Stress over report cards?

[Bikini Mod]

Smurfy, I didnt read the entire thread I am on my way out but a few things I wanted to impart (since you aksed).

1 - You sound like a VERY VERY VERY good mother. relax.

2 - You sound like you have a VERY VERY VERY healthy and normal kindergarten aged boy. relax.

I'll be more specific when I have time later to read the entire thread. But I wanted you to not feel so stressed about something that most mothers stress about when any child goes off to school, no less when it is their first.

 

[Smurfy]

One of the most unproductive methods of communicating is to criticize other peoples' parenting techniques when you dont know the child or the parent or the situation first hand. Nothing good can come of that kind of an exchange, especially with a stranger on the internet discussion board. It's one thing if someone asks for advice on how to approach or handle a specific situation, but to tell someone they are wrong in how they handled their child is pretty useless. Oh yeah, and also, it's very common for parents to believe they are the experts.

 

[habitualhealth]

One of the most unproductive methods of communicating is to criticize other peoples' parenting techniques when you dont know the child or the parent or the situation first hand. Nothing good can come of that kind of an exchange, especially with a stranger on the internet discussion board. It's one thing if someone asks for advice on how to approach or handle a specific situation, but to tell someone they are wrong in how they handled their child is pretty useless. Oh yeah, and also, it's very common for parents to believe they are the experts.

So true. Gah, I wish I WERE an expert. More so, wish that mini me popped out with a manual. Unfortunately, God didn't intend it that way. My life revolves around my little girl. And no matter what transpires between she and I....all I can do is continue to ask God to guide me in the right direction for her.

And you're right, it's hard not to get defensive when someone who knows nothing about you or your child insists on telling you you are doing wrong by your child.

Quite frankly I'd like to punch the effer. Good thing I ooze with luv.

 

[jestro]

pick her up after school ON HALLOWEEN and she says "guess what mommy, I've got a surprise for you!" Excited I say, "really? what is it?".......She puts her hand on her hip and says "I got RED today!"

Ok, that's pretty bad.
I'm only trying to say that you have a limited amount of special holidays...they are gone before you know it!

 

[habitualhealth]

Ok, that's pretty bad.
I'm only trying to say that you have a limited amount of special holidays...they are gone before you know it!

Don't worry, I promise I won't take away Christmas and her birthday party.

 

[stilleto]

Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?

i know your son has ADD (or adhd). one of mine has a mild case of it too. i think he's grown out of it, but school was always hard for him. i'm gonna sound like one of those commercials for those learning centers, but yelling and screaming didn't work. neither did punishment. i used to think it was just him being lazy but it was more than that. the most you can do is CONSTANTLY work with him and stay on top of everything. be in contact with his teacher as much as possible. Its going to feel like YOU'RE the one in school, and I don't doubt that you've probably said "who's in school here, me or you??" but its the only way you can assure than he does his work and tries, because without you - its easier just to goof off and let it go.
my other child, btw- i have never had to check her homework. its always done, she's always studied and she's upset if she doesn't get 100 on a test.

My other child, as you know, i didn't raise myself- he gets good grades most of the time without trying, but doesn't care if he fails a test. its frustrating because I know he could get straight A's if he tries, but he gets mostly A's with a few scattered C's and is happy with that.

 

[Sub-Zero]

wait till he gets to college, who knew how hard this shit was gunna be

 

[habitualhealth]

Ok, that's pretty bad.
I'm only trying to say that you have a limited amount of special holidays...they are gone before you know it!

and i'll take some GREEN k now.

 

[Gymgurl]

Im always nervous about conferences....

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Unfortunately, instruction is not centered around each child's needs, rather it is standardized for the entire population. Not everyone learns the same way. Not everyone's brain takes in and retains information the same way. I read an interesting book by Dr. Mel Levine called A Mind at a Time and it is very relevant to this topic. Also another book I read about a couple of Ivy League college students who suffered with Learning Disabilities and ADHD growing up, called Learning Outside the Lines. I'd suggest these books for anyone interested or anyone who is experiencing these types of things with their own children.

Very true.

BUT, a good (responsible) teacher will use a variety of modalities so that all children's learning styles are hit. Children with special needs should have a Individualized Education Plan that will help teachers with the particular child's needs.

Also, this is when leveled ability grouping comes into play also. My kindergarteners are split into groups of 5 based on ability and I meet with them daily to remediate or challenge that particular group in reading, phonics, or math.