Why do some women get FAT after they been in a relationship for a while?

[conundrum]

you guys are forgetting that its only 10 lbs?

have none of you ever flucuated 10 lbs? I know I have! Damn This does not mean she will be a fatass later - it just means she's let herself gain about 10lbs right now.

yes, maybe alittle more than 10lbs ...but I don't have to like it

 

[Spartacus]

tell her bro, i know there's a risk of sounding superficial/shallow, but tell her "you've started putting on a bit too much weight, il be honest with you, im not as attracted to you as when we started seeing each other, i'd be more than happy to help you train and lose the weight if you want"

plus one

 

[milo hobgoblin]

This is like asking why it gets warmer when the sun comes up...


/milo puts on flame proof suit and hides

 

[musclemom]

If she's already getting fat at age 21 without even having been pregnant or anything, then that's not a good sign. The prognosis is not good. And if it's that important to you, then just dump her ass.

TITCR. Seriously.

Take it as I'm saying it, Conundrum, IMO, you are either in a relationship with a person, or an image. If it's the person, you really aren't going to be too strung out about appearances as long as they're healthy (and I happen to believe that you can carry some extra weight and be healthy as long as you exercise regularly). If it's the image, how they look will always be important to you. Far better to hook up with someone whose equally obsessed with their appearance, but don't be surprised when they criticize you if you let yourself slip, or if they complain about your wardrobe, etc.

 

[Wulfgar]

I like boning fatties

 

[Tatyana]

I believe if her parents are fat then eventually down the line some where she will be fat too. I always look at the parents. To me that story never lies...if its in your genes and you don't do anything about it, it will eventually be you.

You may have missed my earlier posts.

If obesity is genetic, then EVERYONE has it, it would only be 5% of the population with any really odd polymorphism that would have them be obese (like ghrelin/leptin mutations).

It is our primitive fat storing genes, that once had humans survive when we lived in caves, not adapting to modern lifestyles.

It is more environmental, we live in an obsesogenic environment.

Modern life, the foods we eat, heating, transport is making us fat.

There are certain cultures that have more of a tendency to getting fat because of their cultural practices, both the USA and the UK are facing this right now.

There are aspects of genetics that are highly deterministic, but it is more of a dance, nature via nuture, the environment impacts the genes we have, and genes are expressed differently in response to various environmental conditions (including new interesting things like maternal nutrition or starvation).


Think about it, the world is fat now, there are more people who are overweight and/or obese than there are people who are starving, and this has happened within 40-50 years.

Genetic shifts do not happen that fast.

 

[conundrum]

After I starting dating a girl, eventually I meet her parents. In my mind if they're parents are fat and the relationship isn't doing anything for me I just let it run itself out and I always for one reason or another happen to bump into that girl 2 months or so down the road and the girl always seems to be fatter than when I was seeing her. Almost every single girl. Why is that? I don't think depression is the case for these women. Almost every single women as gotten fatter after I stopped seeing them and one of the reasons I stopped seeing was because I lost interest do to their weight gain.

If only I could only find a women who was into health and nutrition as much as I am. Actually, I did find one but she's spoken for..SHIT..on to the next one.

I'm really not interested in what society thinks is healthy or not healthy. I know what I want and like in a women and I am not going to stop looking until I find her...If that means my standards are to high, than so be it! I not a person who is willing to settle for someone that doesn't come close to the stardard I am looking for in a women. That being said, I will probably die a single man.

I am the alone on this island?

 

[Tatyana]

After I starting dating a girl, eventually I meet her parents. In my mind if they're parents are fat and the relationship isn't doing anything for me I just let it run itself out and I always for one reason or another happen to bump into that girl 2 months or so down the road and the girl always seems to be fatter than when I was seeing her. Almost every single girl. Why is that? I don't think depression is the case for these women. Almost every single women as gotten fatter after I stopped seeing them and one of the reasons I stopped seeing was because I lost interest do to their weight gain.

If only I could only find a women who was into health and nutrition as much as I am. Actually, I did find one but she's spoken for..SHIT..on to the next one.

I'm really not interested in what society thinks is healthy or not healthy. I know what I want and like in a women and I am not going to stop looking until I find her...If that means my standards are to high, than so be it! I not a person who is willing to settle for someone that doesn't come close to the stardard I am looking for in a women. That being said, I will probably die a single man.

I am the alone on this island?

Most people have to learn how to take care of themselves, you could always 'train up a girlfriend'

I would find someone who you love their personality and soul and then do this.

Basing a relationship on looks on mostly on looks is just a lose-lose situation in the long run.

Obviously you need that physical attraction, but people do get older and change.

Fat is fixable, personality characteristics are pretty much fixed for life.

 

[heatherrae]

man, superficiality is a bigger turn off than a few extra pounds, IMO.

 

[velvett]

After I starting dating a girl, eventually I meet her parents. In my mind if they're parents are fat and the relationship isn't doing anything for me I just let it run itself out and I always for one reason or another happen to bump into that girl 2 months or so down the road and the girl always seems to be fatter than when I was seeing her. Almost every single girl. Why is that? I don't think depression is the case for these women. Almost every single women as gotten fatter after I stopped seeing them and one of the reasons I stopped seeing was because I lost interest do to their weight gain.

If only I could only find a women who was into health and nutrition as much as I am. Actually, I did find one but she's spoken for..SHIT..on to the next one.

I'm really not interested in what society thinks is healthy or not healthy. I know what I want and like in a women and I am not going to stop looking until I find her...If that means my standards are to high, than so be it! I not a person who is willing to settle for someone that doesn't come close to the stardard I am looking for in a women. That being said, I will probably die a single man.

I am the alone on this island?

So the real problem is your standards in combination with your girlfriend.

I have to honest here, you seem both shallow and immature (unbending is a trait of immaturity) - shallow is shallow and that's just how some people are no need for apologies but immaturity + whining about what you want is just irritating.

So I would suggest either talking to your girlfriend about it diet and working out and seeing if she is willing to change for you or simply break up with her but tell her why you are doing so.

And in the future only date someone that is like yourself and of you should find someone that you thought was like you but turns out not to be - dump them too and move on.

I'm sorry if that's blunt but it's not my style to sugar coat it.