And yet another update thread on the ex

[Carmen]

Ummm we're not talking about 'people' here, we're talking about WOMEN.

You just implied that 'most' women would be happy to see their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable/upset/unhappy etc. Is this true? Because that's seriously news to me.

some women. some men.
thats how some people are.
if you've ever been tortured by an ex in any way, you'd know.

 

[randk]

okay, so I am new here and dont know the whole story but.....you do have a life outside of the work place right? not saying you should let her run you off but there are alternatives other than going and feeling like shit or staying home and being the same.

 

[Lestat]

okay, so I am new here and dont know the whole story but.....you do have a life outside of the work place right? not saying you should let her run you off but there are alternatives other than going and feeling like shit or staying home and being the same.

thanks man, valuable second post.

 

[velvett]

some women. some men.
thats how some people are.
if you've ever been tortured by an ex in any way, you'd know.

Exactly.

 

[jd_uk]

some women. some men.
thats how some people are.
if you've ever been tortured by an ex in any way, you'd know.

Velvett didn't say some women though, she said 'most'.

Hmmm this has put me in rather a bad mood. Time for some exercise.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I didn't read any of the replies but she is only being nice to you. She's not trying to stir up any feelings IMO. She is over you by the looks of it.

 

[velvett]

Velvett didn't say some women though, she said 'most'.

Hmmm this has put me in rather a bad mood. Time for some exercise.

Stop analyzing, keep dating.

 

[Lestat]

I didn't read any of the replies but she is only being nice to you. She's not trying to stir up any feelings IMO. She is over you by the looks of it.

she apparently was over me before it ended...

 

[ringperm]

It seems to me that most of you people approach this, like she's an evil witch trying to collect all the souls she can, to present them like a gift to Satan or something.

Haven't any of you just considered the fact, that she might just a regular person with some concern for her ex boyfriend, and some curiosity on how he's doing. Expecially considering that he was pretty beaten up about the whole breakup.
For her to notice his departure is nothing short of normal behaviour. Wouldn't any of you be a bit curious about seeing your ex after so long, especially considering the circumstances?

The way I remember the initial threads about this breakup, was that it had nothing to do with her being mad, spiteful, vengeful and all that. She ended the relationship, because she fdidn't love him anymore. Not because he cheated, abused or did something terrible. If that where the case, I would agree with the sceptics here.

The not that she left, shows IMO a bit of decency. With this note she tells him that she knows/suspects that he's still hurting and is therefore giving him a heads up regarding the softball game. She's not gonna put her life on hold because of this, but is giving him a choice to decide on attending this softball event, with the knowledge of she being present. I think it shows maturity. But I may be wrong, I may be reading this incorrectly. But I think I'm on to something.

Mr. Lestat, in my honest non-professional opinion. I think you should go, I think this will not only make you stronger, but it will also make you take the first/another step towards "recovery" (in lack of a better word). Avoiding her will not solve anything, and in a way only make things worse.

Whatever you decide, good luck

 

[velvett]

Haven't any of you just considered the fact, that she might just a regular person with some concern for her ex boyfriend, and some curiosity on how he's doing. Expecially considering that he was pretty beaten up about the whole breakup.
For her to notice his departure is nothing short of normal behaviour. Wouldn't any of you be a bit curious about seeing your ex after so long, especially considering the circumstances?

Of course it's natural to notice but she was asked not to contact him and yet she found the need to anyway. If she were sensitive she would not continue to appear in his life in any way or form.

I dated a guy who's ex behaved the very same way and they broke up months prior to my meeting him the very same as as Lestat. After three years of her passive aggressive behavior and final straw of her dropping by his house near midnight b/c she ran out of gas (yah ok) I was like "you can have him".

I mean it's over - they are not dating, thay can't be friends at this point in time - why, WHY contact this person if you know it will hurt them?