Straps are definitely not in the gay category when properly used. They are if you use them on stuff you don't absolutely need them for though.
I believe Thatbloke likes actual hooks whereas I prefer actual straps. Both work great. When I use my straps I put my hand on the bar and loop the strap under the bar and then over the top and grip it so I'm only gripping the thin width of 1 strap layer. Alot of guys do multiple loops which is not the way imo.
I only use them on power shrugs because my grip is not strong enough to resist the explosive movement of that weight. If you can hold onto 405 np and are doing an actual "explosive" power shrug that looks like the second pull of a clean then you sir have some strong ass hands.
I decided to use them on stiff-legged deads because my goal is not to get a grip workout since I'm doing 2 sets of 10. I pretty much want grip a non factor when I do these so I can concentrate more on the stretch of the hams and pressing through as I come up.
I haven't done power shrugs in ages, but I'm going up 20lbs a week and 10-15lbs ew with the sl deads. I suspect within about 4 weeks I'll be using 405 on power shrugs and 315 on stiff legs.
Obviously I don't use them on regular deads nor heavy rows so I still get a decent grip workout. I'm not using chalk on my deads atm and don't have a problem holding 450+ for reps.
Last time I had my grip tested without doing any specific training I tested 165lbs on a very expensive hand dynamometer so I could easily close the captain's of crush #1 and only 30lbs off the #2.
My opinion is that grip strength should never be neglected, but outside of being able to hold onto a max deadlift, clean or a heavy dumbell row that is all that is necessary for a strong lifter unless you are a strongman competitor or hand strength specialist and absolutely require a monster grip.
If your spinal erectors are being held back on maximal strength because of your grip which could be holding you back on your max deadlift then straps may be the answer. I guess it all depends on how much heavier your rack pulls are than your 1 rep max deadlift.
As of this coming Friday or Saturday I will be doing rack pulls 2" below the knee with my previous max deadlift and don't require straps or chalk. You may be 100lbs or more over your dead and in that case I would say that you are not grip deficient so the use of straps is warranted.
Lifting gloves are always gay because they protect from callus buildup and as every man should know, strong callused hands are manly and smooth soft hands are girly and that's just the way it is. Straps do not fit into this specific criteria for gayness.
Excessive straps use can lead to dorkville.
This is all purely my opinion.
But, I am not alone on this...
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