Why do some women get FAT after they been in a relationship for a while?

[musclemom]

man, superficiality is a bigger turn off than a few extra pounds, IMO.

My dear girl, think about the internet site we are hanging around on Superficiality is axiomatic to its very nature.

The majority of the men on this site do not compete and never will. They just want to be bigger and more cut than the next dozen guys. They even want their women to be small and petite to make their muscles appear larger.

By contrast it's been my observation that the women have one of three reasons for being on here: They hang mainly in the chat, they actually compete or they are trying to get in shape/stay in shape. The women that do use enhancements do so for competitions, to enhance their libido for their oversexed juicer s/o's or to stave off the aging process/hormonal down regulation.

Granted, that's a very broad paintstroke and you know what they say about sweeping assumptions ...

 

[heatherrae]

My dear girl, think about the internet site we are hanging around on Superficiality is axiomatic to its very nature.

The majority of the men on this site do not compete and never will. They just want to be bigger and more cut than the next dozen guys. They even want their women to be small and petite to make their muscles appear larger.

By contrast it's been my observation that the women have one of three reasons for being on here: They hang mainly in the chat, they actually compete or they are trying to get in shape/stay in shape. The women that do use enhancements do so for competitions, to enhance their libido for their oversexed juicer s/o's or to stave off the aging process/hormonal down regulation.

Granted, that's a very broad paintstroke and you know what they say about sweeping assumptions ...

touche.

 

[heavy_duty]

My wife called me a fat bastard last week. Man she doesnt pull any punches.
Just be forward with your little girlfriend

 

[conundrum]

So the real problem is your standards in combination with your girlfriend.

I have to honest here, you seem both shallow and immature (unbending is a trait of immaturity) - shallow is shallow and that's just how some people are no need for apologies but immaturity + whining about what you want is just irritating.

So I would suggest either talking to your girlfriend about it diet and working out and seeing if she is willing to change for you or simply break up with her but tell her why you are doing so.

And in the future only date someone that is like yourself and of you should find someone that you thought was like you but turns out not to be - dump them too and move on.

I'm sorry if that's blunt but it's not my style to sugar coat it.

I never once said I was unwilling to help her learn how to train and eat. My standards are high for a reason, because I am unwilling to lower them is not a sign of immaturity....If I was immature I wouldn't give a shit who I date...Yes personitly is key, but also within that personality there also has to be a sense of drive, determination and will. If I'm dating a girl and she starts to let her self go I make every effort to sublimanally make suggestion and constantly ask her to train with me and instuct her not to wait till she gets hungry to eat, instead to eat small meals throughout the day. I would never tell a women I care about that I think she is fat or needs to shed a few pounds.

For example: we have wedding to go to in August and I told her I want to drop 10lbs for the wedding, so I suggested we have a little competition to see who could lose the weight the quickest...I don't think this is such a bad suggestion.

My initial question was very basic, when some women get confortable in a relationship they tend to not notice sometimes if they've put on weight. Becasue they still fit into the same clothing is not a good measuring stick, over time clothes stretch.


You lead a horse to water, but you can't make her drink it.

 

[Spartacus]

Some of us got dealt a shit hand when it comes to metabolism and tendency to gain weight.

I screen for that now.

 

[velvett]

You miss understand - I never said you were not willing to help, I said you should either talk her about diet and exercise or let her loose. And I didn't say that having high standards is immature I said it was shallow (fitness people by nature are shallow) and I made no criticism for that. My only criticism towards you was that if you did nothing about it and simply whined about here that would make you immature (unbending).

You don't have tell her she gained weight - she knows - you know how to fix it, all you have to do is get her involved and from what you have said here in this last post, you already know how to do it tactfully.

So if you really dig this girl get to it - she will love you for it - there's not a woman alive that wouldn't want to know how to look their best.

The worst possible thing that could happen is that she does not want to diet and exercise and you grow apart - time is valuable - find out what the future will bring now.

I hope that make better sense.

I never once said I was unwilling to help her learn how to train and eat. My standards are high for a reason, because I am unwilling to lower them is not a sign of immaturity....If I was immature I would give a shit who I date...Yes personitly is key, but also within that personality there also has to be a sense of drive, determination and will. If I'm dating a girl and she starts to let her self go I make every effort to sublimanally make suggestion and constantly ask her to train with me and instuct her not to wait till she gets hungry to eat, instead to eat small meals throughout the day. I would never tell a women I care about that I think she is fat or needs to shed a few pounds.

For example: we have wedding to go to in August and I told her I want to drop 10lbs for the wedding, so I suggested we have a little competition to see who could lose the weight the quickest...I don't think this is such a bad suggestion.

My initial question was very basic, when some women get confortable in a relationship they tend to not notice sometimes if they've put on weight. Becasue they still fit into the same clothing is not a good measuring stick, over time clothes stretch.


You lead a horse to water, but you can't make her drink it.

 

[conundrum]

You miss understand - I never said you were not willing to help, I said you should either talk her about diet and exercise or let her loose. And I didn't say that having high standards is immature I said it was shallow (fitness people by nature are shallow) and I made no criticism for that. My only criticism towards you was that if you did nothing about it and simply whined about here that would make you immature (unbending).

You don't have tell her she gained weight - she knows - you know how to fix it, all you have to do is get her involved and from what you have said here in this last post, you already know how to do it tactfully.

So if you really dig this girl get to it - she will love you for it - there's not a woman alive that wouldn't want to know how to look their best.

The worst possible thing that could happen is that she does not want to diet and exercise and you grow apart - time is valuable - find out what the future will bring now.

I hope that make better sense.

Yes, it makes sense, but I don't feel that I'm shallow for wanting a women to look her best or a certain way. Attraction is what gets the ball rolling, so why forget about one of the initial things that started it all. If I'm making sacrifices to look and feel my best I can't see why it would be such a bad idea for the girl I'm dating to jump on board.

Appearance is not by any means all I care about but I feel it is one of the main factors that keeps my sex drive so high.

thanks for your input though, much appreciated.

 

[cindylou]

Yes, it makes sense, but I don't feel that I'm shallow for wanted a women to look her best or a certain way. Attraction is what gets the ball rolling, so why forget about one of the initial things that started it all. If I making sacrifices to look and feel my best I see why it would such a bad idea for the girl I'm dating to jump on board.

Appearance is not by any means all I care about but I feel it is one of the main factors that keeps my sex drive so high.

thanks for your input though, much appreciated.

attraction is what gets you there, but its not what should keep u there. its okay to be shallow, most of us are on here, lol. just accept it!!!

 

[conundrum]

attraction is what gets you there, but its not what should keep u there. its okay to be shallow, most of us are on here, lol. just accept it!!!

I guess love will just take over and everything will be alright....bye bye libido.

Why are my beliefs only shallow in a women's eyes?

 

[musclemom]

I guess love will just take over and everything will be alright....bye bye libido.

Why are my beliefs only shallow in a women's eyes?

Because, generally speaking, women have a slightly different view of things. We tell you boys over and over again, if you love her and want to be with her, and want to father children with her, realize her body WILL change. If you spend more than 20 years with her even if you are childless, her body WILL change. Gravity catches us sooner and it's meaner to us.

So you're being critical of your girlfriend of 9 months for gaining 10 or so pounds tells us a few things:
1. You really aren't in love her.
2. You won't stay with her.
3. Your relationship with her is heavily focused on physicality/appearances.

You're asking us why women who get comfortable in relationships gain weight. I think she's, subconsciously, hoping you'll leave so she can hook up with a guy that really wants to build a future with her instead of hanging onto you when you're clearly not that guy.

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