And yet another update thread on the ex

[superqt4u2nv]

Her email is praiseworthy for its maturity and directness. I am at a loss to understand why Lestat cannot handle this interaction as if it were with any other adult.

B: Hi Sarah.

S: Hi Brian. How's it going?

B: Not bad.

S: Cool. Good luck in the tournament

B: You too, catch you later.



She's over you. Follow her example; she's doing more than a little to be courteous to you.

Damm good point... I was going to say go and ignore her but if you think about it taking the high road is probably better.

 

[wutangnomo]

Didn't you send to your ex a direct to-the-point email that you copied from Goldendelicious clearly stating NOT to contact you again??

If so, your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.

 

[velvett]

Didn't you send to your ex a direct to-the-point email that you copied from Goldendelicious clearly stating NOT to contact you again??

If so, your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.

THANK YOU.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

When I had a girlfriend dump me. She tended to show up at things just to see how I was getting along without her. That was absurdly annoying and painful. Thankfully I have always had women freinds so, a couple of them told me they were going with to one of the softball games and after game beer fest. They told me to just play along and they'd make sure it was fixed.

They were ALL over me throughout the whole time. I didnt' know how well the one woman could kiss, but she about melted me into my socks with her kisses. It was tough to maintain perspective about what they were doing, but I"d known them for years, so the brain won out over the massive erection they were causing.

In any case, we went to the beer party after etc. I got a SCATHING phone call from the ex about the two WHORES I was with and how she never wanted to see me again!

Funny, but that was what she said when she broke up with me.

I had a tough time looking at the two women as just friends as easily after that though as you might imagine...

 

[Becoming]

your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.

I agree as well... BUT- I would act as if it doesn't bother me (even if it does)

DON'T EMAIL HER BACK OR ACKNOWLEDGE HER EMAIL

Go to the softball thing if you want - be nice but short winded if you run into her (re MTSW suggestions)... Kick her teams ass... Act as if she is just anyone else that you barely know/barely acquainted with...

Move on with your life for your sake, or just act like it (even if you are pretending)...

If she IS playing some kind of game with you... the best plan is to act as if she really effect you anymore (that will burn her up)... If she ISN'T intentionally messing with you - she will see you have moved on and leave you the hell alone...

Just go about your business like she doesn't effect you (even if you have to pretend) and don't acknowledge the email...



BTW if when you are at the softball thing she bumps into you and asks about the email - then you know she is evil...

I already think she is by asking why you left early at the baseball game, that was not necessary (and snoopy)

I would have an answer prepared for both 1) why you left the baseball game early (say you had a date) and 2) her email (thought she could read and understood you didn't feel you had any good reasons to talk with her anymore) - just in case she pulls some crap at the softball thing

 

[Becoming]

They were ALL over me throughout the whole time. I didnt' know how well the one woman could kiss, but she about melted me into my socks with her kisses. It was tough to maintain perspective about what they were doing, but I"d known them for years, so the brain won out over the massive erection they were causing.

In any case, we went to the beer party after etc. I got a SCATHING phone call from the ex about the two WHORES I was with and how she never wanted to see me again!

Funny, but that was what she said when she broke up with me.

This is so much more fun than the civilized route...

 

[Lestat]

I agree with MTSW in principle, but in practice that is easier said then done.

Believe me, I'd love it if I was able to just go, do things as I normally would, even casually say hi and have it not affect me. Have it not turn my stomach or put me on edge. That'd be great. But for now, its just an act, and an act I don't like playing. Its far easier just to avoid then to act is my point.

And I don't think she's being malicious, as much as I'd like to because it adds more fuel the the fire of angre I have buring towards her, I think she is just young, not sure how to handle things, and making her best attempt at keeping things civil. She doesn't always do or say the right things.. but then again, neither do I.

 

[velvett]

And I don't think she's being malicious, as much as I'd like to because it adds more fuel the the fire of angre I have buring towards her, I think she is just young, not sure how to handle things, and making her best attempt at keeping things civil. She doesn't always do or say the right things.. but then again, neither do I.

Then none of this should bother you.

 

[jd_uk]

Stop analyzing, keep dating.

Analyzing?

It seems to me that most people here including yourself are over-analyzing the situation.

If it were me then i'd go the tournament and i wouldn't pretend anything or play any revenge games to show her that i was 'alright without her'. If when i see her i feel a bit uncomfortable, then i wouldn't put on a fake smile or anything to disguise this fact.

It's up to Lestat of course, but my advice to Lestat is BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. If she really is a bitch and it gives her some satisfaction to see that you're still hurting then fuck her, take satisfaction in knowing that you're better than her (I'm assuming that like me you wouldn't ever enjoy to see an ex hurting because of something you'd done).

 

[velvett]

Analyzing?

It seems to me that most people here including yourself are over-analyzing the situation.

If it were me then i'd go the tournament and i wouldn't pretend anything or play any revenge games to show her that i was 'alright without her'. If when i see her i feel a bit uncomfortable, then i wouldn't put on a fake smile or anything to disguise this fact.

It's up to Lestat of course, but my advice to Lestat is BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. If she really is a bitch and it gives her some satisfaction to see that you're still hurting then fuck her, take satisfaction in knowing that you're better than her (I'm assuming that like me you wouldn't ever enjoy to see an ex hurting because of something you'd done).

I'm sorry, I have a terribly sarcastic sense of humor - I was only playing with you.

As a side note, you should go back and read all of Lestat's other threads about the ex and come back and see/say what you think.