And yet another update thread on the ex

[jh1]

What I really feel, which is not sure what I should tell her, is that seeing her is painful, it brings back memories that I want to forget.

Don't tell her it hurts to see her.

But I would ask her not to play in the tournament. Tell her you have always been in it and would appreciate her not polluting the event with her skank ass....

If she refuses, make sure she knows that you will not be there because nothing is fun if she is around.

 

[Robert Jan]

who is that pretty lady with the cat?

 

[Dial_tone]

If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.

Not going would PROVE she has power over him. He HAS to go. I'm reading this differently than most. I don't feel like she's trying to fuck with you. I think she's probably a pretty classy girl, but you need to make her understand you don't want to see her anymore than you have to for the time being.

 

[jh1]

who is that pretty lady with the cat?

my gf you assnugget... she is in my profile pic...

now go hate a dog somewhere else...

 

[jd_uk]

If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.

Why should he have to pretend anything? Who cares if she knows that she holds some power over him? There's no shame in showing your emotions.

It seems weird to me that its the women on this thread that are giving this advice, almost like you're speaking from experience.

Surely women aren't so evil that they take satisfaction in seeing their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable?

 

[strangebrew]

show up, bring a date, ignore her.

 

[Lestat]

I agree with Dial Tone, not going would prove that she has some power over me.

The thing is though, its not that she has the power, well maybe it is, but its that I just don't want to be anywhere near her, I don't want to see her, I don't want anything to do with her. is that power over me? Maybe so.. but I can't really change it.

Luckily, when I saw this email from her it didn't tie my stomach up in knots like her emails would have done 2 months ago... that is a good sign.

 

[from zero]

show up, bring a date, ignore her.

Fück yeah!


Or, follow velvett's original advice.

I enjoy both.

 

[velvett]

Not going would PROVE she has power over him. He HAS to go. I'm reading this differently than most. I don't feel like she's trying to fuck with you. I think she's probably a pretty classy girl, but you need to make her understand you don't want to see her anymore than you have to for the time being.

so will going and crumbling.


One could suggest that by not going and expressing to her that I will change my life to NOT include you because I don't want you in my life even though you try and appear into it when you can without questionable notice.

If she really cared for his feelings she would NOT go to play in the softball game, she would spare his feelings since she would most likely know his personality and habits well since she dated him.

Like I said - Lestat (sorry to talk about you like you aren't here) either has to not go or go and make a statement of strength and even better as Strangebrew suggested bring a hot date and ignore her.

 

[Robert Jan]

my gf you assnugget... she is in my profile pic...

now go hate a dog somewhere else...

assnugget... cool.

respect.