Approaching 3somes...

[Spectre]

The wife and I have been talking about a 3some for along time (years). We have discussed all the details and an exit strategy if one become uncomfortable. We have done it before, but the situation lent itself.

Anyways, I love flirting with the girls (i am married not dead, I don't cheat).. I don't have a shyness problem, however I am having difficulty with the approach to a threesome angle.

I get into converstation easily, then the girl drops the question "are you married?" "yup, happily actually' but the conversation doesn't go far after that..

The farthest I got so far was "you should me meet my wife, she would like you" She thought that was cool...

later

 

[BigMackster]

Dude, I've thought of that but never had the balls to even ask my wife if she would consider it. Damn, you're pretty lucky. I've actually tried hinting it to my wife before, but she I was crazy, and quickly changed the subject.

I guess "in my dreams" the ideal approach strategy is to have a dinner for three and then dessert (if you know what I mean).

But I do see the problem here. Getting the other girl interested. Once they know you are married they stay away. However, I would continue the flirting with a girl that knows you are married, but don't talk about your wife (almost like you are going to have an affair with this girl). Bring your wife in after you have had sex with this girl, it might be easier that way. Now remember that I do not have experience in this field, just fantasy!

Big Mack

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

Being that I am a single women and am part of the threesome, I think I am qualified to answer this question. You must have a open minded, trusting relationship with your spouse.

First you have to find someone that is interested in doing a threesome and also that she is bi-sexual. Start by being friends first to make sure all three of you are comfortable together. Spend some quality time together and flirt with eachother. If things are going to go that way, nature will take it's course.

Good luck and have fun.

 

[Zerxes]

Two words brother. Strip club. Alot of open-minded girls, and they mostly ALL are bisexual. You'll have to have your gf set it up though, as they mostly hate men, or at the very LEAST are too used to guys hitting on them. Have her initiate some conversation, get her a lapdance, and have her do the flirting bro and see where it goes from there. Id think you'd have a better chance there than you would at a regular club. At least there you know that the girls are into that type of thing ya know?!

 

[Spectre]

38Special; I agree and we are fine with technical matter... I think I can do fine once I find someone open to the idea. It just the initial finding.. Not sure I want to post ads or hit the swing bar scene. So far I have found more couples that are open to the idea than single ladies, might as well swing! I appreciate your input.

Zerxes: Done it! It's awesome, the girls love her. Maybe we should go again and make a move.

<ok OT strip club story>

After our kids and the rigours of life took it's toll on my wifes breast, we decided to get a boob job to bring them back to a little better than stock. I went to the strip club and asked the girls who the best Dr was, believe me they were pro's! Great advice. Aditionaly, these girls surrounded me and danced on me until I was done because they thought I was cool. They made me swear that they could play with the finished products, I kept my word. That was a good night!

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

38Special; I agree and we are fine with technical matter... I think I can do fine once I find someone open to the idea. It just the initial finding.. Not sure I want to post ads or hit the swing bar scene. So far I have found more couples that are open to the idea than single ladies, might as well swing! I appreciate your input.

Zerxes: Done it! It's awesome, the girls love her. Maybe we should go again and make a move.

<ok OT strip club story>

After our kids and the rigours of life took it's toll on my wifes breast, we decided to get a boob job to bring them back to a little better than stock. I went to the strip club and asked the girls who the best Dr was, believe me they were pro's! Great advice. Aditionaly, these girls surrounded me and danced on me until I was done because they thought I was cool. They made me swear that they could play with the finished products, I kept my word. That was a good night!

Are you sure that you and your S/O can handle sharing with the other couple. My experience is that she would share him with me, but they weren't comfortable with me bringing in another guy and share me and my g/f. Make sure you both can handle the situation or it could be a bad experience for the four of you.

 

[Spectre]

38 I'll just PM ya about it, not gonna make people read a conversation.. Thanks!

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

hey man I'm in the same boat as you.I have even read a book on the approach for a threesome,I want it so badlly.Anyways most of their strategies have the girl do most of the work,and then eventually bring the guy into the picture,which makes sense,because to have a threesome the single girl has to be curious sexually.One way was to be at a restaraunt,bar...ect,and be seperated from your wife,sitting apart from each other.Have your girl flirt with other girls,and if they bite,have your girl say"hey you wanna have some fun and talk with that guy over there"?Or you could just go to swing parties,and hook up on really hot bisexual girls like my girfriend and I do

 

[38DoubleDamnGood]

38 I'll just PM ya about it, not gonna make people read a conversation.. Thanks!

I didn't receive any pm from ya, please try that one again.

 

[Spectre]

Me bad, got sidetracked.. Done