre]

38Special; I agree and we are fine with technical matter... I think I can do fine once I find someone open to the idea. It just the initial finding.. Not sure I want to post ads or hit the swing bar scene. So far I have found more couples that are open to the idea than single ladies, might as well swing! I appreciate your input.

Zerxes: Done it! It's awesome, the girls love her. Maybe we should go again and make a move.

<ok OT strip club story>

After our kids and the rigours of life took it's toll on my wifes breast, we decided to get a boob job to bring them back to a little better than stock. I went to the strip club and asked the girls who the best Dr was, believe me they were pro's! Great advice. Aditionaly, these girls surrounded me and danced on me until I was done because they thought I was cool. They made me swear that they could play with the finished products, I kept my word. That was a good night!

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

38Special; I agree and we are fine with technical matter... I think I can do fine once I find someone open to the idea. It just the initial finding.. Not sure I want to post ads or hit the swing bar scene. So far I have found more couples that are open to the idea than single ladies, might as well swing! I appreciate your input.

Zerxes: Done it! It's awesome, the girls love her. Maybe we should go again and make a move.

<ok OT strip club story>

After our kids and the rigours of life took it's toll on my wifes breast, we decided to get a boob job to bring them back to a little better than stock. I went to the strip club and asked the girls who the best Dr was, believe me they were pro's! Great advice. Aditionaly, these girls surrounded me and danced on me until I was done because they thought I was cool. They made me swear that they could play with the finished products, I kept my word. That was a good night!

Are you sure that you and your S/O can handle sharing with the other couple. My experience is that she would share him with me, but they weren't comfortable with me bringing in another guy and share me and my g/f. Make sure you both can handle the situation or it could be a bad experience for the four of you.

 

[Spectre]

38 I'll just PM ya about it, not gonna make people read a conversation.. Thanks!

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

hey man I'm in the same boat as you.I have even read a book on the approach for a threesome,I want it so badlly.Anyways most of their strategies have the girl do most of the work,and then eventually bring the guy into the picture,which makes sense,because to have a threesome the single girl has to be curious sexually.One way was to be at a restaraunt,bar...ect,and be seperated from your wife,sitting apart from each other.Have your girl flirt with other girls,and if they bite,have your girl say"hey you wanna have some fun and talk with that guy over there"?Or you could just go to swing parties,and hook up on really hot bisexual girls like my girfriend and I do

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

38 I'll just PM ya about it, not gonna make people read a conversation.. Thanks!

I didn't receive any pm from ya, please try that one again.

 

[Spectre]

Me bad, got sidetracked.. Done

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

Me bad, got sidetracked.. Done

Thanks, I did get it....Like I said before, enjoy all of it...It is a memorable experience..

 

[TEXgrl]

we've been lucky enough to always be approached for them, we've never actually had to actively look for anyone!

you sound like you're on the right track, just make sure you discuss everything before hand, what's ok and not ok to do, etc. saves yourself drama down the road

 

[Puddles]

Married 18 yrs. this month...had our first 3-some a few months ago with a good friend of mine, 38DoubleDamnGood. Had some of the wildest times but things got a little out of control so we're just back to being friends now...struggling with some personal stuff but it'll all work out.

So, Friday night I went out with another girlfriend of mine while our husbands are away for the weekend together. We're sitting at the bar and the chick next to me is HOT, real cute Texas accent too which I hadda comment on. We talk a little off and on and she's commenting on how sweet it is that my husband and I are sending text messages back and forth on our cell phones...we've been apart for all of about 12 hrs. She's divorced. Her shrimp appetizer comes and she starts feeding me off her fork. So...I'm wondering if she's bi or what. I'm texting my husband telling him this stuff, he's wanting details, etc. and I'm just enjoying the ride. I asked him if he wanted me to give her my number and of course he said yes. LOL

So, lots of conversation and 4 hrs. later, as I'm getting ready to leave I get a business card from the place and write down my name and number and hand it to her before we leave. She hugs and kisses me and says that it was great meeting me and we'd have to get together again.

I haven't heard anything from her and I'm not really expecting to but this seems to be a logical way to get things going, right? It's just so weird...I've never given my number out to a stranger before...well...not in 18 yrs...and NEVER to a chick with these kinds of expectations! It's fun!

 

[Puddles]

I get into converstation easily, then the girl drops the question "are you married?" "yup, happily actually' but the conversation doesn't go far after that..

The farthest I got so far was "you should me meet my wife, she would like you" She thought that was cool...

later

Try adding in that you enjoy the occasional 3-some with your wife. What's the worst that can happen? A look of shock? If you just say that you're happily married, how is the woman supposed to take that? You gotta put an "in" for her somehow!

 

[Spectre]

You bring up a good point, rarely do you every find anything when your looking for it, things just arise out of otherwise normal situations.

Yowza! Your husband must a been going nuts thinking about what you were doing. I bet he went back to his hotel and took care of some buisness... Don't lie Strumba, you know you didl! I sure as hell woulda..

We I turn 31 this month, been married 10, wouldn't have it any other way!

 

[Puddles]

I'm sure he did a little beating all by himself as did I. I was wild with horniness this morning, so when I woke up, I sent him a text message on his phone saying that I was playing with my pussy and if he called, he could get me off. Well...the phone rang a minute later and we were both getting eachother off! That was the best morning I've ever had apart from him. I can't wait for tonight when he gets back to his room. <EG>

It would have been ok getting myself off alone this morning, but when that phone rang, hearing his voice on the other end...hearing him say things to me, listening to him breathe...it just got me off really well!

FYI, guys, hair gell does not work well as a lube, Stromba can vouch for that one. LOL He's gonna kill me for that.

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

Married 18 yrs. this month...had our first 3-some a few months ago with a good friend of mine, 38DoubleDamnGood. Had some of the wildest times but things got a little out of control so we're just back to being friends now...struggling with some personal stuff but it'll all work out.

So, Friday night I went out with another girlfriend of mine while our husbands are away for the weekend together. We're sitting at the bar and the chick next to me is HOT, real cute Texas accent too which I hadda comment on. We talk a little off and on and she's commenting on how sweet it is that my husband and I are sending text messages back and forth on our cell phones...we've been apart for all of about 12 hrs. She's divorced. Her shrimp appetizer comes and she starts feeding me off her fork. So...I'm wondering if she's bi or what. I'm texting my husband telling him this stuff, he's wanting details, etc. and I'm just enjoying the ride. I asked him if he wanted me to give her my number and of course he said yes. LOL

So, lots of conversation and 4 hrs. later, as I'm getting ready to leave I get a business card from the place and write down my name and number and hand it to her before we leave. She hugs and kisses me and says that it was great meeting me and we'd have to get together again.

I haven't heard anything from her and I'm not really expecting to but this seems to be a logical way to get things going, right? It's just so weird...I've never given my number out to a stranger before...well...not in 18 yrs...and NEVER to a chick with these kinds of expectations! It's fun!

Okay, I guess TheStromba rubbed off on me, because I feel a jealous
thinking about you and another chic. Even worse that I have been replaced.

 

[Spectre]

Supernav, dewd that is the best idea I've heard yet. I wouldn't go far as to say 'hot' per se, she's a milf alright. Long pretty blond hair almost to her knees and a great rack (christmas present). I went to a country dance place tonight, and it was a 5 to 1 girls to guys ratio. I was there to see some old buddies, but I may put that one on the list as well.. I'm feeling better about this, thanks so far everyone!

 

[Puddles]

Okay, I guess TheStromba rubbed off on me, because I feel a jealous
thinking about you and another chic. Even worse that I have been replaced.

You'll never be REPLACED. No matter what happens in the future, it's never going to be like it was with you. I think we learned a lesson with you though...any future 3-somes will be pure fuck-buddy kind of stuff...never again will we get close with someone else. It just becomes too much. I will not go through that ever again. You know what I mean. ILY*** Read my post on Chat about partying when you have kids. I'm still hurting but becoming stronger. http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=170233&pagenumber=2

 

[Spectre]

Big Mackster, I was rereading the thread and forgot to address your post, I'm sorry bro.

I'm lucky you bet. Don't know how long you've been married but believe me, things can and will change. Just make sure most are positive.

I don't think the bait and switch idea would be so swell for me. But I believe you can safely flirt and then drop the question, actually I tried it last night and it almost worked.

 

[dragonmona]

Being that I am a single women and am part of the threesome, I think I am qualified to answer this question. You must have a open minded, trusting relationship with your spouse.

First you have to find someone that is interested in doing a threesome and also that she is bi-sexual. Start by being friends first to make sure all three of you are comfortable together. Spend some quality time together and flirt with eachother. If things are going to go that way, nature will take it's course.

Good luck and have fun.

Great advice!!!