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And yet another update thread on the ex
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jd_uk
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Lestat said:
Why act? There's no need. If she see's your'e still hurt, who cares? It doesn't matter
Go with your feelings . I don't think you really need all this advice being thrown at you about revenge games etc. You seem a far more mature and decent person than most people both on EF and in real life.
I personally don't think there's any need to act any differently from the way you're feeling. If you feel uncomfortable, don't hide it, if you feel like you're getting over her, again dont hide it.
Oh I am, she is a cool chick too.velvett said:
I've got other issues there. I'm starting to feel a bit smothered.... I'm not really looking to go out and date a ton of chicks as I have been.... but I hung out with this girl last night till around midnight, then today she basically asked to hang out today and/or tomorrow after I had already invited her over Thursday...
She just enjoys spending time with me (who wouldn't).. but I need my personal space.. its pretty crucial to me.. my workweek is filled from 8-5 or so.. then with working out and softball league the majority of my evenings are fairly filled. I have no problems seeing someone a couple times a week, which I think is more then enough at first... when I started getting serious with my ex we started seeing each other nearly every day and it was fantastic, but early on, I had to tell her to chill out, and don't assume we're gonna hang every night. I felt like shit having to say that, because I'm always assuming the chick just thinks I don't like her much or am seeing someone else. but that's not it.. I just like time on my own.. like tonight, the idea of getting home, watching some football, having nothing to do and no one in particular to see.. that appeals to me. I'm not a loner or anti social by any means.. its just that when I start seeing someone everyday or too frequently... I stop looking forward to it and start looking forward to the time AWAY from the person which is fucked.
jd_uk
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velvett said:
Plenty of people have suggested that he Lestat should put on a front and pretend to be completely 'over her' in an effort to try and get something back on her.
This is both revengful and a game, i see no need for it.
To pretend only shows weakness IMO.
I understand you're only trying to help lestat but just don't agree with your methods.
jd_uk said:
Pretending not to be hurt is not revengful, having your new girlfriend introduce herself to your ex as so and so's girlfriend is revengful.
Getting through all aspects of life you need to "save face", in both personal and business relationships.
If you get fired are you gonna start bawling to you boss that you have no job and you were unfairly let go when you run into him in the supermarkert or are you gonna be polite say hello and keeping going on with your life even though your feel like shit inside.
awittyusername
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Damn, I have to admit I was wrong about never taking advice woman about relationships. Velvet is right on everytime. And, sugarplum is looking at thing objectively also.
Lestat, take it from an expert. No one has been dumped more than me. However, (like you) I have used the experiances as drive to improve my body, income, and self happiness.
Like vel and sug are telling you women (and some men) take pleasure in knowing that they still have an effect on you.
My suggestion
1. e-mail her back saying "I was having at the company party, but I was late for something else and had to leave." Thats it no Hi or bye
2. Goto the game like its no sweat. (I know its hard)
3. Say exactly what Matt sky said. Except, I would throw in the optional joke like.."keep your eye on the ball" or call her "Wiff" or something.
4. I wouldn't bring a chick unless she was flaunting a guy in your face. She already knows you are seeing other girls. Trust me girls find this shit out
5. Do not get angry or tell her not to contact you or go anywhere you will be. (I know its hard) And, definately dont try to get revenge. Your revenge will come later. (thanks in part to her dumping you) I promise she will regret her actions when she see's how much you improved your life, how good you are compared to the others, and how happy you are and could have made her.
Batter Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lestat, take it from an expert. No one has been dumped more than me. However, (like you) I have used the experiances as drive to improve my body, income, and self happiness.
Like vel and sug are telling you women (and some men) take pleasure in knowing that they still have an effect on you.
My suggestion
1. e-mail her back saying "I was having at the company party, but I was late for something else and had to leave." Thats it no Hi or bye
2. Goto the game like its no sweat. (I know its hard)
3. Say exactly what Matt sky said. Except, I would throw in the optional joke like.."keep your eye on the ball" or call her "Wiff" or something.
4. I wouldn't bring a chick unless she was flaunting a guy in your face. She already knows you are seeing other girls. Trust me girls find this shit out
5. Do not get angry or tell her not to contact you or go anywhere you will be. (I know its hard) And, definately dont try to get revenge. Your revenge will come later. (thanks in part to her dumping you) I promise she will regret her actions when she see's how much you improved your life, how good you are compared to the others, and how happy you are and could have made her.
Batter Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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