Who else prefers girls with serious boyfriends?

[corythosaurus]

You have a mean side SoKlueles?

 

[SoKlueles]

When it comes to my SO, yes I do. It sucks when you give them all you have and more....and they repay you by fkn around on you....so they deserve to be ballless

 

[sweetnes11]

Well, I'll risk sounding like a Dr Phil or a Oprah so here goes...

Usually (but not always) someone who's exclusively attracted to married or otherwise unattainable sex partners have some form of child abuse in their past. Has a lot to do with a fear of intimacy.

Hope I didn't piss yet another person off.

Athos : you took the words right out of my mouth , ok maybe not the Dr. phil part, but anyway.

It sounds to me like you don't want anyone , that might have a slight chance of having a loving relationship with.

Sex is not love, no matter how many women you have sex with you won't find it that way.

But there is alway the chance that you will, but you can't have her because she is taken. Then you are the one that is hurt.

Besides that just isn't cool to do, and shame on the women you are with . I feel sorry for you and there boyfriends.

Thats my opinion , and 2 cents worth

 

[plornive]

I have no problem with fair criticism. Even when someone tells me they would stick ice-picks into my knees and saute me on low heat, I am truly not offended.

But I think people should remember that our feelings and desires are not always aligned with our actions. There are a lot of people who may feel and act the same as me, but act indignant when presented with the idea.

I didn't wake up one day and say that I was going to speciallize in involved chicks. It developed slowly.

Therefore, if the only response you have is one of moral judgement, it will fly right past me.

 

[sweetnes11]

I can imagine the guy getting really jealous and pissed off. Honestly, that is part of the pleasure. I've even fantasized about beating him and nailing his girl in front of him. And I'm pretty sure that if shit got serious the guy would be in much more danger than me. I've seen pictures of him.

I don't think I've ever been sexually abused, although the idea doesn't offend me. I think some people classify anything other than monogamy as a disorder by default. I'm not sure about the fear of intimacy thing. I'll look into that.

He might not be as big as you , but that dosen't really make a difference. there are lots of equalizers in this world. You might even beat him , but revenge is revenge.

The fact that you are getting pleasure, from the thought of causing someone pain is a little off, you might need to seek professional help.

 

[plornive]

Most people didn't even think about the dynamics and possible pleasure and pain of such a situation, good or bad. I think 30% of the people did. The rest just spewed some nonsense hardcoded in their minds.

 

[plornive]

Eyes wide shut.

 

[BileStew]

Id beat the living shit out of u and tie u up,then stick ice picks in ur knees, pull out all ur teeth and ur tongue with a pliers , then id take out a blowtorch and put it on a real low setting........

Den Id start on her...........she would be sittin just across from u

Damn...were you in Pulp Fiction?

 

[Mandinka2]

I have no problem with fair criticism. Even when someone tells me they would stick ice-picks into my knees and saute me on low heat, I am truly not offended.

But I think people should remember that our feelings and desires are not always aligned with our actions. There are a lot of people who may feel and act the same as me, but act indignant when presented with the idea.

I didn't wake up one day and say that I was going to speciallize in involved chicks. It developed slowly.

Therefore, if the only response you have is one of moral judgement, it will fly right past me.

Dude , with the greatest of respect (none) ur a sick fuck to be gettin ur jollies this way , u need to be able to enjoy fuckin without knowing ur causing another living soul pain.... I honestly don't know if u were abused urself , but I have been cheated on and if I could get away with it , I would really visit the most incredible torture upon ur ass... what's above is only the start. Of course I won't ever get that chance but the point being I'm CERTAIN that what ur doin is healthy neither for urself nor any of the other parties and I suggest u get urself checked out.

 

[plornive]

Dude , with the greatest of respect (none) ur a sick fuck to be gettin ur jollies this way , u need to be able to enjoy fuckin without knowing ur causing another living soul pain.... I honestly don't know if u were abused urself , but I have been cheated on and if I could get away with it , I would really visit the most incredible torture upon ur ass... what's above is only the start. Of course I won't ever get that chance but the point being I'm CERTAIN that what ur doin is healthy neither for urself nor any of the other parties and I suggest u get urself checked out.

Fair enough. I should expect this type of reaction to my post.

1. I'm sorry to hear of your past personal pain from being cheated on. That being said, people cheat all the time and what you don't know won't hurt you. Long term relationships are usually about keeping your eyes wide shut, like it or not. How many people would you like to torture, and would you only torture the ones who were relatively open about their activities?

2. Define 'healthy'. Is a long-term monogamous relationship 'healthy'? What's better: cheating or divorce? Further, what's worse: Suppression or expression of socially unacceptable but socially pervasive activities? It's up to you.

3. Europe and North America are the only places in the world where marriage is taken to such an extreme ideal that people believe cheating might never happen to them. Long-term relationships usually depend on cheating, from what I have seen. Is that unhealthy? Should we blame certain parties?

To be very honest, I am extremely dissapointed in most of the responses here. I thought people might give me some insight. Instead, I see stick-up-ass, you-don't-understand-my-pain responses left and right. Having said that, there are a few insightful replies, particularly the one about avoiding intimacy.